I'm scared i am going to KILL someone!! HELP!!!?

Question

I have a MAJORLLY bad temper and i have been dating my girlfriend for nearly 8 months now. I find myself acting out of violence when a guy or one of her friends say that they want to get with my girlfriend, one of her friends grabbed her A** and she told me about it the next day....I drove to his house and beat his A** with a crowbar i had in my trunk, i went to court and was put on probation for 6 months and had to pay hospital bills. Well, now the same guy keeps calling my girl's cell phone leaving unnessecary messages (i love you, break up with your boyfriend, i wanna screw you etc.) I have sit and though of going to his house and dragging him out into the road and beating him to death! And my temper will make me do this if i dont find another way to cope. Any advice on what i can do, I turned 18 last month and i REALLY dont want to go to jail....

Answer 1

if your girlfriend really likes you she should tell the other dude to quit calling her...or tell her to quit telling you about his calls...its really stupid to think about killing someone over a little message..you are either really insecure, really possessive, or just plain crazy...I agree with most of the above...you need to get some counseling...

Answer 2

Your temper and urges to hurt others is serious and is something you need to get treated. It might actually be best for you as well as your girlfriend if you stayed out of any relationships for awhile because it sounds like u may not have a lot of control over this problem. You are not alone. Talk to a doctor about options that will help you. If u don't work on improving your self control and how you react to life situations, you could end up making some choices that will affect you the rest of your life, as well as your family, and anyone else involved.
In the meantime, tell yourself to be strong and resist negative thoughts or behaviors. It can take a lot of strength to resist certain emotions but u can do it.
Good luck and don't give up.

Answer 3

I dont think it's a question IF you go to jail. It's WHEN. You are a sociopath, no doubt about it. I cant believe you got six months probation for assault with a deadly weapon. Make sure you find that lawyer again when you go down on the second offense. Might be a good idea to put him on retainer now, so you have someone to call when you flip out and kill somebody. Sorry. I'm not going to candy coat it. I was a prosecutor for seven years. I've put hundreds of guys like you behind bars. Where they belong. Your kind of anger doesnt go away. It just gets worse.

Answer 4

HEY HEY HEY
lets Not Go There ok!
i had a boyfriend who had a bad temper
too who actually has done kinda the things
so here ill give you a few steps:

p.s: if nothing works then don't even trip about it
because he wants to get as faraway as possible
so he can hit on her just keep remembering that

1DONT KILL HIM!

2 Tell The Police That He Is A Threat to you

3 Tell your girlfriend that you don't like the way hes talking to you or doing things

Answer 5

think, if your girlfriend really loves you,
she would never ditch you for him because
shes in this for you and you only
but if she does, then shes not the right one
think about it, if she screwed him once
but you guys are still together..
imagine your future together,
awkward much?
and how strange it would be if say you were
a married couple or a serious couple
if shes not the one for now,
shell never be the one
find someone thatll be with you all your life
and stay commited with you forever
if shes just gonna ditch you when shes 18sh
for a guy then OBVIOUSLY shes not the one
in your life, youll find that girl one day
and that girl will have unconditional love for you
and never leave you. not matter what circumstances
occur. you have to let some people go in life and
let others come in. now i really dont want to manipulate you,
but wouldnt you think allowing calls from this guy
is sort of like shes giving in to him? but i dont know.. you
make that up. NOT through violence, through peaceful
thinking. think about a calm, empty feild of flowers. think how
FOOLISH you look getting really angry then beating an invisible
person up in the feild. weird hey? so whenever you want to
show signs of violence, think about it on a ddifferent scale
that will make you look foolish.

Now, if your girlfriend isnt answering these calls or is
really trying to avoid his presence, you know shes in this for you
and wont give you up for some guy. dont stress over her leaving you
because she wont. if she can handle a steady relationship with you
while being distracted by that other guy, and she still stays with
you and show determination (for you), you know shes the one
and nothing will stop her from being with you
so you dont have to WORRY AT ALL. calm down, meditate (actually, light up candles and breath softly in a dim room,
totally relax and soon fall asleep peacefully), dont be so over protective!!!

Answer 6

Easy answer. Have your girlfriend go to the police department and file a restraining order against him. If she does not, you know she is deliberately playing you.

If someone touches someone else and they don't like it, they should have their butt kicked. But not like what you did.

You do need to work on your temper. As you get older, you will find, there are many ways you can get what you want, but using your brain rather than your muscle.

For instance, when your girlfriend has her butt grabbed, she should have had her parents speak to the other guys parents-that should still happen. If she is letting it happen and not doing anything to make it stop, she is telling you, she wants to play with everyone and would prefer plowing the French Army.

Answer 7

I think everyone that has said to go to a psychologist has given you very good advice. There are also anger management courses and groups that you can attend.

You also might want to consider being single for a while until you can get a hold of these angry emotions you are experiencing. Sitting and thinking of acts of violence especially with your history of violence are signs of a very deep problem that will continue to get worse. This WILL NOT go away on it's own.

Until you can get help with a therapist, there are a few things you can do to calm yourself down. First of all, the amygdala in the brain controls these angry emotions. It causes reaction to situations not rationalization to situations. It can take up to 10 seconds for emotional responses such as anger to get under control and for you to think rationally. That is why people say to count to 10 when you are angry. TRY THIS! Count to yourself, take a walk, and try some deep breathing. It will calm you down and give your brain time to register and begin to think rationally.

Please get help very soon. This is serious. Good luck!

PS--no one is worth going to jail over. Not some freak calling your girlfriend and not any girl.

Answer 8

You need to get anger management counselling. You can stop this now.

The fact that you haven't acted on this yet is a good sign. Go to your local library and have a look for books on coping with anger. THey might have some strategies for dealing with angry outbursts. And also try googling some websites.

You just need to learn a few strategies and practice them. You are the one that controls your temper, not the other way around :). Talk to your girlfriend. Good luck.

Answer 9

first of all, ain't no one worth going to jail for. What you are fighting about is your loss of ego/manhood as opposed to her loving you. She could have told those guys 'no' when it happened. But that being said, it seems that someone has hurt you terribly in the past and you have a trust problem. You react with violence, and remember this - NO ONE is worth killing to go to jail for! YOUR LIFE is valuable, far more than the person you plan to kill just for touching a GF butt. And if this guy has her phone number (how did THAT happen?), she's looking for a way out - dump her and move on - you don't need that kind of trash in your life!

Answer 10

Hi,

Hold your guns friend...you seem to be too steamed up to take anything sitting down. I can feel the frustration welling up in you but you yourself have confessed that you don't want to repeat the same mistake of going to jail again, and in any way is that going to solve your problem or worsen it? At your age, you will be possessive about your girlfriend, but pal, you have a long way to go....

First thing meet a good psychologist, secondly but most important, calm down, and and believe me, I'm not trying to be too corny on you, but have you spoke to your girlfriend about it? How is she taking it. If she feels hurt as much as you are, then talk it out, and find ways to neglect that guys advances either by not accepting his calls/ or messages, and of course if it he is acting too edgy...consider..(as a last resort...and God forbid you have to do it)..taking legal police help rather than beating him up and then getting caught by the police.....I don't know but there could be a softer way....have considered talking it out with this guy itself and straightening things out ...rather than letting things drag into worse situations.....All I can say is you need to cool down first..give both yourself a time, take a break away from the place and maybe things will settle for good...

God Bless and Love

Answer 11

You should take
anger management
or go see a therapist.
or a psychologist.
You might go to jail
for saying that you're
thinking about ''Dragging
him out into the road
and beating him
to death!''
You should
never expose things
like that on line.
Conflicts and Disputes
would of been a better way
of saying it.

PS: She doesn't love you
if she gave out her cell
phone number to another guy.
Why are you even fighting
for someone that doesn't
respect you? Don't even think
about beating on her too.
Just let her go her own way
with that other guy. There's
better girls out there.