ok, anybody ever have a relationship....?

Question

...with a YOUNGER MAN ? This man who is 32, Im gonna be 49, REALLY adores me, and I him, but can this be a good thing ? Can anyone out there tell me their REAL LIFE stories about their older woman-younger man issues ? I askd him why he doesnt find a young thing that can give him kids, he swears he loves older women, and thats it. I believe him. But I dont want this to be a sex thing only...what happens if I get stuck on this guy ?What do you say ?

Answer 1

I'm 26 but please don't let that stop you from hearing my thoughts. I've known couples with similar age gaps, sometimes the age becomes an issue, sometimes it doesn't. Perhaps he really doesn't want any kids or doesn't care about having children. It's tough to know people's intentions, and quite honestly getting into any relationship runs the risk of it ending. I'd spend some time with him, perhaps go some places together, if it seems like he's eager to sleep with you it's probably just a sexual thing, but if it seems like he really is enjoying his time with you and getting to know you I'd say his intentions are good, and he probably just prefers older women. I guess we all have to test the waters before jumping in.

Answer 2

OK I am 46 and a lot of younger guys chase me and they all say that they date older women and make them happy. Well if they are so happy where are they? (The older women) In ten years you will be 59 and he will be 42 and with someone else. My younger guy didn't understand why some areas of my body had older skin, like I had to retain the elasticity just because he preferred it. You know I would if I could! For a woman it's a dead end road to date younger men. They irritate you by being immature,the arguments are the ones you already had and got past. the things that will bother them are ridiculous unless you are immature. I don't want to waste the years that I still look good enough to find a good man on someone that has nothing to offer me in my future. Like a relationship to grow old with.

Answer 3

Yes, I've felt this. Like my bones are actually twisting! You are getting a whole lot more than I ever have. My bf went overseas to be with his ill mother. Sadly, she pass away. Since then, because it is so expensive, he has only called maybe 3 times in the six, going on seven months he's been away. He doesn't write, he doesn't email. He claims laziness is the reason, but he still loves and wants me; when I call him! I have learned to move on with my life. I have stopped trying to contact him after letting him know I feel abandoned. The ball is in his court and if he still wants me and loves me, like he always says when I do break down and call, he'll have to reach for me. I told you this to make a point. Your situation is totally different. You should be secure in the knowledge that your loved one and you are doing all you can to keep the lines of communication open and actively expressing your love and commitment to one another. Appreciate that! In the meantime, do more on your own to keep yourself occupied while you are apart. See friends, read, write, get out of the house. Volunteer to help someone or some cause. You are blessed to know your love is secure. Again, appreciate that.

Answer 4

I once dated a man 8 years younger than myself, (he was 23 and I was 30) and it was a great relationship. It lasted for 4 years. When we broke up it had NOTHING to do with age. We still speak and honestly it was the most mature break-up I've ever had...

Even if it doesn't last forever, I doubt you'll ever regret it. I know I don't!!!!

Answer 5

I try to be understanding to the woman, but there is always that chance that he will leave her for a younger woman. In a way maybe he likes to be mothered or taken care of. It all depends if the older woman is rich! If so, this will tell you he's interest in you. Yea, yea, I love ya honey, will you buy me a ............

Answer 6

Give it a try. Some young guys are mature for their age. If you feel like your dealing with a child. . . end the relationship.