so, I've met her and we adore each other. Now when we are all together, he holds back and let's me and her spend time together. he goes about doing his thing while her and I talk and play (she's 6). She's starting to ask to spend the night with me or to have dad drop her off at my house so she can be with me - he doesn't allow this because he has her part time and wants to be with her as much as he can. Is it possible he's letting us bond because he has deep feelings for me and/or he's thinking very long term on this relationship? She's at the point now everytime she's at dad's she wants to call me and wants me to come over. Tonight at dinner she asked her dad if I could spend the night - we both said no to that. I don't want to read too much into all of this, but I'm in love with him and of course I want things to work out. Your thoughts/opinions are welcome.
2007-11-23 15:37:19 · 6 answers · asked by Charleight 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The joys of dating, see i to wanted to make sure that things was going well with my b/f. Before he met my daughter, and he called me old fashion (which was fine) but i hadn't been dating him long and i wanted to get to knew him a lot better.
After a while they met, and then he broke the relationship off because he felt we were moving to fast. But when i pointed out "AND" thats why i didn't want him to meet her so soon. Long story short after a few days we were back together and in no time he had me meet his daughter!!!!
I'll never forget the first day i met her, first words out of her mouth so are you going to be my new mom? When are you getting married?......lol
The look on both of our faces, must have been priceless (we both didn't know where to look or what to say).
We have been together 3 years in all now, and have been happy married for a year. With men you just never know, he just might be thinking long term and i wish you all the best.
And it's a great sign that she enjoy's you so much, as you enjoy her too (thats a big plus) that's his little girl.
2007-11-23 15:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Porcelain Doll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 6 and she likes you a lot. You probably give her a lot of attention, being her dad's girlfriend and she likes it, which is why she is trying to get your attention and wanting you around. He obviously is trusting you enough with this, to let her explore her bond with you. It sounds like you guys are moving in the right direction and just keep taking it as you have been, no need to rush into things.
2007-11-23 15:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course he needs to be cautious because a child's feelings are involved. Think about it -- if you guys broke up, you would be breaking with him AND his daughter. And, that's tough - very tough - on a child. It is good that you have proceeded slowly and that you are being patient and exercising good judgment. Remember -- you are involved with two people here. And, if you get married one day, you will be marrying into a pre-existing family. Which can be beautiful. Just keep your heart and mind open. Good luck.
2007-11-23 15:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....it's sweet of him to introduce you to his daughter, so he get points for that alone, from me anyway. Usually men don't do that until they are sure that they want you to be around for a period of time, because they don't want their daughters seeing them with a carousel of women coming in and out of her life.
I think that he is displaying signs of a deep admiration and respect for you. Racking up points and bonding with his daughter is a good thing and you sound like you are really good with her. Not only that, but she seems to like you as well and that will inspire her father to keep you around for a while. Men like women who they know would be good role models and future step parents to their kids, who doesn't actually? Best wishes!
2007-11-23 15:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think letting you meet his daughter is a big step for them
losing another friend like figure to a child in such a young age can be detrimental to a child.
2007-11-23 15:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by drewhack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very nice. I won't bother doing anything he doesn't approve of, but it would seem that he may be thinking long term.
That is sweet what you and her have!
2007-11-23 15:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by triath91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋