Am I getting played? Should I still see her? What should I do???

Question

For the past month i've been seeing this girl. Were together about 3 times a week. The first time we hung out we ended up having sex. She told me that you don't need to be in love to have sex, I agreed, but this was only the first time. After a couple a weeks, we ended up hanging out alot and we would do the same things couples would do. For example, constent kissing, holding hands, always wanted to be with eacother, sex etc. After all this time i've been with her i started to get feelings for her, but i've never told her. The other day I found out that she also been seeing this other guy, I don't know exactly what she been doing with him, but I have a strong feeling she's doing something. I also heard from another friend that she might have had a one night stand with this other guy. I asked her if she see's other guys but she denies it. I can't really get mad or say anything because were not officially dating. Should I stop seeing her? Am i getting played? What should I do?

Answer 1

Well first of all, if you guys had sex that quickly and she's seeing another guy, she's more than likely not seeing you because she wants a relationship with you.Its probably more of a physical attraction. Im not sure how old you are exactly but it kinda seems to me she's just exploring and she's wanting her freedom to have fun. If you really like this girl I would quit seeing her because the more you get attached to her the more she is going to hurt you by what she's doing. And if you decide to get with her and have a relationship I cant see the relationship lasting very long. Dont hurt yourself over one girl. There are plenty of us out there. Im 16 and I know its definetly not worth putting urself through all that.

Answer 2

Honestly, it sounds like this girl has been around the block a time or two... especially if she slept with you the first time you hung out. Sex doesn't have to be about love, but it should be about some kind of attraction or commitment. I would say that if she slept with you so easlily, it's very likely that she is sleeping with others just as easily. Since you're not officially dating, she's not cheating... but she's also not being honest with you, which you do deserve if you are being in a physical relationship with her. Since you've already asked her, and she probably lied, I'd move on. You haven't lost anything yet, so the best thing to do is leave before you get too emotionally attached. No sex can be so good that you would let her lie to you and sleep with other men, right?

Answer 3

Its time to call the ball. Irregardless of all your statements to the contrary, you are involved, very much so from the sound of things. You just have to make it official. The whole friends-with-benefits thing seems all dandy and all, but you have evolved to where you want more...thats a good thing. For the time, you must not worry about what comes out of it, but you need to seriously sit down with this girl and discuss things. You need to find out where she really stands. Does you and she see a future for the two of you together? If you don't, then I suggest you end things before they get any worse and you start getting hurt. She will not like this conversation or where its leads one bit, but it needs to be done. Do that before you worry about other guys and your girl.

Better get an STD test too.

Answer 4

It depends on what you want out of her.

If you want a long-term relationship, based off of what you wrote, I won't trust more her than i trust a crackhead to house sit for a whole week.

If you don't want a long-term relationship or anything serious, then relax! Enjoy the ride! Enjoy the sex! And why don't you see other people? If she says anything, bring up everything she told you against her. Tell her that you have never made a commitment to her and its obvious that she hasn't done the same for you!

Sooner or later, better game will come along....

Drunken Master
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Answer 5

Exactly what you said sweetie , you are not officially dating , I mean if you were dating it would be a big deal ! But you are not so ! But if you are still having sex with her etc. STOP ! I would defiantly stop that ..just tell her you don't want to be played for a fool and just for sex etc. ! Let her know how you feel and let her know either you want to be with me or you just want to mess around and if she responds by wanting to mess around then yes leave her. Good luck sweetie ! Hope this helps you ~

Answer 6

Sorry, but you already know the answer to your own question... Yes, you should stop seeing her... and Yes you are being played or should I say your emotions are being toyed with... You really dont want to continue this because it can scare you for life and make it difficult for a girl that really likes you (in the future) to get close to you...

Answer 7

Yeah you should stop seeing her, I was in a situation just as you explaind earlier this year and it din't turn out as I wished keep in mind that you did sleep with her on the first date

Answer 8

dude. your getting played.she told you that you dont have to be in love to have sex. right! she is playing the field and keeping you on the side.if you know what i mean. go talk with her and find out where you stand. then you will know what to do. thats all the help i can do for you.... good luck!

Answer 9

she's doing you and everyone else she can get into her.....you should be able to see this one a mile away....if for no other reason than her initial comment about not being in love to have sex....that should have been a red flag that she'll sleep with whoever she pleases whenever she pleases

Answer 10

Sounds really suspicious, especially if she hasn't even hinted that she wants to commit. If you have feelings for her, be up front with her and then go from there. If she doesn't want to be together, leave.