Have many friends that want me to explore the challenge of being unfaithful. My close friends say that I know whats the right thing to do, DON'T DO IT. But my wife just left to the Sonoma area for the weekend. Did I miss or am I missing anything in being unfaithful? I am feeling weak.
2007-11-23 11:41:49 · 44 answers · asked by Ace of Spades 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't know why I put a question mark after the wife part.
2007-11-23 11:43:00 · update #1
Thanks for all your answers. I should know better. I'm a total jackass for even dwelling on that thought, thanks brothers and sisters and those who just care without any religious beliefs. thanks all for that swift kick in the uranus.
2007-11-23 12:33:32 · update #2
Sure you're missing the thrill of doing something that is very wrong. That will last 1/2 hour or hour and that will be followed by days, weeks, months or years of feeling guilty compounded by probably destruction of your marriage when you wife finds out.
Yeah, you're missing a lot.
2007-11-23 11:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by William D 5 · 9⤊ 1⤋
The next time you want to visit porn sites make sure your wife is in the room with you. Tell your wife that you've going on line and she should be with your when you "use" these other women. See if your wife does not think that this is CHEATING ! It is cheating because you are bringing another person into your marriage! (and for purely sexual reasons! ) You are immature and juvenile........and a CHEATER ! Since you were trying to hide all this from your wife you are also a LIAR! I would seek a divorce also. You're a piece of crap that does not deserve the wife you have. And you're mad that your wife did not stand up and defend you? What are you? Like 6 years old? Is there some reason she's supposed to defend cheating, lying and a whiny, sniveling little boy?
2016-04-05 05:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My, I think I would hang with your close friends as they are giving you much wisdom..."you know the right thing to do, DON'T DO IT." If I were your friend, I would tell you the same.
I am an older woman and I have lived long enough to see "weakness" destroy, many lives. If you think about all the what if's it is enough to raise the hair on your head! Truly! What if you contracted a STD and gave it to your wife? There are so many scenarios I could mention but, I think you are aware of them, as you seem to be an intelligent man.
You are not the only human to have this struggle! Many do and have. I think it must be part of the temptation or, a number of reasons. However, no reason is adequate for breaking the vows, you promised before God, to your spouse.
In that you are feeling weak, and I appreciate your honesty, I will be praying for God's strength for you to overcome these temptations. Stay with your BEST friends, who support, "the right thing" and this will make it easier!
Peace and Blessings,
Gail
2007-11-23 12:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is not a challenge to be unfaithful, the challenge is to remain faithful. You know what is right, you are just hoping someone will give you an excuse.
When you are married you should never do anything without your spouse that you wouldn't do if they were standing right there. So imagine your wife standing next to you and think what you would do. You probably wouldn't even risk asking the question.
2007-11-23 11:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Thrice Blessed 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The question mark is always there on Y/A...you did not put it there. Yes, you are missing something....the grass always looks greener on the other side! But, I can tell you...that once you get to that other grass....it is NOT better! You will just have more problems. Even if you did not marry the perfect person...God is the author of marriage...and He can change hearts and make things work out that you never thought possible. ( I sometimes have to remind myself of that so you are not alone.) I will pray for you to be strong and stay faithful to your wife. Here is a Bible promise that you can claim when you are weak....
"My grace is sufficient for thee; for my strength is made perfect in weakness." 2 Corinthians 12:9 God keeps His promises....He cannot lie. (Titus 1:2)
† On-call Prayer Warrior †
2007-11-25 13:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by bethy4jesus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not missing out on anything by being unfaithful to your wife. The people you refer to as your friends who are wanting you to explore this are not your friends. A true friend does not advise you to do something that would ruin your life. You really need to surround yourself with people who really care about your happiness, people who believe that you should stay true to your wife no matter what kind of temptations you are faced with. I will be praying that the Lord give you the strength you need, and wisdom to know what a true friend is.
Lovingly,
Virginia
2007-11-24 01:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself pure...with your wife. I was on the other end of that. It would have been easier to accept death that betrayal. Then there can't really be trust again. And I have known people at work who did a lot of "bed hopping". They were never happy, even the single ones were unhappy. Only true happiness comes with your relationship with Jesus. And with this, you will remain pure. Looking at the physical end, what if you get AIDS ? And there are worse spiritual consequences.
I will be praying for you. That you resist temptation, and that you will be happy and faithful in marriage.
†Prayer Warrior At Your Request†
2007-11-24 05:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by electroprayer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friends sound like pigs. With friends like that, you won't need enemies.
Don't be unfaithful to your wife. It would really hurt her, and probably would hurt you, too. It could even ruin your relationship with her. That is, if you value your relationship with her.
You are not missing out on anything by choosing to remain faithful to your wife. You're actually doing yourself a favor, and probably saving yourself a ton of money--most women will divorce their husband for being unfaithful.
It sounds to me like your "friends" are not respectful of the fact that you're married, or they may not like your wife. Whichever the reason, don't let them ruin your marriage.
Good luck.
2007-11-23 12:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What have your friends got to do with it!!
Did you ask them if you should get married?
(I had a friend do that)
If you love and respect your wife, this is a no brainer.
One of your friends is hot for your wife and is trying to cause some trouble so he can take a shot at her.
(Another friend's wife found out about his cheating and later came on to me)
You need to get some balls and tell your friends where to get off
2007-11-23 11:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Y/A put the question mark there, because it's supposed to be a question!
I would say that if you are in any way uncomfortable about it, don't do it. Instead think of how your wife would feel if she found out, how much that would hurt her. She may even feel she never wants to be with you again. Willing to risk that? Willing to hurt her?
BTW, this question has nothing to do with religion or the bible. You don't need a quote from the bible or threats that you will go to hell--you just need to use your own common sense to think this through.
2007-11-23 11:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by Petrushka's Ghost 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋