I'm literally mad in love with this guy, he's in my thoughts everyday. He loved me once too, but I didn't love him the way he did. I was a young and stupid 16 year old girl, I really did like him but I wasn't in love with him. In one of our conversations I told him that I loved someone else. He said he'll always love me and that he's there if I need him.
Well, I love him now and I really want a chance with him...the problem is, he's been dead for 8 years on the 27th. I see him in my dreams and we look at each other not knowing what to do, then, I run to him and tell him to never let go. In another dream we were sitting on the beach and he said something that broke my heart. When he was alive he loved fishing, he loved the ocean and was on the ocean all summer long fishing. In my dream he told me that he can't go on the ocean anymore. I broke into tears because I know how much he loved the ocean. It's so real in my dreams that I think he's there on the other side waiting for me like he said, he’ll always be there if I needed him.
I refuse to love another man, am I crazy for this? I want to believe that when I die he’ll be there…what do I need to believe in so that he will be there?
2007-11-23 19:08:05 · 13 answers · asked by ? 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes you are crazy, but love does that to everyone.
At the moment you are likely feeling sad and guilty; and cannot believe he is gone. These are normal parts of the grieving process.
It is my belief that everyone of us is a little bit of God. So in a sense we are all the one person. As such he will be a part of you and those about you for all of your life.
When I was young and single I asked God for lots of help with my love life and I was presented with many marvelous opportunities, which I passed up due to foolish pride.
It is probhably the best thing at the moment for you to not jump into a new relationship. My suggestion is to give what you can to make others better happier people. In the process you will learn to make yourself happier.
When you have healed and grown you will find yourself unexpectedly growing closer to someone who can love you as you need to be loved. At that time you will truely appreciate that you are uniquely special for God and the world and you will be looking to help others when love sneaks upon you again.
2007-11-24 00:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by Graham P 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you believe the Bible, then you believe that this life is not an end of anything. There is a church that believes in family relationships (marriage included) for time and eternity. It is a hard thing that you propose to do, but this life is very short in the scope of things and what you hope to be, may yet happen. Have you prayed on this subject? If you believe that Heavenly Father would not put us on this earth in family units without the possibility that we could remain together after this life, then you need look no farther than lds.org. Families can be together forever. It is part of God's plan. "Else what shall they do which are baptized for the dead? if the dead rise not at all? why are they then baptized for the dead? and why stand we in jeopardy every hour?"
2007-11-24 03:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so sad. It only shows how difficult our modern lives have become.
The concept of love is so destructive, because we miss good relationships because we are after that elusive love. Then, once we thinkw e found it, it is always so disappointing, especially after a few years of living together and seeing each other's faults.
Yet, we cling to this strange concept, because we have no other options to find acceptance. Having destroyed all meaningful alternatives to romantic love, like extended families, neighborhoods, tribes, villages etc, we are stuck with this dangerous and harmful social construct called "romantic love" that makes us all miserable most of the time, and psychotically happy for brief periods!
So sad!
2007-11-24 14:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by professortvz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not crazy,the one I love has moved very far away but she will be back.But I have seen her in dreams and have talked to her but not much.I know how hard it can be...just enjoy the dreams while you can because as soon as you wake up there gone but will be back agian.As for the other I have no clue just don't kill yourself to find out.Thats all I have to say,wish I could help you more because I know how hard it can be,when she left it nearly made me cry but you might get over it just spend what time you can with him in your deams.
2007-11-24 03:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first love is always special, but you can't be doing this to yourself. You already wasted 8 years of your best years and time is running out. In another 8 years, you'll be really mad at yourself and full of regrets.
2007-11-24 03:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by Belzetot 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Though we do not believe the same, I think he wants you to be happy.
The thing is, you -can- truly love more then one person. Love is a wonderful umbrella thing you can share with everyone on different levels. You don't have to love one person and one person alone. That's almost impossible.
I think he'd want you to find someone who makes you happy. Even if you may not love that person to the same intensity you love this guy, if he makes you smile, what is so wrong with that?
Don't cut your life short and make yourself unhappy until you die. That's no way to live.
2007-11-24 03:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Umm as a Christian I believe in a thing called "soul ties" they can be good, and they can be bad, and I think this is a example of a bad one, being its keeping you from living life,geting married, being happy..
the way to break it to renounce him.. in the name of Christ which is easier said then done... basically asking God for freedom from him ( but first you need to be born again) which means to know the depth of your sinfullness*lying,stealing,lust and hate which are adultry and murder in Gods eyes and to then sincerly ask God for forgiveness and to trust in Jesus that he took your punishment which is hell for your sins, and following Christ which then you should be dandy...
sorry if this doesn't really make sense or seem relveant but it has done wonders for my life and others I know.
2007-11-24 03:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says weep with those that weep and laugh with those that laugh for there is a time for everything. Give your life over to God with continual love and reverence for God and Believe in your heart that Jesus is the Son of God and profess it with your mouth and God will truelly bless you and hope that if your love was a man of God you may get to see him one day in Heaven if you two were both believers in God the Father the Son and the Holy Spirit. I hope you would day in and out read Gods word and youll be comforted by what it has to offer. Gods love and mercy is a beautiful thing and only He can open someones heart and reveal to them His word. Hope you get to See him one day.
2007-11-24 03:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Carl F 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get help now? You need someone with a moral background to help you. Talk with your doctor and get a referral. I have lost 2 husbands to cancer in the past 2 years to cancer and I am not as mixed up as you sound.
2007-11-24 03:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by mesquiteskeetr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you build up this man in your head and your dreams as the "only one" for you and you make him perfect, without any flaws, then you are right, you will never find another man in real life who can measure up to those standards.
It is ultimately your choice. Do you want to live in a fantasy, or find a man who is real, faults and all, and work on real love?
(((AZ))))
2007-11-24 03:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋