I've been talking to a guy for a few months and ive told him about my dating experiences. I mentioned to him that ive dated 2 black guys...and then he said more like stated, that i must have wanted them as my bfs because i slept with them. I didnt sleep with both of them. Just one. My question is...is a guy disrespecting me when he states this..or am i just too senstive. wheres he trying to get with this?
2007-11-23 12:26:39 · 6 answers · asked by *Cali Sweetie* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's latin..as am I
2007-11-23 12:37:15 · update #1
he's insecure about it.... trust me this happened to me many many times. Black men are known to be well endowed and talented lovers..... so some guys that are insecure in their abilities are threatened by this.... he's scared that he wont be able to satisfy you.
I'm not sure if he knows he's disrespecting you, he's just being defensive, and you're not being too sensitive....
I got really offended when one of my ex's(Luke) reacted the same way, because I never saw my first (Jim) as black, I just saw him as this man that I had loved dearly, but to Luke Jim was not a person, Jim was just a threat to Luke's manhood.
2007-11-23 12:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by Bubbles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was calling you desperate because you can't get a guy to stay with you so you will sleep with them to keep them around.
This is how I understood that uncalled for statement. I'm not saying you're desperate or that I think you are, I'm sure you're not but I am positive that is exactly what that douche was saying. If he's an online friend then ditch him because if its been months and still nothing, neither of you are really intersted in going further. That's a good thing.
2007-11-23 20:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is a bit of a bad statement, and he shouldn't of said it, (and it's kind of a stupid question, weren't they both your boyfriends allready) (if not, he might not think highly of you)
but it could be a bit of jealousy maybe........
2007-11-23 20:32:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm first of all if its someone online i wouldn't bother with it. if it wasn't then i would say something to him.
2007-11-23 20:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by hodgesgirl357 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him that question.
2007-11-23 20:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by Firebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe to see where you stand on sex...i really dont know.
2007-11-23 20:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by txlady24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋