Thanksgiving is supposed to be a day where family gets together well this thanksgiving couldn't have gotten any worse. We all ate dinner and i went to work. About 8 o'clock i get a call at work, it was my mom. She told me she was taking my sister (13years old) to the hospital. She tried to commit suicide. I started to get sick i couldn't walk or do anything. I had my bf pick me up and we went to the hospital and the first thing she did when i got there was make me leave. My sister didnt want me there. We have never ever gotten along but it just broke my heart. Now she is being taken to the pysch ward. This is really hurting everyone, I just dont know what to do. I dont kow if i should go up to the hosiptal since im not wanted there but i know my mom needs support??
2007-11-23 10:11:36 · 25 answers · asked by Skylar 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sometimes when people are a t that point they do not know what they want. i wouldn't stay around all the time but pop your head in just to let her know you care send a card or something
2007-11-23 10:15:58 · answer #1 · answered by Kikki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do to support your mom is by doing as she requests, calmly and without putting any pressure on her. She is under enormous strain and emotional overload at the moment: as a parent she would be feeling enormous guilt, regardless of the reasons for your sister's attempt on her own life. She will wonder why she did wrong, why she didn't see it coming, what she could have done to stop it.....
Your little sister is very, very ill. Healthy people don't try to kill themselves. At the moment she is probably very angry that she either didn't succeed or because she feels like a bloody idiot for trying it in the first place. Part of her anger is turned onto you because you don't get along and she doesn't feel you have a right to be there, and it could also be that she is resentful of you for some reason that she has manifested. She may think you are the favourite, prettier, smarter, etc, etc. There are a whole lot of reasons. Time enough to deal with them later when she is on the road to recovery.
Take care of yourself and stay strong. As your sister gets better you may be able to slowly get to know her and maybe you will find some common ground.
2007-11-23 18:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. This would be hard for anyone, so be kind to yourself no matter what. Your Mom needs support, your sister needs love and acceptance, and you need to be ever so kind to yourself, and forgiving to everyone, including yourself. Love can heal terrible wounds, so heap it on anyway you know how. Flowers are good. A heart felt letter. Help with chores around the house. Make a meal? Patience when someone needs to vent. Any kind deed you can think of.
Do go with your Mom, just don't insist on seeing your sister. Kindness, kindness, kindness.
Things will get better, so hang in there just knowing that, and being ready with open arms, and your own sweet smile. :-)
Remember Jesus too. He is greatest of the unconditional lovers of us all.
2007-11-23 18:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by Jann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think you should go.
Not only does your mother need your support, but so does your sister. You sister is in a very vulnerable state right now and needs all the care, appreciation and love that she can get from her family. This is a time that you need to put aside your differences and join together for your sister's sake. You might even develop a wonderful relationship with her if she see's that regardless of her protests, you love her enough to give her support.
2007-11-23 19:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by blue22op 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is really sad I'm sorry i would go there and walk in the room and if she says go and just say in a calm voice can i just talk to you for a min and say i love you and your my sister and i care about you very much and i don't want anything bad to happen to you and just showing that you love her can make the difference that is mostly the reason of suicide because they don't feel wanted but any way just say i cant live with out you even know we don't all ways get along and tell her when she gets out of the hospital tell her lets go to the mall and hang or something K i hope that works for you
2007-11-23 18:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, suicide rates and relapse rates for alcoholics and addicts go up during holidays. Holidays can be very stressful for some people.
Your sister is not in her right mind obviously. She may assume you're going to yell at her or guilt trip her, which is maybe why she told you to leave.
The psych ward is the best place for someone who seriously wants to kill herself. She'll get the help she needs right now and will have a chance to maybe think some things over.
It's really up to you if you want to visit her at the hospital. Just be aware she's not really in a good place right now.
2007-11-23 18:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sturm und Drang 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO! Even if your sister doesn't want you there right now, she needs to see that you support her, and that you will always be there for her, no matter what she does. I know that you guys are hurting right now, but be there for her - your family needs to show your sister that her family support network is strong.
And she needs help right now, of the professional sort - talking to a therapist, and getting on the right medication will set her on the right track. But, she still needs all of you to be supportive, and try not to ask "why would you do this to us?" It's not about you guys right now, it's all about her. Figure out what she is missing and see if you can help...good luck.
2007-11-23 18:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give Mom your support and tell the treating psychiatrist that you are willing to help in any way he thinks would be of help. He may not be able to tell you anything about what is going on with your sister because of confidentiality issues. You on the other hand can give him all the information that you have available to you. Good luck!!
2007-11-23 18:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for the both of them. and try and fix things up with your sister.something is bothering her and you suppose to be her best friend thats your sister for god's sake why are you two fighting did your mother teach you girls how to love each other.take time to be with your sister say your sorry and i don't know what i will do without her.if your the oldest than act like one.take her out with you and your boyfriend and watch a movie.she might be lonely.you and your bf always have time with each other there are 7 days in a week used on day for you and your sister and used one day with your mom and sister.now you have 5 days with your bf.good luck and hope your sister gets better my prayers goes out to you and to your family god bless you all.
2007-11-23 18:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by thank u man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your sister's wishes and stay away for awhile she will let you know when she is ready. I tried to commit suicide at around that age and it was very embarrassing i didn't even want to see my parents. As for your mom she definitely needs your support, and let her know that your always just a phone call away. Best wishes to your family. and remember as hard as it is for everyone she is in the right place right now.
2007-11-23 18:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW Sorry for you. You can go to the hospital and be supportive of your mom you can stay in the lobby don't go to the ward it self so your sister does not see you. Tell your mom not to tell your sister that you are there.
2007-11-23 18:17:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋