Once a cheat, always a cheat?

Question

If a guy cheats on one woman, do you think that means he will probably cheat again, when he gets into his next relationship? Can a leopard change his spots or will he continue to lie and cheat?

Just to clarify, I am not about to enter into a relationship with some who cheats on women- I have just come out of a relationship with a guy who cheated on me. I'm just wondering if it is possible for him to mend his ways if he met the right woman in the future. He says he won't do it to his present girlfriend, but I tend to disagree.

Answer 1

He will do it again

Answer 2

Hi I don't believe that a person will always cheat, there are thousands of people that have cheated on their other.People have cheated for all reasons some did not really want to.I think a person might make a mistake and once they did it they hated themselves for it, some cheat and got caught and when they realized they were going to lose the person they cheated on they kept their promise and has never cheated again. I have to believe that there are people no matter what the wrong was or is they will not repeat that wrong it just depends on what kind of person he are she is and how important the other person is to them.

Answer 3

People don't fundamentally change without some milestone or life changing work. So although I believe a man can change, and stop cheating and lying, it won't just happen because he said he's grown up. He needs to have had years of counseling, or gotten stabbed by his ex or something.

I am a counselor, and have never seen a cheater, man or woman, stop cheating forever.

Answer 4

Really a partner should be there for you when you are having a difficult time. That is what relationships are all about. Its understanding he is hesitant becaus he may feel that if you through another patch then you may push him away again. Read here https://tr.im/9Ppvf

I am going through something similar, but she hasnt made any contact to come back to me, and I know even though I may want her, I would be hesitant because of the possibility of going through the same thing again.

I dont know how long you have been apart, but dont pester him to get back with you, although it would be good for you to let him know your feelings, and that you are sorry for pushing him aside.

If he is willing to chat, then great, if he is reluctant, just offer to be a friend maybe, but you have to know that it does not mean he will come back to you.

He will care about you, even after what iv gone through...feelings dont just dissapear no matter what he may say. Stick in there. only time will tell.

If you get another chance, then make the most of it and never let him go awain because if you do, he will never come back. I really hope it works out for you. Its a difficult thing to go through.

Answer 5

i know its not a great excuse but say a man goes out partying and gets completely wasted sleeps or does whatever with another woman then yes i think it won't happen again..but this is different then a man totally aware of what he is doing carrying on with a woman on purpose. If you can cheat on someone you love completely sober and know what yur doing and not care..you will neverrr change

Answer 6

In order for a person to cheat in the first place means they have a warped concept of honesty and what trust is. Thought patterns DO NOT change each time you change partners, if he's unfaithful with "that woman" he is unfaithful to all women.

It's takes maturity on the cheaters behalf to change...doubt if that happens, after he discovers that cheating is "KOOL"! in a typical childish kind of way.

Answer 7

Hi cara,
i'll give you a slightly different slant to your question,
i was cheated on years ago, next 1 does it to me we're over.

Just because someone might make a mistake, maybe you should forgive depends on how strong the love is, and cara not all men cheat .Same goes for women too.

Answer 8

If past events predict future outcomes, then yes, this is true.

But only if evrything remains the same.

I have a friend who used to cheat on his (former) girlfriends and he changed. I'm not saying everyone can or will, but know that while not entirely likely, it is possible.

Answer 9

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/uE3vQ

Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 10

I dont understand cheaters.Ive never had enough relationships to cheat anyway and even if i did i wouldnt cheat ,its just plain nasty to the other person if they really like you.My ex girlfriend was a right little skank hoe i think it was 2 days after we broke up she slept with another guy who had broken up with his girlfriend the worst thing was the guy had a kid and 2 weeks later he got back together with his ex girlfriend.Even though i wasnt with her anymore i think what they both did was stinking dirty and it hurt my feelings because i wanted her back.I knew the guy who slept with her and he knew it would probably hurt me.I really wanted to kill him but then i though NO she's the one to blame she allowed it to happen SO both of them are just nasty peices of sh*t..

Answer 11

i think people can change. i cheated on an ex before, but that is because i wasnt happy. after doing it, i realized it was a horrible mistake and i hurt him badly. The previous relationship before him and the current relationship i am in, i wouldnt dream of cheating, because one, i realize that it was very bad and two, because im actually happy and wouldnt want to hurt him.