today both of my parents worked and i hadto babysit my freakin brother (he's 4). well he whines everytime something doesnt go his way and cries if he barely gets hurt (like bumps his knee). well my stepmom babys him. everytime he "gets hurt" she picks him up and cuddles him. EVERY FREAKIN TIME! And when he doesnt get what he wants, she always breaks down and does what he wants. my dad acts like he does a better parenting job but he is just as bad. well now to my question. today i had to watch him. i thought it would be fun if him and i watched transformers. well when it was over, he wanted to watch it again. i said no because the texas game is coming on and we just watched it. well he threw a fit and yelled at me. i told him that if he keeps it up that ill send him to his room and have dad deal with him when he gets home. he then growled at me and went into the other room to cry. i dont feel sorry for my decision because the kid needs some structure and discipline in his life.
2007-11-23 07:19:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
so why cant my parents see that they are spoiling the crap outta him and makin him a little baby? also was i in the wrong to hold my ground or do i not have athority even though i am his big brother? im 15 btw.
2007-11-23 07:21:19 · update #1
i lived with my mom and she always stood her ground. i didnt whine or cry nearly as much as he does. my dad even brags about how i acted when i was his age. i had discipline unlike my brother.
2007-11-23 07:27:16 · update #2
lol thats a good xmas idea for him! ill get him a transformer. he has a boat load of toys.
2007-11-23 07:29:06 · update #3
no i would not ever hit him or spank him because that in my opinion is the parents job. i think i would be crossing the line if i did that.
2007-11-23 07:30:17 · update #4
i told him I wanted to watch the game. he has plenty of toys to play with and hes been watchin tv all day!
2007-11-23 08:12:27 · update #5
I think you did the right thing. Your step-mom is doing the wrong thing by babying him. He should be getting positive attention all the time, not just when he whines; he has learned the art of manipulation. Won't it be fun when he's 30 and doesn't get the promotion and whines and cries to his boss?
2007-11-23 07:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm HE'S 4 !!!!! Where is the fun in a freakin football game at 4 years old??????
Thats not parenting thats a bad choice, dont ask a 4 yr old to watch BORING FOOTBALL!
Transformers ROCKS I would have wanted to watch it 5 more times!\
Have to keep in mind his age, many things fun for adults BORE kids to DEATH!
In the bedroom was the wrong choice, should have been comprimise not sentencing. Think first then react, this is a 4 yr old not a 15 yr old.
TVs~~ if you have 2, watch different things on different TVs, your the babysitter so you usually watch what he wants to watch, or at least make a deal, record football and do something else.
2007-11-23 07:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by darlin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you I would do your chores and not your brother's. I would agree that it's not your responsibility to do your chores and his. It is your parent's responsibility to discipline your brother, not yours and if they're not doing it, they're not being very good parents. Is he the only boy? It's possible that your parents let him get away with more because of it. I would let his chores pile up and let your parents sort it out, since they should be acting like parents. By the way, you're mother hitting your head against the wall is definitely not cool. That is child abuse and if your parents physically abuse you, you should tell a counselor at school or another adult. I hope this situation gets better because your home life sounds like it really sucks.
2016-04-05 05:04:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a pretty average four year old to me.
I think you did ok. He had a turn on the TV to watch his programme, and then it was fair that you watched yours.
Parents don't always get parenting right, they have to learn as they go along.
You are not your brother's parent, but try to have patience and be a good role model for him, and he will worship the ground you walk on when he is older.
good luck
2007-11-23 07:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by insomnia c 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yesterday I watch my 4 yr old niece. Do you have any transformers toys that he could play with.
All I did was put a pile of toys in-front of this girl and she love to play make believe. You should of told him make believe your a transformer and your watching the game with me.
2007-11-23 07:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He's only 4. I'm sure you were the same way as a 4 yr old. My son is 4, and I cuddle him if he gets hurt. You were treated the same way. Be easy on him and remember he's just a little boy. He doesn't know any better, but you do!
2007-11-23 07:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some parents think discipline is cruel, little they know they are harming their children.
Sorry you are going through that right now. Let him cry until he gets tired, that is not going to kill him. You might be doing some great favor there. He might learn something good out of this. Be firm. Don't hit him, just let him cry. After he stops crying, go hug him, and talk to him and tell him you love him.
2007-11-23 07:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You did fine. Kids do need some consistancy in their life.
Unfortunately, there's nothing we on Yahoo can do to make your parents step up and be the parent.
Consider yourself lucky that you're almost out of the house.
Try not to hold it against the kid, he's only doing what he's learned will work.
Good luck.
2007-11-23 07:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by MARY N 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Tell your parents that when he's 40 years old he'll be living in their basement because of the baby they're turning him into. I learned in Government class (you should tell this to your parents) that if he does something bad (like eat a cookie before dinner) but cute, laugh when he's out of the room, or tell another parent or something. If they laugh right in front of him, he'll do it again.
2007-11-23 07:32:52 · answer #9 · answered by SoundofSettling 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i wonder how you acted when you were 4.
i think you should be around other 4 yr olds to see how he really compares. and probably see how you were at 4 also.
2007-11-23 07:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sufi 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋