You know one of those christian marriages where you vow to each other in the church before God. Why is it that if their bond and love is tied with God, why is it that the American divorce rates are so high? Did they break their vow to God and their love if they divorce?
My parents had a traditional Asian wedding since they are Asians and they are still happily together. They made vows with my dead ancestors and the elders of the family. My parents don't have sex no more and yet they are still together. They are happy. I'm 18 right now and their first child. No I am American born and Agnostic so don't assume I follow the same traditions.
Anyways. Cough* Why do the vows and God as witness fail for many?
Thanks for reading.
2007-11-23 07:32:18 · 31 answers · asked by Closed 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I mean isn't their vow sacred? Death till you part right? Yet they divorce and break everything.
2007-11-23 07:33:02 · update #1
There are numerous reasons many Christian marriages do not work out, and they are almost identical to the reasons marriages fail in the rest of the world, a few are:
-selfishness in either or both spouses
-one partner is trying to make the marriage work the other is not (making the sacrifices, etc.)
-adultery, etc.
and specific to Christian marraiges:
-one spouse or both is not turning to God for help in times of trouble or in a troubled marriage
-one or both spouses are living in disobedience to God's will...among many other reasons.
The thing is that many people are not in it for the long haul. and their reasons for calling it quits run the gamut from the simple to the complicated to the truly ridiculous.
It is far easier for someone to bail on their marriage than to make the commitment that 'nothing is going to break us up'; then put the marriage in God's hands, and strap in for a long ride.
The vows fail because people are who they are, and do whatever the heck they want to do. To many vows are only good until the going gets tough. Or they aren't having fun anymore. But God never fails.
Hope I helped. God bless you.
2007-11-23 07:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well there are about a million different reasons why this happens. The thing is that maybe the person didn't take the vows seriously, or they didn't really think about the fact that they were pledging to love honor and cherish the person forever not just till the sex stopped or the love was hard to feel. I AM SO GLAD THAT I HAD A GOOD FRIEND WHO TOLD ME THAT LOVE WAS MORE THAN JUST A FEELING. IT IS A DECISION.
THAT AND I DECIDED TO NEVER GET MARRIED AGAIN. I DECIDED THAT IF I COULDN'T MAKE ONE MARRAIGE WORK THERE WAS NO REASON TO MAKE ANOTHER MISTAKE. SO I NEVER GAVE MYSELF THE PERMISSION TO WALK OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP. THAT REALLY HELPS. I DO NOT WANT TO BE ALONE. SO I do not leave and he feels the same so he stays. We have both done things that really hurt the other but we stay and work it out!!
2007-11-23 07:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by Tonia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Today marriage is too easy to get into and divorce is too easy to get. Don't blame god, you can get a license to marry people over the internet. So God doesn't bless these marriages, The world is a mess and these people don't seem to want tradition, I know what you are saying, my parents were together until my father passed away. they didn't always agree but no one filed for divorce because the toast was burned. this generation especially wants everything right now and if it is already taken (someone elses boyfriend or spouse) well they don't seem to care, but that is not God that is the lack of character people have.
2007-11-23 07:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by katie d 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has more to do with differences between the American an Asian culture than with a particular religion. Asians are more respectful of tradition and are more commited to family values, while Americans are more individualistic and tend to marry for superficial or self-serving reasons like attraction and falling in love. Once the attraction fades, then divorce is inevitable unless there is something deeper in the marriage.
2007-11-23 16:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by Joe S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think a marriage could have been joined by God and failed? Getting married in a certain building and doing certain ceremonies is a man made thing that is supposed to represent being joined before God but not an indication of God's will for them.
Humans lie and pretend to believe in God all the time. I know lots of people who go to church every Sunday to put on a show of holiness and in real life they are adulterers, liars, etc.
2007-11-23 16:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Want public opinions on this 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God instructed his chosen prophet, Hosea, to marry a woman who proved unfaithful to him and left him for another man. Later Hosea found her deserted and up for sale as a slave. He bought her back, at God's instruction, and after a period of discipline resumed marital relations. It might even be the case that God told him to marry this woman, knowing she was an adultress (the text isn't altogether clear).
The prophet's ministry was based upon the experience of his wretched marriage, portraying to Israel how they were like an adulterous wife to God, how God would cast Israel off, but then after she repented, take her back. Israelites who listened to Hosea's warning realised his was the voice of experience - he wasn't pontificating from some ivory tower!
Now, this is relevant because some Christians have to learn the hard way about spiritual adultery (as well as the physical sort). They might not take God at his word and think they can fool around. They will reap the consequences. Yet repentance is an option. God's forgiveness is immeasurable to those sincerely turning back to him. There is hope! And knowing the pain God feels when people are spiritually and/or physically adulterous, helps us be more sensitive to him and, therefore, in our dealings with others. Read the book of Hosea in the Old Testament. It's a revelation!
2007-11-23 07:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because God has nothing to do with it. It's a legal thing (marriage). People aren't perfect so many of them don't follow through with their wedding vows. It's more part of a tradition for some, if not most.
2007-11-23 07:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so many of them get married for the wrong reasons that divorce is almost a sure thing. They are indeed breaking a vow that they made to their god and committing adultery if they remarry - but it doesn't seem to bother them any. The highest US divorce rates are in the Bible Belt.
2007-11-23 07:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sun: supporting gay rights 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there..here is my answer. Just because two people choose to get married to each other and form an earthly contract, it doesn't mean their union has truly been blessed by God. Without the blessing of God, it is really just a ritual and legal partnership. God wants people to learn from each other and people have free will to choose their spouses, whom they will learn from. God does want people to keep commitmants, but only if that commitmant is for the higher good. So there are marriages with the blessing of God, and marriages without the blessing of God. What people choose to do with them is their choice. And regarding God, we all have different perceptions.
2007-11-23 07:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by An Independent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody knows if a marriage is joined by god unless you have been married to the same person for more than 15 years. See, us women Have Their emotions everywhere when In love, so you have to look at their bad, Then good.
2007-11-23 08:36:22 · answer #10 · answered by rosedickson71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋