Pretty girls?

Question

Are you a pretty girl and get told all the time how beautiful you are and how your skin looks so great..and ur hair and blah blah blah and how your body is so in shape and while most people would die to be anywhere near like you..on the inside you are a very depressed and sad person..and wish you could see or better yet just feel half of what others see in you? ??

But if u try and even tell someone your feeling this way they call you stupid ect and say you should be the happiest in the world your beautiful and skinny..as if thats all there is to life???

or am I the only one who does this??

My friends and family tell me it all the time and I think yeah ok yall have to tell me those things because they love me...and when guys say it i just think they want one thing..i wish I could just see and really believe what others say!

I try to talk too even my bestfriend about it and she gets all mad and acts like I am just wanting her to say over and over how skinny and pretty I am..but I am not!!!

Answer 1

yeah, this happens to me, my friends tell me i look great, my boyfriend says that im beautiful and so does my family, but sometimes i feel so ugly and i hate those ppl cuz i think theyre making fun of me

Answer 2

You are most definitely NOT the only person who does this. I know many girls feel this way at least once in their life. I know I have felt this way too.

I didn't confide in someone at first, so I bought myself a snazzy little journal and wrote down all of my feelings in one sitting so I can could vent them all out.

Then I re-read what I wrote a few days later. I read it days later and of course after I vented all of my feelings on paper so that way nothing would be missing when I re-read it. Writing and re-reading really helped me "organize" my thoughts and made me feel a little bit better.

I also made a list of all the things that I LIKED about myself. (This list included everything-->"I like my curly hair." or "I really like those red shoes I always wear!" or "I would probably have a crush on me if I was a boy") The whole point of this list is a few things:

1.) To avoid my flaws and to pay attention to everything I really like about myself.
2.) To be able to look back on the list whenever I want to "remind" myself what's so amazing about me.
3.) And I can add more to the list because it "never ends"!

Also, I have found that Yoga and the breathing exercises has helped me a lot. Yoga and the exercises that come with it help clear my mind and I become relaxed and less anxious about myself (plus it's a workout! lol). You can even try Pilates or an old 90's aerobics workout tape (those are always fun!). The point is to use Yoga to stop thinking about you anxieties in your life.

It would probably be a good idea to confide in someone you trust. What about your mom? Or your dad? A sister or a brother? Even a neighbor whom you trust. Or a teacher. Or your best friend's mom. I know from experience that trying to cope with your anxieties and depression by yourself will help, but confiding and actually TALKING to someone else will be the biggest help you can get.

If you feel like no one will listen to you or take you seriously about your problem, write a small note to your mom or whomever. Something along the lines of "Hey Mom. I've been feeling really sad lately, and no one seems to take me seriously enough to ask what's wrong. Can we talk about it? Love, Sarah."
By giving your mom or whomever a note, it will show them that you have tried to talk but no one will listen because they don't believe you. It works with me and my mom.

I hope everything works out for you!

Answer 3

I feel so wierd answering this question!!! But the truth is yes. I get compliments almost everywhere I go from random people. My whole life i've been told I have a perfect face... that I always look put together and so forth. But when I look in the mirror I see someone completely different. When I do try talking to people about this they tend to not understand... and the last thing I want is for someone to think i'm fishing for compliments.

Answer 4

Depression can hit anyone, at any age. You need to stop thinking about your self and worries so. Try making a difference to someone who might need a friend. There are lonely girls that you just might discover they are nice to be friends with. Do you just hang around with the in crowd? Have you ever looked at others that are not as pretty, and see them sitting alone? Have you tried helping someone that is elderly or living alone? Start looking at people that are disabled, aslo and would like a friend. Reach out to someone who needs a loving hand.

Answer 5

holy crap! this is so weird cuz my name is lisa too and i'm kinda in the same situation but i've learned to embrace myself and finally listen to all the nice things that ppl say to me ^_^ i get compliments many times like wow you should be a model and used to always respond with naw, what are you talking about u know? like my body for instance- i'm tall and slender ( about 97 lbs) and ppl would comment saying you're so skinny! i'd respond saying i hate being skinny tho ( which is absolutely true) but now i have learned to say thank you with a big bright smile ^_^! for once i actually feel truly beautiful because i have finally found the beauty within myself and feel comfortable in my own skin.
i hope you can too!

Answer 6

everyone has esteem issues at some point in their life. i feel that a beautiful person is beautiful on the inside as well as the outside. your question makes me have doubts about you, because of you don't believe in yourself, how could you expect me(or anyone else) to?

Answer 7

I used to be like that. but I didn't have people tell me that I was pretty. I was so convinced that I was hidious that i wanted to get plastic surgery. no joke. Then one day I just decided to grow up and I decided not really to care about the flaws. Everyday I would look IN the mirror and force myself to find 3 things I liked about myself. Then after I started having a good attitute about how I looked people started complimenting me more. You just have to find the positive in yourself.

Answer 8

ya i know what u feel like..its a common problem among all the girls..ur beautiful coz u r not satisfied with what u see and make constant efforts to improve ur looks...but will this beauty last?? its goin to fade out one day or the other...what will last is ur deeds and achievements..there are soo many beautiful women in the fashion industry but its only the likes like kate moss, naomi campbell, katrina, etc who are remembered not coz they look good but coz they have achieved so much in life so stop worrying.

Answer 9

I would have to say on behalf of those of us who are "aesthetically challenged" that it is difficult to understand why beautiful people doubt themselves. Many of us would give almost anything to be like those we admire.

For those who have physical perfection to question themselves is hard for the rest of us to comprehend. Regardless of outward appearance, everyone goes through times of self doubt, questioning themselves, and being critical.

True beauty comes from within, and is evident in how we improve/touch the lives of those around us. Try to focus on those types of things, and not so much on the face staring back at you from the mirror.

Answer 10

I'm not skinny nor fat..I'm beautiful and have beautiful features....

But no one notices and when i ask my friends they fall all over my beauty...which i like..lol

But i have no problem w. looks, i have problems with my talents..I've been told i'm a good singer and at one point i belived it withh alllll of my heart...and now its gone..and exactly what u said happens...I tell them i can't sing..and the deny and call me stupid and horrible for saying that....One time they said i didn't even know the reall me...

But i'm not depressed...i just wish i believed in myself a lil more..