I am going on a second date tonight with this guy. The first date we just did a little lunch at a cheap place and he paid for me even though i offered. Well we are going to dinner and a movie tonight. I am still in college about to graduate this year and he is out of school and has a good job. Should I let him pay for both things? Should I try to offer money? What would you do??
2007-11-23 11:11:12 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He obviously wants to take you out,so maybe you can offer to put some money in ,if not then just accept it with thanks..♥
2007-11-23 11:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you must be feeling. It took me a long time to get used to men paying to entertain me and buying me gifts. It's part of the courting and mating rituals that people experience. In the animal kingdom there are mating rituals between the sexes. Male birds do a dance to impress the females displaying their colorful plumage. Male lions fight for the right to be with the lioness. Bucks and rams butt horns and antlers for the right to mate with the females. Each species has mating rituals and for humans, the man paying is an age old custom that fits in the realm of that category. Relax. You deserve to be wined, dined, gifted and pleased. If on occasion you want to reciprocate by paying or making dinner or some other special treat for a special guy, then by all means do so. Still understand the man has a role in the mating ritual and so do you. It should help you decide which man is worthy of your time and your heart. It's as simple as that. I eventually accepted that fact and now, I'm completely comfortable with it. You can be too. Trust. ;-)
2007-11-23 19:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're hoping to make this a lasting relationship, here's a great chance to work on your communication.
Simply ask him, would you like to split the cost on our date?.
Or any question along those lines.
It's an awkward topic, so it would be great if you can be open about it, especially if you plan on more dates.
And if you can't help financially, he needs to know.
Might as well make the date as comfortable as possible.
Beats sitting and worrying about who is gonna pay the bill.
You both will probably be more relaxed with that obstacle out of the way.
Have fun
2007-11-23 19:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Rik S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend,
If it is a date, the guy always pays. The only time you should be offering to pay is when you two are involved in a relationship, and you take turns on who is paying this time. Do keep one very important thing in mind, regardless whether he is paying make sure that you do keep enough money with you just in case he turns around and says "I thought you were buying today". Also do make it clear that you are not one of those girls that pay up, once they are Wined and Dined. Good Luck
2007-11-23 19:17:15 · answer #4 · answered by Simbha 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ok well tell him you are more then happy to pay for yourself if he says ok then you are stuck paying for yourself but it is only resonable to offer to pay. I think you should always offer to pay otherwise it makes you seem stuck up. it depends onn how u think about it but if I offer and a guy lets me pay I don't make plans to ever see him again. I mean I don't date for money but if hes got 2 know how 2 treat me.
2007-11-23 19:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by Bevi J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd always offer to pay . Well i would pay for one thing , and let him pay for the other , that way he won't think that he's the only one that has to pay . And it'll make you look good too , that you payed or offered .
2007-11-23 19:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on who made the plans. If he invited you out, he should pay. If you invited him out, you should pay. If he pays, you can at least offer to pay the tip at dinner or buy popcorn at the movies.
2007-11-23 19:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by Micah H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel like you have to pay for anything?
Let a man be a man. If wants to pay let him pay. You already stated he has a good job. You are showing him that don't you trust in him to handle his business. It is only the second date.
2007-11-23 19:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dear howdoiknow1985:
All the little "girly-girls" will say:
Let the man pay!
Even mature women are "cheap"!
What happened to "Equality"~
which women constantly speak of?
:-) soft smile!
Do NOT ask!
Just PAY The TIP~ YOURSELF!
He will be impressed with you~
& you will feel "GOOD" about yourself!
Enjoy Your Dates!
Have FUN!
Be REAL!
2007-11-23 19:23:30 · answer #9 · answered by LedHead 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy pays it's basically saying he is superior to you. Most girls are fine admitting this because it means you get something for free.
Here's a simple test: If you think men are better than women, let him pay. If you think the sexes are equal, pay for your half.
2007-11-23 19:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by Joey 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would try to at least offer money and if he still wont let you try to ask him again and say pay half each but if he still insist then thank him for that and say you appreciate it but i know youll be shy..itll be fine if you really like the person and he likes you too--then just try to make up next time and let him know thats its on you /or your paying it next time--goodluck honey!!
2007-11-23 19:17:00 · answer #11 · answered by miss j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋