So heres the deal, i've been dating this guy for a month now and the relationship hasn't gone anywhere. i mean we've kissed... once. and he talks to me at school. he calls me maybe once every other week. he isn't really comfortable around me. i'm his first girlfriend, but the thing is... he's my 5th boyfriend. i'm ready to move forward and it doesn't seem like he is. we text sometimes... and hang out maybe once a week. and i like him still, but i feel like this is a waste of my time. should i break up with him?
2007-11-23 14:20:33 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we're in eighth grade...
2007-11-23 14:45:44 · update #1
What grade are you in? You might be expecting more than what guys your age really want or even know how to give.
Before you dump him, why not ask him if he would mind stepping it up a little because you need more attention than that.
If he can't or won't, then you got your answer. Relationships are all about communication. And even though we would like guys to do things because they want to, well, lets just say it probably isn't gonna happen like that! Tell him what he needs to do and if he doesn't deliver, then move on!
2007-11-23 14:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe since you're his first girlfriend is kind of shy and doesn't really know what to do. If you really like him then give him some time and tell him how you feel, give him some time after that and see if anything new happens if he doesn't change or agree with getting things going then it's time to move on, he might only like you as a friend.
2007-11-23 14:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Gurl there is no relationship there. That is a total waste of time. Leave his sorry behind right now. He dont call you, y'all barely hang out, y'all barely kiss you, and he feels super uncomfortable around you. You deserve better and not that trailer park trash. But I think he just acts that way because you're his first girlfriend. What grade y'all in? Because depending on that he might be ugly. What's stoping you to break up with him? I know you aint sprung after nothin he put you through and I know you aint got no feelins for him after one kiss. Collect yourself and get his things together and tell him to move to the left.
2007-11-23 14:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Considering that you're his first girlfriend, I'm willing to bet that he's just shy and is really nervous about trying not to say or do the wrong thing around you. Let him know that there's no reason for him to be shy or nervous around you. And maybe you should try making a move on him. Just try to talk to him and if it still isnt going anywhere, then you should consider leaving him.
2007-11-23 14:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by The 8th Deadly Sin 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, it's only been a month. Where do you want it to go.? If you really like him, give him time since you are his first girlfriend. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. See what he is feeling and go from there.
2007-11-23 14:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by wonderwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like this is a waste of time, then it is. break up with him or tell him that this isn't working up and that he needs to be more dedicated. a little advice, if you want a long-lasting relationship with someone, you and he need to both feel comfortable with eachother. otherwise, it is a total waste of time and you'll go nowhere. if you REALLY care about him, try to work it out by talking about how you feel and developing a comfortable presence with eachother, like friends. that's the best way to go. :)
good luck, i hope it is worth it.
~Steeney Maldini
2007-11-23 14:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm probably younger then you. ok so i AM younger then you. but i had a problem like this just i was on the opposite end. i was the one with it being awkward. and i ended up dumping HIM. so i think you should either dump him and find a more experienced guy or maybe just let him know you want to move farther. and see wut he says. if he feels weird then you should le thim find someone at HIS level of experience so they can sort things out themselves and u do the same. i hope i helped =]
2007-11-23 14:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by kate_lohse11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make him feel more comfortable around you. Do you call him? Maybe hes shy and is nervous to call.
Maybe you could get him to open up a little more amd giv'em a chance.
2007-11-23 14:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think my opinion he's wasting your time, but maybe im wrong but at your point of view he needs to leave you deserve someone better than him and when you get that better man he'll spend every minute with you.
Hope I helped
-Best of wishes
2007-11-23 14:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by Chickaa! (: 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time, he'll come along...
When people have their first relationship, they don't know what to do, cause it's soo new to them...
If it's really bothering you, tell him, soo he would know what to do to fix it...
And, not everybody's good with relationships, obviously he isn't, and hasn't had experience with how it works tho...
I hoped I helped
Good Luck!
2007-11-23 14:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by TempoBronze124 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋