I basically did anything to remove him, deleted his number, cut contact, deleted/trashed photos from facebook and all photos, and deleted him from my friends list. Then I get a message saying why are you so immature from him? He caused me a lot of pain and being reminded it of it everyday does not seem fair to me. So was i honestly immature?
2007-11-23 15:32:56 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Call me old fashioned, but i like my breakups to as painful as they are memorable.
2007-11-23 15:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by why not 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm in the same boat. I just asked a similar question. I know what you mean about wanting to get rid of the reminders. It just hurts too much to have your ex around you at every turn.
I don't think it's wrong to delete his information and take him off your contact lists. Trashing photos might be too much, but I've come close myself. Is it immature? God I hope not. I'm 50 years old!
2007-11-23 15:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by Chris C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being immature. You actually are doing something to better your life. Dealing with an Ex can cause a lot more pain. You are better off deleting him from your life completely. He is the immature one for saying you are being immature when you are making an adult decision.
2007-11-23 15:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you are hurt. you wanna move on. instinctly you do that by throwing away all stuff that remind you of him especially photographs. i dont think you are immature. that bugger who told you that is a loser. im guessing you just have not experienced broken heart situation before. or you did but this affects you more than the one before. i think you just need sometime away from all of your problems. try spending time with close friends who care about you and stand for you in whatever situation you are. it may be hard to believe but time really heals or at least make your heart feels lighter and better. so again youre not immature.
2007-11-23 15:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lovedrug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get to choose who you want in your life.
If you share a child, you will have certain contact obligations, but if not, you're free to do what you want. Don't let him guilt you into anything, but just ask yourself if you honestly want him in your life. It sounds like you didn't, and I suspect still shouldn't. What's to be gained by bringing him back in?
There's a certain feeling of freedom when you just totally cut the strings to something or someone that has been a problem for you. Stand by your ground, I think you'll be happier. Otherwise you're letting him run your life.
2007-11-23 15:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by T J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think so,we all grieve differently and we all need to get over things in our own way. I used to have alot of internet friends, one day they hurt me so much I deleted all of them out of my life for good, no more 360, no more chatting, all gone.........I figured if I was this stressed over it, I did not need that in my life and I did not need the constant reminders of it. I have not been happier since. Do I think I over reacted a bit, probably but now that the dust has settled I realize it was the best thing I have ever done for myself. It was not easy to let go but the freedom is amazing! Yes internet friends can hurt you, drama and gossip is hurtful no matter where/how it happens.
2007-11-23 15:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by CelticFairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you might of been a little immature. You should of taken this in a whole different direction. The way to get over a guy isnt to forget him because truelly your never gonna forget him . You need to forgive him and move on knowing that you two were not ment to be.
2007-11-23 15:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by babymija2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! i had to deal with that too. Only we had a locker in the same hall, shared friends, and swam together on the same team. It was miserable. You have every right to want to remove him from your life... i tried but didn't succeed. its really hard to achieve your goal if you guys go to the same school. I don't think its immature, you just don't want to feel like **** when you see or hear him.
2007-11-23 15:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by rawrrgoesthelion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not immature. If he hurt you, he cant expect for you to act like nothing happened. Cutting him out of your life completely can help you heal. So don't listen to him and keep ignoring everything he says. He will only try to make you feel guilty for what he did to you.
2007-11-23 15:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by vruiz16 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're fine. You are purging yourself of negative feelings so that he will not have any control over that part of you (your emotions.)
I remember the last time I spoke to my ex-husband. It was back in 2000. We divorced in '98, but I was having a hard time letting go. It took everything in me, but I deleted his only # on my phone, and the last time he called, I gave him no alternative but to not call me. It's been liberating.
Just remember, you are doing everything you are doing for YOU. You have to think of yourself. In the end, that's all you'll have. There's a book called, "Wherever I go, there I am." It's excellent about living in the moment. Look it up. It brought solace to me.
Good luck Woman!
2007-11-23 15:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by Windy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly I dont think u were being immature about it. The way u handled it was just ur way of moving on, trying to get ur life back. Not immature....All different ppl handle their problems differently u handled it by trying to forget about him....thats totally noraml and fine!
2007-11-23 15:37:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋