I was on the phone with him earlier and I was talking to him and he was acting a little out of it so I asked him if he was intoxicated and he lied to me and said no. Eventually I got it out of him and he agreed to being intoxicated but said that he lied because he didn't want me to look down on him. Because I do tend to be disappointed and look down on him when he's intoxicated. Is it okay for him to lie to me? Could he be lying to me about anything else in our relationship?
And in case you're wondering I occasionally have a drink or two but I am very ambitious and I don't do it that much (just at social events, etc...).
2007-11-23 20:43:02 · 16 answers · asked by Nikki Hate You =] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's not ok to lie but he may be scared to lose you. when you do look down on him, he may feel like a loser. he may feel like you don't allow him to be a normal person.
2007-11-23 20:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling lies is not really good for a relationship. It is always good to be honest and be frank, if you have done wrong then tell the truth, the Bible is very clear about it John 8:31, "The Truth shall set us free"
Your boyfriend should realized that, so that your relationship will stay strong and possibly last long. It is not bad to drink ocassionally specially if our work calls for it. But just don't drink too much because drinking could drive us to some conflicts and problems.
The Bible is also very clear in saying that if you cannot be trusted in small things, how can you be trusted for a bigger things in the future. So if your boyfriend have lied to you, the possibility is that he could lie to you once more or even more times.
But there is also a saying that lets give some one another chance maybe beecause he could be sincere and honest of what he lied for and willing not to do it again. It will remain to be seen? How about one more chance for your boyfriend?
The question if he has lied you about anything in your relationship......my answer is , he could have lied to you
2007-11-24 04:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by EDRO 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never okay to be lied to. Especially about something so important.
If your boyfriend is constantly getting intoxicated, you might suggest him getting some help, like at an AA meeting.
And if he's lying about that, it's only natural for you to think that he's lying about other things.
To drink socially is one thing, but to actually get drunk when you drink is a whole 'nother level.
You might want to rethink this whole relationship altogether. It's obvious that the two of you are not on the same page.
2007-11-24 04:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's lying because he doesn't want to disappoint you. He doesn't want you to worry. He doesn't want you to be angry with him.
I don't think this necessarily reflects in any way on the status of your relationship as a whole. I don't see any reason to assume that he would be lying about anything else.
Also, sometimes guys are dumb and it's like a game for them to convince people that they aren't intoxicated when they actually are. Guys do it sometimes, and he doesn't want you to know because he doesn't want you to see that side of him yet. You should be fine. Just let him know that you need the truth no matter what it is from now on.
2007-11-24 04:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Been here before 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there may be trust issues here. If you already knew he was drunk, why ask him? No one likes to be belittled. It's not right to lie, don't get me wrong. But I truly think there is more going on here than just the fact he was a bit intoxicated. I understand the need for not liking his drinking, but you can't make someone stop doing something. I'd take a deeper look at your relationship.
2007-11-24 04:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by sexyredheadedtiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should loosen up a bit. He obviously cares about you because he cares about your opinion. If I were drunk and my girlfriend didn't like it I'd tell her to get used to it or move on, but that's just me. It sounds as if you've backed him into the corner a bit by feeling that he had to lie to you rather than letting him be him.
2007-11-24 04:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by alex l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't accept him for who and what he is and you talk down to him and make him fell like sh*it for being himself, then you need to move on and find someone you are happy with......if he's more than a social drinker and you aren't, then you're going to be sadly disappointed with him sooner or later....more likely sooner......and yes, if he's going to lie to you about something small like that then you need to ask yourself what else he has lied to you about, or will lie to you about.....although i'm sure alot of that one has to do with the fact that he knew how you would react....
2007-11-24 04:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by #1 bossman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean "intoxicated?" not like it matters, b/c he lied to you for a good reason. but on the other hand, relationships should have trust in them, and you obviously dont have that. i think you should move on if you have your doubts about him. good luck :)
2007-11-24 04:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by mcr_fanatic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soemtimes people can't kick a habit, example smoking or eatign junk food. You can't expect peole to change in a second. Why don't you just tell him to ease out of it? He must of lied to you because he knew it would hurt your feelings, but he couldn't help it.
2007-11-24 04:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by linhs2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many women marry drinkers. The drinkers make the woman look good by comparison. It allows her to avoid looking at her own flaws. Consistently, they divorce when the drinker sobers up. The great thing is, they will both deny this.
2007-11-24 05:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by Bob H 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋