Ok well i love the guy im with now even though we have only been dating for about 2 months i dont want to be with anyone but him all the time! i melt in his arms and i hate it so much when we fight but hes getting me a huge ring for christmas and i dont no what to get me but his step mom already told me what ring it was and its an engadgment ring and im only 16 but i really wouldnt mind being with him for the rest of my life but i dont think my parents would like it what should i do!
2007-11-23 10:26:20 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are not ready to get engaged (and it doesn't sound like you are) and he does ask you to marry him when he offers you the ring, be honest with him. Tell him that while you can see yourself with him for a very long time, you are just not yet old enough to make that decision now, and that you two need to spend more time getting to know each other (two months isn't long enough). If he loves you truly, he may be hurt, but he will understand and give you the time you need. If he doesn't, then you are better off without him.
Just "not minding being with him for the rest of your life" is not enough to make a marriage work.
2007-11-23 10:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is too young.You really need to get more life experience before you can settle down with someone for LIFE.I know you're in love and it doesn't mean break up,it just means to say you can have a, "promise to be there for you" ring but wait until you're at least out of school to get actually married.I really wish you all the best and he sounds like a sweet guy for getting you a ring just don't rush things! I hope all goes well:)
2007-11-23 18:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by superstar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you REALLY are in love. Im 16 and i'm telling you that because I don't want you to think i'm just another parent giving you the same advice. But you're young, and marriage can wait. Maybe a long engagement is the answer because rushing into marriage isn't the answer. How old is your boyfriend? Because you two can really test how well you are with eachother by seeing how willing you are to both wait. He should still support you and your education. Your parents will most likely NOT like this at all, unless they see that your boyfriend realizes what is most important which is YOU, and everything that you need to do to be successful (SCHOOL).
Just think things through and discuss this with your parents the more you talk to them the more they'll feel like they are a part of this. And maybe your boyfriend should think about discussing this with your parents...drop the hint to his step-mom that you'd like him to ask your parents for your hand in marriage. Most important is you. You're young so think it through.....sorry this is so long lol!!! Good luck!
2007-11-23 18:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, so my boyfriend and i have been together a little over 2 months as well and weve told each other we love each other but its not in love with each other, its not healthy to only be with one person like that, Heidi and Spencer on the Hills?? If your 16 the chance youve met the one is hard to imagine. how old is he? you might need to slow things down..if his step mom todl you its an engagement ring then the engagment wont really be a suprise so thats kidna odd too but you should talk to your parents some about this before he proposes or you say yes or anything drastic
2007-11-23 18:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by shakeyomammajamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I married my ex-husband after 4 months together.. you are in the part of been in love, is not the same as love....strong love.. you are just a young lady that has many things to do before getting married and have kids... it is all you want in life? If he loves you , let him prove it.. do not rush.. take your time.. When I got married.. I left my ex-husband 3 months after that.. took me 3 years to get a divorce. I'm in Costa Rica... and the law it is like that.
Thank God I did not have any kids.. do not get impress for an engagement ring... you have plenty time to receive this one, or a better one.. when you are more mature and ready to take more responsibilities..
2007-11-23 21:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for what you feel, 16 is a very young age and you still are at that age where you can meet new ppl, I'm not saying leave him, but do think of your future and tell him your not ready (if that is how you feel) You don't want to regret it later in life. Plus, how old is this guy? Does he have a house and a job already or is he going to take you to live with his parents? If he is taking you with the parents he is clearly not ready himself.
2007-11-23 18:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by spring 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about your parents worry about you, its your relationship. Engagement ring doesnt mean you have to get married right away. You can set a date for 4 years from now when you are 20. Good luck!
2007-11-23 18:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down. 16 is WAY too young to *think* about marriage, honey. And after only 2 months? I know that as far as you're concerned this is the best thing that you've ever experienced and you're madly in love, but you're setting yourself up for major heartbreak. I'm not saying you should break up with him, but I am saying that if you don't give yourself the chance to experience life you will regret it.
2007-11-23 18:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by GreySkies 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i agree with everyone else. 16 is too young to be worrying about marrage and be that commited to someone. at least wait to get out of hs. you have your whole future ahead of you, collage, the rest of hs. just tell him that you're not ready for that kind of commitment just yet. you never know, maby once out of hs you'll still have the same feelings for him and that would be a better time for the engagement. good luck.
2007-11-23 18:33:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know now, that is what you feel, but in a few years you might change your mind. Enjoy your youth, because you'll have long enough to be married, when you get older.
2007-11-23 18:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋