Im miserable with my boyfriend, we've been going out for 4 months now but we've been out before. We also used to be really tight friends but lately hes become really distant. I didn't see him for a whole month and we barely talked once a week. He also didn't show any affection, like holding my hand or kissing me. I started to get really miserable and tried to end it but he sweet talked me back into it and said he would never hurt me again, but another weeks passed and ive only seen him once and hes never spoke to me on msn or text. So tonight i texted him a long text apoligising and saying that I can't be in this relationship anymore. Did I do the right thing?
2007-11-23 11:34:56 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just want to point out hat I tried to break up with him to his face and I stayed with him. I wanted a way that ment I had the ability to be strong to do it, and it wasn't a harsh or blunt text it came from my heart I may be miserable but i still love him.
2007-11-23 12:00:35 · update #1
If you ask me, he really was never your boyfriend. The text msg was closure you...it's good to get closure in one way or another.
2007-11-23 11:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by tanzer360 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not a horrible person, a horrible decision.
But nothing you can do about that part now. What you can do now is call him. Tell him you want to talk to him tomorrow in person and schedule a time and place. Plan what you are going to say: like why you broke up iwth him, that you still wish you could be the close friends you were, and that you are sorry but you just don't want to be a couple anymore. Even though the job is done, it was harsh to do it over texting and make sure you straighten it out face to face.
Stay Strong ♥
2007-11-23 11:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely did the right thing breaking up with him. But it wasn't right breaking up with him texting. It is pretty lame. What I would do is go up to him next time you see him and tell him why. If you were in that relationship for such a long time, and didn't talk to him, then you could have waited a little longer to break up with him. You are okay in this situation. He probably isn't very fond of you anymore. But you will be happier since you aren't stuck in that relationship. Unless you feel guilty about breaking up with him by a text.
2007-11-23 11:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by Distance Runner 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no. YOU wanted to break up so you DON'T let him sweet talk you into taking him back.
I don't understand why the female gender has so much trouble getting this through our over moused and hairsprayed heads!! JEEZE!
now that the rant is out of the way I'll be nice.
It was wrong to break up with him over text, because now he has an even better way to sweet talk you. "honey, I'm sorry for anything I've done, please don't leave" plus, he may try and do this "I think the text was just you in a rage, you didn't really mean it"
Next time you see him, if he trys that, cut in and end it.
Even if you where kind of cruel in the way you broke up, I'm glad you have enough brains to break up with him.
2007-11-23 11:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by A Reading Girl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i can't judge you and say that you are a "horrible" person. that's not my place: only God's and yours.
HOWEVER, what you did was incredibly immature and disrespectful. Irrespective of the nature of your relationship, or when or how things went badly, you have a responsibility to talk to him directly about the breakup. If he wants to avoid you by not seeing you, then let him behave in that manner. You should not resort to that behavior. Sending a text message indicates, quite honestly, that either you do not respect/care for him, or that you are afraid.
Either way, you do not come off appearing as any "better" than him..
2007-11-23 11:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by docj 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did the right thing in a wrong way!
You should have at least called him, better yet done it personally.
It's good that you wrote something that was long and apologizing, but it always shows better character if you do it face to face!
And oh yeah it was good that you got out of the relationship!
Also make sure that you stay away from him and find yourself someone who truly deserves you!
2007-11-23 11:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you didn't do anything wrong. The two of you were not close. I mean, nobody likes being dumped but the text wouldnt make it any worst-dont feel guilty, most girls would have stayed in the bad relationship, bcuz they would be too scared to hurt his feelings, but good job you did what was best for you-he'll be okay.
2007-11-23 11:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by andi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes. there's no worth in a relationship if you don't get anything out of it. it's not being selfish, it's being real. even if he did care about you, he didn't care enough to show it to you. and because he almost lost you once, he should know what the consequences of his actions would be.
as for texting him, that was a good idea. he wasn't there to sweet talk you back, and you could take your time writing out what you wanted. i would go see him in person again, before just completley breaking it off with him, just for the sake of a final close to the relationship
2007-11-23 11:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, there's a rule that you never, never, NEVER break-up over text or over the phone! Never!
(Because for one thing, he could misunderstand your text message)
Always break up face-to-face with the person you're breaking up with.
But then again, seeing how he treated you...
He probably deserved that! It's still better though to talk face to face.
2007-11-23 11:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by ohhcharm 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What is this world coming to when we break up with people with a text . Does anyone actually talk anymore!
2007-11-23 11:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋