i dont remember saying the things i may have said to hurt the one person i love and care about deeply. but i dont know what to do. he has avoided me all day and didnt even say goodnight to me as he usually does. i may have made an *** out of myself. any suggestions?
2007-11-23 18:57:46 · 26 answers · asked by Latoya B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask if you have said/done anything to hurt them, then apologise if you have.
2007-11-23 19:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by minimouse68 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Latoya,
I can tell you from a first hand perspective (I being in the person you told off's place) that they should be the ones to come around. This could be dependent on what exactly was said, and the magnitude of the situation, but all in all you were under the influence. Now, this is debatable, but I know that most of the things I've done/said whilst intoxicated were certainly NOT my true intentions. Alcohol can bring the ugliest out of people and even more so CREATE an alter ego of some sorts. I forgave my best friends mother who had just lost her child to a car accident after she became dangerously drunk one night and went so far as to nearly beating the crap out of my g/f, compiled by accusing me of never giving a **** about her son, amongst other things. If he can't come around, then the better question is this...does his feelings towards you mirror the depth of your for him? Good luck!
2007-11-24 03:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Apologize ASAP - and keep apologizing. if you have ever seen or heard his drinking/drunk stories, remind him. I suspect he is still hurt and angry.
Perhaps he has someone in his family that is an alcoholic and it scares him that you are one.
Talk to him. By the way, why did you get so drunk?
Don't let him mope around and mistreat you - nonverbal can be abusive and controlling. I think a day of avoidance etc is too long for him to be acting like that.
Unfortunately, and mostly we say the worse things to the people we love.
Maybe he thinks that you made a fool of him! - if so, he cares more about what others think of him than what you think. He should understand and be teasing about it, or helping you through your hangover, - unless, of course, that you do this regular
Are you sure that you want to spend any more time with a person who won't express himself. That expects you to read his mind? And this is at the 'dating' stage?
Unless you get drunk frequently, he should understand that you were drunk , not ignore you and act like a big baby.
2007-11-24 03:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anne 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you must except any and all negitive responces you get from those whom you have hurt. Even though you try as you must to get back on their good sides, they will always remember what you did, said and everything else that went with your drunken behavior. I know I've been there, done that.
The loved one you have hurt still loves you, he just does not like your behavior. It is time to start to look at "SELF" . Until you can do that then, nothing will change. He will always think you will always behave this way when you drink, and you cannot blame him. It will take time, but you must ask yourself this question : "Is he worth it?" The ball's in your court....what are you going to do with it now?
God Bless You
2007-11-24 03:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this happened to me. well i was on the receiving end of this waiting is never fun and just makes the person more upset. so say your sorry. you don't remember and that you will not drink as much and actually follow through. i almost lost my best friend to him acting like an *** while drunk. so just say your sorry and ask what you did. and correct it next time.
2007-11-24 03:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by This Kid 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest you control your drinking next time, and ask him what you said that made him upset. The truth may be that you didn't say anything at all to hurt his feelings. Instead maybe he was so turned off that you acted like a drunk fool that he's having trouble acting normal around you.
2007-11-24 03:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Frosty-pants 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you don't remember what you said, then how do you know you said anything at all?? Maybe he's upset at the fact that you drank yourself stupid and wants to teach you a lesson by telling you you said something you didn't. Time to ease up on the alcohol from now on - blackouts aren't a good sign sweetie.
2007-11-24 03:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by Flusterated 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you probably did make an *** out of yourself but just apologise and things should be ok. God knows how many of us have drunk too much and said silly ****. i know i have, i know the next person that answers has, and to be frank - probably everyone over 18 on this yahoo has too.
2007-11-24 03:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't go out drinking. If I make an a** out of myself, I want to be sober, so I can know how to backpeddle.
Maybe apologize and promise to not go out drinking anymore.. or at least, not to the point of being out of control.
Then stick to your promise and wait for the loved one to come around.
2007-11-24 03:03:08 · answer #9 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ahhh that good o'le damage control.
I heard that when you drink it only give you the courage to say what you always wanted to say.
a) stop drinking
b) stop talking while you drink
c) um i don't have a c.
but you know what im getting at right?
2007-11-24 03:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by ≈..Ω ♥p03° pink♥Ω..≈ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let them know that you are sorry if you said anything hurtful. And just watching your drinking around them. So that you dont do it again
2007-11-24 03:02:06 · answer #11 · answered by mrsmommashipp 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋