ok, i have been seeing a girl for a few weeks now. she is the sweetest girl that i have ever met. she is smart and beautiful and pretty much. she comes from a tough family, she has been sexual abused by her step dad and brother. she has always been afraid and shy and stuff and she finally opened up to me and i could really see myself liking her. however the whole problem starts here. do i really know what i am getting myself into? for example. my brother just got back from being stationed in nc and leaves monday to head off to iraq. and she knew that but she still called me 21 times in a matter of 4 hours while i was at the movies with him.i know she doesnt mean any harm but would i be better off looking for somebody who is more secure? also, one night she got really drunk and i told myself i wanted to love her before we had sex, but she pretty much seduced me and ended up losing her verginity to me. this whole situation just sucks i dont know if i am doing good to this girl or bad?
2007-11-23 21:33:37 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she does. she has no where to go. her mom does not believe her. she refues to pay for therpy. i want to help this girl but i just dunno if i will be anygood or worse for her
2007-11-23 21:46:44 · update #1
just cause she was sexual abused doesnt mean she was ******. dont say stuff when you have no clue what your talking about. you have no clue what your talking about
2007-11-23 21:48:01 · update #2
As far as therapy goes, I agree that she needs it. If you feel that you will be able to stick around and be there for her, more power to you. I admire men that can do that. There should be resources for low-income people that want to get into therapy treatment. If her parents can't afford to pay for therapy that she needs to deal with the issues and the consequences of the sexual abuse that she has been subjected to, take her to the mental health department at the county hospital. Sounds like she has very low self esteem as a result of the abuse and other issues that came with it, such as abandonment issues, insecurities, etc.
2007-11-26 17:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this girl is messed up because she is looking for all the wrong things from you . I think she needs therapy for all the abuse she has suffered . Is she still in the same home that the step dad and brother are in ? If so why ? does she have a mom ? if not then you need to report this and get her some help and some therapy . I hope everything turns out alright . good luck and god bless.well if she is still in this house then you need to find out who to call so that this girl can be removed from that house and that mother can have her head examined cause there is something wrong with her mom . Talk to a trusted adult and see if they will call . good luck and god bless.
2007-11-23 21:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it that she lost her viginity to you after she was sexually abuse. I think she is messing with your head.
2007-11-23 21:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by naomib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋