Help for my girlfriend?

Question

I'm in love with a girl.

We were high school sweethearts and been together for 5 years I hope I get to spend the rest of my life with her.
She has some issues (who doesn't) but I'm tired of seeing her sad about stuff. One of the main things is when we have sex, she can't orgasm. Sometimes, she'll think she's about to and she will end up urinating on me (I'm not mad about it, in fact it makes me feel bad for her). When she does that she starts crying saying how unattractive and "broken" she is. I keep trying to reassure her that it's fine I'm not with her for sexual reasons it's much deeper than that.

I just want to know if there's anything I can do, have you ever heard of a girl urinating when she thinks she's about to climax? Please help, I can't bear to see anymore tears come from her eyes.

We have used toys and also lots of foreplay. She doesn't really have a big self esteem so we were sort of thinking that was it.

And yes she does go to the bathroom before sex.

I'm pretty sure it's urine.

She does say she can never feel herself do it though which I thought is weird.

Answer 1

Yeah, it is pretty common, actually. However, I would have her talk to an OB/GYN about it. I know it seems embarrassing, but it's not going to be anything her doctor hasn't heard before. She may also be suffering from depression as a result of this condition. She can talk to her OB about this as well and see if medication can help her. Please let her know that she is NOT the only person that this happens to...not at all...and there are ways to control it. If she is willing to ask for help. Great job caring about your girl friend...the world could use more guys like you!

Answer 2

Is she on any medications? Some medications can cause inability to climax. The first thing I would do is check with your pharmacist about any meds she is on. The next step is to see a physician. The inability to climax could be caused by a number of physical or mental conditions. The urinating thing is actually not all that uncommon. If her bladder is full when you two have sex, when her body contracts (which happens when a woman has/ or is close to orgasm), it could be causing her to release the urine. In any event, she could have a hormonal inbalance that could cause this. She really must see a doctor, because that is the only way to decipher to cause of her unfortunate problem. Just let her know that you love her for who she is, not for sex alone, and that you will do whatever it takes. She may appreciate you going to the doctor with her. Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

Actually, it is quite common and some guys really get into it. However on the medical side... she may have a bladder spasm issue. Does she ever have leakage when she coughs or sneezes? If she does she may need to see her physician for that and have something like "Detrol" prescribed. Even if she doesn't have the coughing or sneezing issue she could still have a weak bladder due to your size or how rough you may get and should still need to see her physician. On the flip side if the urinating doesn't bother you, you might try telling her that it turns you on-to make her feel more at ease, she may be trying too hard and the more at ease you make her feel the less likely she is to have this problem.(that does not mean that is your fault.)

Answer 4

Are you sure its urine? There is such a thing as Female Ejaculation.
It also might be a minor medical problem where women where the bladder is triggered on orgasm.

Im no expert whatsoever but there may be nothing to worry about buddy!

Women orgasm in lots of ways.

See source for some more talk about this.

Answer 5

I think what she is experiencing the feeling of is an ejaculation. But get her to go pee before sex and if the feeling comes during sex just tell her to go with the flow. Encourage her, by telling her how sexy she is and beautiful and say all the right things and tell her not to be embarrassed cos you aren't. Be positive. Also if she feels she cannot orgasm during sex to perhaps use a mini vibe or something, just to being her on a little. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 6

Yes! She has an active G spot and that fluid is actually ejaculate. Go ahead and taste it - it's not urine. There are hundreds of web sites that cater to this as porn - try squirtqueen.com to see it on film.
Try using toys, or try getting her to climax with your tongue. If she can't climax at all, she might try medical help. I've read that Viagra helps some women.

Answer 7

Some people call the "urinating" during sex as squirt. Haha... it's weird, my bf wants me to squirt out but I don't wanna. I would say squirting is practically normal because urm.... it's in porn and stuff and haha people in there get excited bout squirt. I dunno why.

The thing is, she can't orgasm because she don't feel sexy or beautiful or attractive enough. Maybe she's a bit uncomfortable on the inside because she feels not pretty or not perfect enough for you. You shouldn't discourage her if she squirt. Make her feel good about herself and saying it's okay. Or you could make her feel that squirting is fun. Either ways, squirting shouldn't be associated with something embarassing. If she's comfortable with her sexuality, just squirt it out and continue to have fun.

Answer 8

I've heard of this before...you can reassure her she's not the only one with the problem. The best thing for her would be to see her female doctor and talk to her about it. Encourage her to do it--she needs to go every year for a checkup anyhow, so this would be a natural step to take.

Answer 9

About 60% of women just don't orgasm with sex. It's just how they're biologically wired. Try bringing toys into the bedroom, or do more with foreplay.

Answer 10

HONEY. Congratulations to both of you. It is likely not urination that she is experiencing. It is most likely a female orgasm. Most women don't ever experience one and if you don't know what it is, then it can be embarrassing.