Sex before marriage.?

Question

I'm 13. I am too young to be thinking about sex, i know. i'm not planning on having sex anytime soon.
But, when i'm in my older teens, and when i'm not married, i already know i will probably lost my virginity.
But, i want too, but dont want to because i know God doesn't approve of this.
can someone tell me something to convince me that i shouldnt have sex before marriage?
tell me your opinions on sex before marriage.

T.M.

Answer 1

I can't make your decisions for you, but I do hope that you will keep your virginity until you are married. Not only does God strongly not approve of this (as you know) the people you care about (true friends and family) also dissaprove I'm sure. I don't think you went up to your parents and told them about this right? Think about that girls parents. She is someone's daughter and sister. What if that were your sister? What if your sister had a boyfriend that went ahead and did that with her. How would you feel? Can you even imagine?

Now I will talk about why you should wait until marriage. There are SO many reasons but here is a list.
*it is a TERRIBLE sin and (i'm not trying to scare you) but you will go to hell if you don't confess your sin before you die
*God and you know this is wrong
*think about it, your guardian angel is right next to you, would you want your angel right next to you when you do something bad like that?
*what if your girlfriend got pregnant?
*what if you gave her a disease?
*could you handle a child?
*are you willing to drop out of school to raise a child?
*do you have enough money or a good enough job to pay for a kid?
*do you want to be remembered as the party animal when you look back at your high school years?
*do you want to have to look your future wife and children in the eyes and tell them you messed up in high school?
*could you face God or your family or the girl's family and tell them what you did?

Now, think about your future. What about your future wife? If you go ahead and have your 'fun' you will already have lost your virginity and it won't be as special. Save it for you wife, because she is the woman you will spend the rest of your life with. She is the one that you will want to give that special gift too. If you make the wrong decision, you will regret it for the rest of your life. That person that you did that with in high school or college or whenever, will always have a piece of your heart that you will never get back. Save it all for your future wife, and you will both be very happy. You will probably find a wife easier also, because women normally prefer men who haven't messed around with other people earlier. The point of this special gift is to be meant for a husband and wife and to also make children. Those would both not be aspects if you weren't married.

Just remember, pleasure is only potential, but true happiness lasts forever.

Answer 2

Where did you learn that sex before marriage is bad?

How do you know God doesn't approve?

When you get older you may learn life is a lot more complicated than it first seems. Rules you think are true may have been created by people in power to influence and shape how you think. People like to tell others what is right and what is wrong.

From a biological point of view sex is natural and healthy.

If you want to supress your urges until you find the right person that is fine. If you want to have sex before marriage that is also fine.

The main point is be smart about it, use protection, and make sure you are having sex with someone you care about.

Answer 3

Sex or the real name Lust, is satan`s way of decieving man and hurting man so he will abandon God.
God made man. Saw that man needed a help mate. God made woman from man`s rib. He was to teach her about God, provide for her and love her and she was to help him, love him and be there so he would not be lonely.
Sex was like a bonus. Because they were to be together as one, God made sex to be enjoyed by the man and wife together to make their relationship stronger.
To take it out of the context of marriage, devalues it.
Usually with unmarried sex, the partners grow close, but after awhile, they grow apart. Their way of thinking changes, they mature, want more from life and soon after all that, they break up. Move on to the next partner. Have sex, and it starts all over again. After awhile they have nothing in common with each other except the sex.
One or the other ends up feeling used. There are emotional issues also. Your heart is broken, you feel like it is the end of the world. You begin to re think your existance and the pain is there instead of happiness and peace that God intended.

Answer 4

okay sex before marriage for me at least is a big deal. but then everyone makes it sound good. i think if your willing to keep it until your 20 then ur willing to keep it for that one special girl. ya you might think u wont know what to do with your wife but it comes naturally. and plus depending what type of girl you want to marry...some girls dont approve of a guy whos lost his virginity. but then again your a guy its eitehr than a for a girl so if you do have sex make sure you have LOTS of it...and have fun.

Answer 5

well it's best to wait until your married to have sex but if you do have sex before marriage it don't make you a bad person. some people just choose to wait until marriage which can be hard at times. you might feel better to have waited to have sex until your married.

Answer 6

focus on the here and now, ot about the future. if your ready youll know it but if you really want to wait till your married then just think about what you would tell your wife if she was a virgin and your not on your wedding night. and you a have to remember talso that it will be more special if you wait till your married not only for you but for her because she will know that you waited for HER

Answer 7

Keep yourself for that one special girl that u marry! You'll marry her cause you love her more than anything! so wouldn't you want to give her the best?!?! Don't have sex before you get married!!!! Save it for your 1 true love.(after you marry her)

Answer 8

hey! Just think about the concequence you could end up having : TELLING UR PARENTS IF U END UP GETTING THE GIRL PREGNATE, STDS EEEWWW, REPONSIBILITY FOR A KID, HAVING TO FACE THE GIRLS DAD, GETTING INTROUBLE WITH THE LAW IF YOUR OVER 18 AND SHES NOT .just think of whole bunch of concequences and when your ready like you love the girl , you want a kid, you cheak to c if eather of you have stds. just be safe and remember: NO GLOVE NO LOVE!!!!! :)

Answer 9

You'll die if you have sex before marriage. Just focus on school, you'll cross that bridge when you come to it.