i am dating this guy that i really really like
and he treats me like a princess and i just
love being around him. the only problem is
that my best friend hates him. we have dated
before and last time we broke up, it was
really bad and she was the person who was
comforting me through all of the problems.
he has changed so much since then and i
want to prove to her that he is worth my time.
she won't give him a chance or the time of day.
what do i do?? i love my friend but i also
love my bf.
2007-11-23 12:36:19 · 11 answers · asked by kayla 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, let us start with you and your guy. There is no romance that is trouble-free and without issues.If the two of you can work through those issues and the romance is worth saving then that is good news indeed.And when the partner with the problem is working on their issue, then that is double good news.As for your best female friend,thank her for being such a good friend when you needed her the most.That is the reason why we have best freiends and also the meaning of best friends.Make her understand that no love affair is without problems that may cause a lot of pain( like what happened to you and your man)but when they can be resolved, you must take the chance and the opportunity and that breaking up is not the only solution each time couples fight.That you understand she may not like your boyfriend or want you to make up with him, but that you love him and feel that things will be a hundred percent better now.That all you ask is for her to continue to remain your best friend and to support you the way you will if she ever needed you. If she refuses, she may not be the best friend you thought she was, or may have control issues, or may even have feelings for him and wants to see you two break up to open the door for her, or is jealous of your joy and thinks you will no longer depend on her like you did when she had to comfort you, or maybe she likes you as a lover(you never know).Whatever happens between you and her,I wish you and your boyfriend all the best and much future joy.
2007-11-23 13:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you care for your friend you need to know that happiness comes from what you make it. If he has truly changed and he is treating you better than that is all that should matter. Your friend may think he is playin a game and will do the same thing he did before. All I can say is watch for any signs from before and take it from there. Also you might want to talk to your friend and let her know how you feel about him. Reassure her you are fine and you appreciate all she has done for you.
2007-11-23 20:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your friend seen you suffer because of this guy ans she looks at him from a different point of view than you do. She thinks that he might be nice to you for a while and then hurt you again. But if you are sure that this guy has changed try and talk to your friend and tell her how much you care about what she thinks and if she really loves you she has to stand by you and be next to you wherever happens. Good luck!
2007-11-23 20:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does a leopard change it's spots Hmmmm "NO"
So to expect your g/f to accept him again after last time is expecting way too much.
What is it that has you back again together?
I hope it's not that you feel that rejected and making up to feel good.
Coz it sounds to me that your g/f has the right to ignore considering what occurred think about it,coz she prob won't be there for you this time if goes wrong.. good luck â¥
2007-11-23 20:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like while you guys were broken up there may have been some hank panky going on. the only reason she would get that langry is because she had a thing for him.
2007-11-23 20:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Laura B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hoes before bros! I'm just kidding but I know that whatever I say will be the same as everyone else but maybe figure out why she doesn't like him and try to clarify...
2007-11-23 20:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bottom line is she is not dating your boyfriend so let her know that. there is a line to cross. if you are making decissions based on what your friends want then there are self esteem issues to contend with
good luck
2007-11-23 20:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your friend that people change and she needs to give him another chance like you have.
2007-11-23 20:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is truly your friend she should respect your decision and stand by you..
2007-11-23 20:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do what ur doing, eventually shell understand.
2007-11-23 20:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋