i am 24 yrs old and i stumbled across a guy in a internet chat room an year ago. We have been chatting on net since then. its been more than an year. and we got so intimate and close that at times we did have online sex chat as well.. now i think i am in love with his guy, madly. There would have been prob if it had only been this...i wud have gone ahead and married him. But the issue is, he is quite differnt from me...and we r exact opposites in everything. he is not financially stable, dont have a stable job, he is financially broke often. he slept around with many gals...he some 3 or 4 gal frens in the past etc...i was even ready to over look these things coz he was atleast honest with me and didnt hide anything...but the prob is with his job and financial position...coz i am quite opposite person in this...my career is of high importance to me and for me a comfortable life style and stable financial background matter a lot. i strongly feel we r not compatible in any of the issues.
2007-11-24 02:08:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know everything may seem hunky dory now..but once we get married these very issues may break our relatioship. i may overlook his job n financial aspects now...but later once i marry him, what if i end my myself in a mess and repent my decision. i am not worried that he is from differnt culture, community, race and creed but i feel a guy shud atleast be able to support his family well. but he doesnt belive in all this.. and he says thats how he likes his life to be...he dont belive in making big money, comfy life style, savings, financial and job stability etc, like me. and that is what is killing me..i love this guy so much and stillnot able to make up my mind on this. i dont know what to do. I do like him so much inspite of all his flaws and that what i am unable to understnd...why do i pine for him so much wen he has so many quintessential qulaties that i hate most in any guy!!! and if i love him really, why am i thinking on these lines of ending this...as they people who really
2007-11-24 02:15:41 · update #1
love someone will not consider these materialistic things!!! donno wats wrong with me!!!! i m not able end this relationship as well...i want him so much and very much would love to spend rest of my life with him...but at the same time dont want to mess up my future as well(career, finances etc) coz i feel we may end up fighting on these issues later on...
But i know for sure that he likes me so much but not sure if he loves me or have the same feelings like i have for him...but he understnads me so well like no one else..i know he likes very much but at the same time, he says i shud get married to a nice guy etc...that obviously means he dont have similar feelings...bbut if he doesnt, i donno y he cares so much for me and flirts so much and even loves to have virtual sex with me etc!!!
And also i wud like to add on that we never met each other in person..or spoke to each other...we only exchanged or pics and chat online regularly...I am trying hard to decide sumthing
2007-11-24 02:22:00 · update #2
but i am not able to...
i want him and also a stable life ...but seems like i have to choose one :(
and i am not able to do that...my parents want me to get married...and i keep evading that topic from them...dont think i wud be able to do that for long...donno wat to do
Pls advice me...if there is any way by wich i can get both things..and pls tell how i shud forget him, if u r advising me to forget him..i am sooooo addicted to him and love him sooo much that i am not able to chat normally with him without getting intimate...leave alone stoping chatting with him...
i am posting this question after trying for many months to forget and was invain..
2007-11-24 02:28:17 · update #3
i am not somone who is into this online stuff..i strongly belive in y morals n that wat is stopping me from meeting him or sharing my number with him...n he too never forced me to do so...n ws always honest...
I really never thot that it wud develop into a relationship so strong wen i startd chatting with him..
2007-11-24 02:32:37 · update #4
and coz of him, i cant even think of any other guy...leave alone marrying someone else...i feel committed to him, emotionally n physically...
If nothing else works...atleast i will end up remaining single rather than marrying someone else...or wish i suffer from partial amnesia and forget wats happening since one year!!!!!
Plssss advice me :(
2007-11-24 02:37:35 · update #5
not good for u forget the loser
2007-11-24 02:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by shaukat t 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, at 24 how nieve thou are... Just how many women do you think he is doing the same thing to? Listen I am not one of those Jesus freaks but you have to talk to someone about this and not us. You need eyeball to eyeball conversation and some religion. This guy is a velvet tonged bum.... I presume he is about your age? Why do you suppose he is not in a relationship of married right now? Because every single woman around him know what he is about and he is a bum. Sweetie, I have seen these guys come and go with poor young ladies like you and yes break your hearts... You need to get away from this guy and you need to to it ASAP because he s taking your life and putting it into shambles. You need a nice guy near you to share your feelings and touch you... Anyone cant make you feel good on the computer... Shucks even I could turn you on to the point you will change your mind about him (no brag... just fact) Please my dear break it off now before you cant, and you get with him find out he really is a bum (he admits it) and he make you support him. And then while you are at work he will be on here having sex with other girls... YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE HE IS DOING THIS WITH!!!!! Good luck and I truly wish you real love with a real person not a computer,,, Grant M in Pennsylvania PS God needs to bless you......
2007-11-24 02:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girllll, You need a smack not advice... I wont say money is the key answer to the problem but it does help solve many of the problems(mortgage,rent, utilities, etc) and by going into a relationship with ALL those problems is definately a WARNING SIGN. You are only 24- and you should know when someone is running GAME-plus over the internet? Move on and find yourself...Go buy those shoes, go back to school, STOP wishing this will work.....Go and enjoy LIFE because you are too young to start off on the wrong path........Peace
2007-11-24 02:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by dressycandles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be kidding. It sounds like you are idealizing the relationship. You have made something up in your head to seem a good idea when it really isn't. As women we tend to think with our hearts and not our heads. You know this one is wrong. If he's being honest then take that as a red flag as far as his financial stability goes and run in the opposite direction. Find someone that is right for you. In-Person not on line. This is a disaster waiting to happen.
2007-11-24 02:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by luxemomny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question just talk to him online and forget about the geting to know him face to face.It will never work so just spend time with him on the computer it's a lot better and if it don't work out you can delete his ***.
2007-11-24 02:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer I can hear it in the words you use. You just want to hear it from someone else. Dump him. Chat with me, I've got a great at job.
2007-11-24 02:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by SCOTT FREE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need him jus coz u dont have anyone else. u can continue relationship with him & take it to any level but be clear that he can not be ur life mate unless he learns to be financially self dependent and becomes committed to one gal i.e. you.
2007-11-24 02:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by Dis part of my life is Happiness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well......to be honestly i don't think that it would look out. you need to let him go if he already cheated on you that mean he didn't feel the same way about you. its a waste of time
2007-11-24 02:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by soutelzfinezt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
always listen to your gut feeling. heart never lies.
all the best.
2007-11-24 02:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by ms 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not recomended
2007-11-24 02:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋