Parents of teenagers only...?

Question

Hi. I am 13 years old and 80 percent of the time treat my parents like trash. I tell them to go away, their embarasing me, or just am not very nice. Do parents (you) take it hard or get over it and realize we are just being normal teens.... thanks.

Answer 1

Hi, my daughter, Michelle, is 13 and treats me just the same as you are treating your parents. I am a lone parent and try to do my best for all my children (I have four). I've dedicated my life to looking after my children, so i find it very hurtful when my Michelle, shouts at me and says she hates me because I asked her to pick her school jacket up. This is when parents have to be very mature and remember that the teenage years will pass and our teens will one day be our loving daughts/sons again.
It still hurts right now though. It was mature of you to ask this question so well done, you sound like you are growing up and are going to make your parents proud of you :)

Answer 2

Well, its very hurtful to hear your kid tell you those things. Parents do get upset, don't think we don't. No one can hurt us like you (our kids). While we understand that the ages of 12 through 18 are the hardest on you guys, we went though it too, its hard to endure the crap that we have to take. You went from being this sweet little person who thought the world of us to a moody stranger who only wants us for our money and likes to put us down because we're old and don't know anything because "things have changed".

I try to get advice, and some sympathy, from my mother on how to deal with the crap from my teenage daughter, my mother just laughs and laughs. I guess its payback for what we did to our parents.

So, to answer you question, yes, we know its normal, but it can be very hurtful. We, as parents, are just going to wait our time until its your turn with your kids, and then we will laugh at you guys when you come looking for help. In the meantime, try not to be so harsh. :)

Answer 3

It's horribly painful to have a child say that to you, though most parents won't let on. With time we might get over the hurt of it but some things are pretty hard to forget. It sounds like you're pretty normal for your age. However, I'd try to be careful not to say the things you can't take back. I said something pretty rotten to my mom once and I know it broke her heart. She has long since forgotten but I still remember and still feel guilty. I'd give anything to be able to take it back. Just remember even when they're annoying you or making you mad, they're not perfect but they love you more than you even realize. Someday you may have kids of your own and they will most definitely think you're an embarrassment to them at times, lol.

Answer 4

As a parent of a teenager I have learned to roll with the flow. You have to have a sense of humor about things and I try to let it bounce off without affect. It doesnt always bounce though and then it will break you apart if you dont learn to laugh about it.
Ive wrote an article stabbing fun at teen behaviors. If you have time check it out.

Do Teenagers Suffer from a Form of Vampirism?
http://decenturl.com/associatedcontent/teenagers-and-vampirism

Be nice to your mom at least once today. If nothing else it will keep her wondering. :-)

Answer 5

Most girls at 13 seem to have pretty trashy mouths these days toward their parents. You must want to know if it bothers us. YOU BET! Not only does it hurt our feelings but it also upsets us when we see our child treat us this way. It makes us wonder if you care about anyone but yourself and this scares us.
We watched you grow and laugh and play and want us to hold you and kiss you and then all of a sudden you treat us like we are a nothing to you. YOU BET IT HURTS!
How can a parent get over it if you do not change and treat us differently? We get very concerned because we love you and do not want you to be so cruel.
I will ask you this would you like your parents to talk to you the way you talk to them? How would you feel? Think about it?
Your parents have spent years helping you grow up and this is the thanks they get for it. Put downs and heartaches.
You know you love them so why talk to them like you don't?
Do you want to hurt them? Why? What have they ever done for you to treat them that way?
I can tell you that your mother still needs your affection and will always need it and when you slam her it hurts very badly.

Answer 6

It is heartbreaking to us. I do realize that this is somewhat normal behavior for a teenager, but it doesn't make it feel any better. The day my 14 yo started treating me like less than his least favorite friend, I started apologizing to my parents, constantly.

Maybe, since you know you're behaving like this, you could stop, out of the blue, and just let your parents know you love them, or give them a hug (when you aren't wanting something!)

You sound like a mature teen...good luck getting through these years!

Answer 7

My kids tell me that once in a while however after the fact they come and talk to me and/or apologize. My modo is treat me that way you want to be treated and I will respect you and your privacy if you respect mine. So far that has worked and I a mom of three teenagers and one 7 year old that thinks she is a teenager.... you should really think twice before talking to your parents that way.....we as parents only want to fit in your life not take over your life..

Answer 8

What If Ur Parents Said Such To You ?

Answer 9

To be honest i think your parents need to give you an old fashioned butt beaten, belt and all, if i were to talk back to my parents even know, id be picking myself off the floor, i think u need to reckognize who's the child and who's the adult

Answer 10

I wouldn't put up with that kind of behavior and they DESERVE whatever you dish out for letting you act like this towards them..However one day they will be dead.Remember that.