Someone emailed me and told me I needed to " recreate myself from the ground up " as a cure for being raped and abused. I have never heard anything like that be4 and it sounds great. How do you do that in Gods power ? ((I always knew I would get something good if I kept asking questions on here.It makes sense becoz the effects of being abused seem to be a part of my identity. I always thought I needed to be magically changed. )))
2007-11-24 02:34:09 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I've had to rebuilt myself a couple times in my life
As far as in God's power I am not cannot give advice on that subject, not an expert.
Generally as far a rebuilding one self.
1: determine what our the key important things to you and what things that you have been told all your life or everyone expects of you that are really BS.
2: Determine what will make you truly happy, not usually money. Take yourself back to childhood before you understood what money meant and when you were happy were you alone, with friends, with family, with strangers?
What were you doing relaxing, working on a project, visiting someplace, staying at home.
3: Based off what is important to you and where you find happiness reinvent yourself with those things in mind.
2007-11-24 02:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Vultureman 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no magic to being an abuse victim. The number one thing that must be done is deal with it. It hurts like hell--but it happened and you can not make that go away. What you can do is deal with it--empower yourself to not let the past rule your future--and become stronger because of it. God does not want you to stay there with this albatross around your neck. Remember-dealing does not mean not thinking about it and pretending (or trying to pretend) that it did not happen. It did happen--and it is in your memory and can sneak up and grab your brain at the strangest times. If you deal with the horrors of this tragedy, then you will have power over those triggers that used to set off your anxiety about this. You do not need to recreate yourself. God created you just like He wanted you--and He will help you get through this, but you do not need to do this on your own. Get professional help, and stick with it--it may take years to get the upper hand over this--but you are worth all the time and effort it takes, and think how many people you may help along your journey in healing!
2007-11-24 02:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can happen, but it is not magic. You need to want it to make the change.
Actually you can't do it without some help from God but you still need to be ready.
It took me almost 45 years to get to that point but it does not need to take that long.
You could do it in a moment if you wanted to.
The real question is are you willing to let go of the victim role you have become so comfortable with? It had become such a central part of my identity, that I felt lost without it. Email if you want.
Love and blessings Don
2007-11-24 02:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As attractive as that sounds, I don't think recovering from rape and abuse is going to happen by magic, I think it is going to take hard and intentional work on your part.
But I also see a lot of strength in you and the desire to overcome what happened to you and not let it define you. And, too,from the things you've written, like this question, I have seen that you have a lot of hope inside you.
I understand that you want God's help in this, and that is wise, but it is also going to be essential that you get professional help for recovering from such serious crimes committed against you - perhaps from a Christian counselor who can help you with both the spiritual aspects of recovery as well as the emotional and physical aspects.
2007-11-24 09:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget that magic God encounter where the trumpets blow and the angels dance . It doesnt hapen that way . You dont need to reinvent yourself . You only need to make peace with who you are and accept yourself for that . As a victim of abuse myself (physical and mental from an alcoholic father), you often internalize things and blame yourself . It was never anyone elses fault but the abuser . There is nothing wrong with you .You have to let the pain go to get well.
2007-11-24 02:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by prole1984 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The Power of God has already recreated you. You just need to come to terms with that. Please read II Corinthians 5:17. Read it and accept it. Your past is who you were, your future is a new creation under God. Don't let terrible things that happened in your past cloud up the wonderful creation you are now.
2007-11-24 03:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Splinter 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A person that has been abused as a child must recognize one fact before healing can begin.
IT WASN"T YOUR FAULT.
You now have a choice of living life as a victim or as a conqueror.
Please do not choose the role of victim.
2007-11-24 02:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by drg5609 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I too was raped - brutally. That event was one of the catalysts that led me to search for what I believe. I can now look back and be thankful that it happened to me, and not to someone who would have reacted differently, say, by hurting themselves. Not that I'm glad it happened, but if it was going to...
Seek out those who will talk to you without judging. Read, child read - whatever you can get your hands on. Read until something makes you feel at home, then study on that to find if it's what is right for you.
And please, please e-mail me if you want to talk or ask questions. I'm open-minded, and would be happy to share specifics of what I did, though it may or may not be what you need.
May All That Is Bless You!
2007-11-24 02:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by Katie Short, Atheati Princess 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here's my opinion, as someone who was abused. The abuse is part of who you are. You can't get it out of you no matter how hard you try.
So the best thing to do is to accept it. Quit trying to force it out of you, stop trying to forget about it. Accept it as part of who you are. But the trick is to remember that it isn't everything that you are, either. Good luck.
2007-11-24 02:39:25 · answer #9 · answered by Marissa: Worker of Iniquity 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can never forget what happened to you but you can ask God to take away the pain of it. God can help you through it. I hope you will read and study His word and He will lighten the load of this abuse. Find someone to help who needs help if you are able to do it. It will make you feel better and them too. Take care of yourself. God loves you and will help you.
2007-11-24 03:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by Barbra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋