My son is 19 mos old now and is throwing fits. If i do not allow him to have or do something he wants he throws things or just screems......... i try time - outs but, i've been told he's way to young so..... now what???
2007-11-23 11:05:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You need to be proactive. I think a schedule is REALLY important at this age. My son has one and we try to follow it very closely. When we don't, tantrums follow. Usually, with my son tantrums are caused by the lack of a nap or a late snack or meal. When you use a schedule, kids know what is coming next. They usually like to predict what is about to happen.
He is NOT too young for Time Outs. My son (and his daycare) starts them at 18 months. You need to make sure you are consistent with the proceedure and if you say, "if you don't stop that, I'm going to put you in time out" and he doesn't stop (although you need to remove him from the situation), you need to follow through on what you say or he will see you as a liar. Just keep up the TOs, but don't hold him in TO. That is just giving him attention for his bad behavior. I put my son in a chair in the middle of the kitchen floor, set the timer, and "ignore" him (although I make sure he is safe out of the corner of my eye).
If my son throws a tantrum, I step over him, tell him, "let me know when you are done with that" and go into another room. Don't give the tantrums any attention or you are rewarding for the behavior.
Good luck and best wishes.
2007-11-23 13:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, join the club - my daughter is 3 and is still doing it!!! Apparently, although this hasn't worked for us, you are supposed to place them somewhere safe and walk away! Ignore the bad behaviour and praise the good. All very well for experts to say this but they aren't getting the superior glares from everyone in the supermarket or trying to have a quiet moment after a day at work! The good news is that by the time they go to school, they are quite nice.
2007-11-23 19:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give him any attention negative or positive. That's what he wants - he figure he will get your goat if you won't give him what he wants. When my son was two he threw a tantrum in the store on the middle of the floor. I just kept slowly walking and looking at things. People looked at me like I as crazy...I didn't care. My son thought I was leaving him he got right up and started running after me. After a couple of those fits - I ignored them. That was it. Time out never worked in our house. My kids were ready to do the time - it was worth it to them, but not to be ignored.
2007-11-23 19:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not too young for time out. Two minutes is fine. Or invest in a child gate, put it in the doorway of his room, when he throws a tantrum put him in his room and go find a pair of headphones. The tantrums are to get you to give in and give him what he wants...
2007-11-23 20:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to everyone so don't feel like your alone. Just keep telling him no and talk to him eye level and explain why he can't get his way. I know it is frustrating at time but consistency will help you in the long run. Best of Luck
2007-11-23 19:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by Military Mama due 03/09 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
every child is different, but the best way we control fits is to ignore our child, she loves to lay down in the floor and scream and kick and we just walk away from her, as long as she does not have an audience to entertain she stops, but mostly just be consistent, that teaches that you will not tolerate the fits!
good luck
2007-11-23 19:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by clyde0523 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're just going to have to be consistent with him. He'll soon realize that throwing a fit doesn't get him what he wants.
2007-11-23 19:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to draw his attention away from what he wants by suggesting something more suitable for the situation. Keep talking about the object as if it were better. Hope it helps and good luck!
2007-11-23 19:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer H 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Be firm and consistent with the time-outs? He'll catch on soon enough.
2007-11-23 19:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him what he wants. You have so far, so why stop now?
Fits are also called manipulation, if he can throw a fir he can do time out.
2007-11-23 19:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by tysdad62271 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋