My mom and dad are of the old school. Their culture (which I believe is behind 1000's of years behind but which I respect) dictates that if you bring home a girl/guy that it means you are serious with the person or bringing them home to be introduced to mom or dad as a precursor to marriage. So, hence we 4 kids in our late 30's are never allowed to bring anyone home unless for potential marriage.
Note: We kids respect our parents culture, however we are born here in America and go with the flow.
Example: My brother's girlfriend (who he will not marry) invited my family over to her home for Thanksgiving Dinner, but mom and dad refused to go because they are not serious, or considering marriage. My mother even told the girl kindly that it is her culture and explained it to her without offense.
So, what is your thoughts?
2007-11-23 08:37:39 · 7 answers · asked by DREENA 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i see both sides to this dilema.
if the entire family was invited i would have spoken to my brothers and sisters and invited them without trying to invite mom and dad; they have their own ways.
not meeting boyfriends and girlfriends makes it easier for the parents to not get into your lives - so you are able to live your own life.
2007-11-23 09:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change your parents. It doesn't matter that you are of a different age and time. This is their belief and you should respect it. Frankly if all of you are in your late 30's and aren't even considering marriage and family, I find that more strange.
2007-11-23 10:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im in the United Kingdom, just believe me there are still parents here, who do not approve of their kids b/gfriend. I know of several famlies here in London where they got 3/4/5 kids all at home some over 40. Just because the parents didnt believe in relationships, it had to be marriage or nothing. Crazy.!!!
2016-05-25 03:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by renetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are going to miss out on a lot of things with that attitude. thanksgiving dinner at your brother's girlfriends house may have been fun. maybe you can kindly tell them that.
2007-11-23 10:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree...it's time to modernize their lives and thoughts. They've missed out on big parts of your life because they haven't met your significant other(s)--and those people ARE often significant, even if you don't end up marrying them. And that's sad, that they missed out on this.
I respect their views--its nice to have some traditions that you hold on to--but it seems unfair to their kids (you.)
2007-11-23 09:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by xo379 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they are old school but should come to terms and realize they are not living in th1800's. Unless they have a certain religion which derives them from meeting
2007-11-23 08:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by poopy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parent's generation is correct. Fornication is shameful; if marriage is intended, it makes it slightly better. There should not be any sex outside marriage. [And I belong to your generation!].
2007-11-23 10:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sincere-Advisor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋