My girl & I split after 1-1/2 years (Long D relationship). We decided neither person was moving, & we both knew something had to change. She wanted to keep in touch, I said no, I need to go on & get over you. Well a week later I sent an email saying "was thinking, if you DO wanna call sometime, feel free. Would love to get our hands on each other if we are single in the future" (we were each other BEST lovers. NO DOUBTING IT.). Well I get a "cash in request" in email on my "sex" offer a WEEK later. But the email was "sexually" descriptive. No "miss U" or anything like that. I waited a week, & replied, and she called me IMMEDIETLY. I waited almost a week to return the call (teasing her) & said I was too busy (honestly, I wasnt over her, & was thinking WAY future, not 2 weeks after the split)! So I finally say "no". Too soon, and too many complications. Do you think it was really just "sex", or that she was using that as an indirect way to see me again? Or is it JUST sex (no word since)?
2007-11-23 11:15:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One thing to add. I did decide to email her 2 days after saying no. I thought "screw it". and said "Lets just meet half way, get a room, just rip the sheets apart".. Well, I get a reply the next morning saying "Im gonna have to pass, Im dating someone. Thanks though"... That was FIVE DAYS after she was calling me a few times a day (Im not answering) in response to me entertaining the idea, but saying I was too busy. Well inbetween thosw 5 days, she probably read my myspace, as several comments popped up insinuating I was sleeping with other girls. So I wonder if that may have been a "hurt me back" thing if she really gave a damn in the first place.. How does a girl go from calling your phone 3 times in two days, to dating another guy exclusivly & blowing your acknowledment off 5 days later if there wasnt SOMETHING that shifted her gears?... Seems fishy... I miss her, but it is WAY too soon for me to have a "booty call" with her (go figure, a Maxium models wants sex, & I say no. Jesus!)
2007-11-23 11:25:38 · update #1
She was certainly keen to see you, but you did the right thing. You'd only be prolonging the pain if it turned out she didn't want to get back together.
I've been split with my ex now for three weeks and I still wish I had him in bed next to me, but thats just physical desire not emotional. We all have urges, and it's just the easiest thing to call your ex and jump into bed together because they are so familiar. But inevitably, for one it's just scratching an itch, while the other thinks the relationship is back on. Recipe for disaster.
You did the right thing, I would be inclined to think she was just after a bit of fun.
2007-11-23 11:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by cara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I went through the same thing!! I broke up with my boyfriend, and he decided that he still wanted sex, so we did it. About a week after our last booty call he was with some other girl. I think, that the whole booty call thing is just the other persons way of holding on. They don't wanna let go of something that they had for so long. Its not just sex... its something more... but its not enough. Trust me, you did the right thing.
2016-04-05 05:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would appear to be just for sex. I notice there is no mention of making love? Move on delete phone numbers and e mail addresses.
2007-11-23 11:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You emotional queer. It is completely normal to have comfort sex with past relationships, you have to be a man and just keep it sex, none of this i still love you ****. Take that as a fallback whenever you have a stiffy you cant get rid of. Hello?
2007-11-23 11:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by th_effect 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think is that you two are so atractive to one another that you two can't keep your hands off of each other...which is not a bad thing. Well talk to her and tell her how you feel....I dont think she really wants sex..I think she just missed you and she likes you alot..
2007-11-23 11:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sex will be the main focus. But I am sure she still cares.
It is hard for a woman that can find a woman that rocks your world. But when we do it i hard to walk away.
2007-11-23 11:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to say... if it's just sex, then go for it
but if it's not sex but another way to get back with you, then tell her too bad you jsut want sex =)
2007-11-23 11:24:45 · answer #7 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say.
Us women are very confusing. lol
I'd say that it sounds like she misses you, and knows that men really enjoy and need sex.
2007-11-23 11:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by calgontakemeaway2008 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea, thats all she wanted was sex. if she didnt say "i miss you and im thinking abt you" in any of the e-mails, thats telling you she is horny and all she wants is sex. sorry :-(
2007-11-23 11:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by txlady24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she juast wants sex, she just wants you there for when shes lonely and needs to have pleasure.
2007-11-23 11:19:53 · answer #10 · answered by Manda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋