he feels that he will ruin the relasionship because he's to shy. i keep telling him he could never, but he really is extremly shy. i like him alot...and he likes me alot. i just dont see why he could be shy with me. i just dont know what to do. should i just give him time?
any tips on making him calm down?
2007-11-23 13:07:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea give him time
make nim feel confident....my bf is kinda shy but it took time and once he trusted me he opeaned up
just give it time and let him know that your there fro him and your ok with him being shy and that youll wait for him
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-11-23 13:10:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - where were you when I was growing up shy. I would have felt like that too at the time. If he is like I was he is probably a sensitive person who had his self esteem badly damaged in school. He probably loves you, but is worried that his shyness will (despite his best efforts) lead to painfull situations and failures that he doesnt want to drag you down into (because he really is a nice person and he cares about you). For example people can be very cruel to shy people and he would be worried about what might happen when you are out as a couple. He might also be worried that he will have trouble as a bread winner. It stinks in a way - sensitive people have wonderfull qualities of caring and honesty, but their gently nature leaves them open to victimisation. If I am right this could be a very painfull area for him, hard to discuss, yet if you were able to communicate to him that you understand the difficulties he has, and that you will stick by him, it could be the path to happyness for you both. Perhaps you could have a heart to heart, and really get down to the nitty gritty.
2007-11-23 21:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by pete the pirate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't put any pressure on him. Be very carefree and bubbly around him. Joke alot to get him to loosen up. If he doesn't after a while then you might need to talk to him about it. Ask him why he is so shy with you! Make sure that he understands that you really do like him and want him to just be himself around you. Tell him to loosen up a little!
2007-11-23 21:14:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him on Myspace or through e-mail so that you guys get to know each other better!
I started talking to this guy on myspace and when we met we were both really shy, but we talked on myspace all week and when we met again we were a lot less shy around each other!
I hope this helps!!!
2007-11-23 21:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE!! im in the same situation w/ the opposite sex!! i feel you like 100%... im givin it time.. imean she was at the SUPER SHY Moment, then at the hey but still shy moment, now were at the WHoa!! but shy moment and itll get better i hope. i freakin love this girl! but shes shy.. hey hey hey.. maybe some alcohol will loosen him up a little.... if you guys are of legal age.
2007-11-23 21:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gradually raise his confidence. Sounds to me like your his first girlfriend and he doesn't want to screw it up. Show him that your proud that he's your boyfriend by saying so to your friends when he's around. This will make him even more shy at that moment but it'll gradually make him have confidence. Oh and wear one of his big shirts so it kinda looks like a night gown on you. I don't know why but seeing your girl in your clothes really makes us guys feel good about ourselves. It reassures us that you are our girlfriend.
2007-11-23 21:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him fell more comfortable around you and laugh alot at what he says if that doesnt work talk to him straight up. if you think hes too shy and wont change, dump him. you dont want a guy who seems afraid to be with you
good luck!
2007-11-23 21:12:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to make someone feel closer to you is to reveal some sensitive things about yourself so that they see you trust them with your inner thoughts and dreams. Try telling him something about your feelings and see what happens.
2007-11-23 21:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One, give him time and two, don't pressure him. If you bug him it could just make him even more shy!!
2007-11-23 21:10:23 · answer #9 · answered by pagey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him and laugh at his joke even tho their lame and make him feel comfortable with you and before u know it his shy will be gone trust me on that one
2007-11-23 21:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋