ive been talking to jose for 2 weeks on the phone. we went out yesterday. he brought me a single rose. we went to the movies and back to his house just to talk. he tired to kiss me but i dont let him. he seem hurt. and ask if i like him or think he was ugly. i said no and kissed him. we made out thats it. i guess he was getting turned on and ask for sex. i said no and he said ok and i left but he has called me today. he said he really likes me and we talk about having sex. but i told him when i feel ready then we will. he acted fine with. u think he wants a relationship or just sex. now we are boyfriend and girlfriend but it could be just a act what do u think?
2007-11-23 06:49:24 · 18 answers · asked by eynak1110 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys like sex...and will try to get it if they can.
If you are not ready, then stand your ground. If he really likes you, then he will wait.
If he gets mad at you when you turn him down, then that is a clue right there.
Also, when you turn him down and he says stuff like "don't you like me", and "do you think I'm ugly"....those are just things to say to get you to do what he wants. Be careful in not getting caught in that trap.
2007-11-23 06:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely an act. Being honest, I have had sex with women on first dates and I made it absolutely clear up front with them exactly what I wanted. If he wanted more than just sex, he would have had more respect for you than to ask.
2007-11-23 14:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by Tom P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age a relationship involves having sex . If you dont want to have sex , great , dont get a boyfriend .
2007-11-23 14:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to say. he was agressive on the first date.
wait a while before sex enters the picture. if he
is not a bit patient until you are ready for sex, then i
would say he only wants you for sex.
men can be hard to read. don,t be easy, if he really
and truly cares for you, he will respect your feelings
and wait for sex. also, is he being a gentleman to you?
theres many important factors, the way he treats you, does
he respect you. good luck.
2007-11-23 14:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...that's a tough one.
You caved on kissing him, so that sent him a mixed signal.
Be straight with him. Tell him you like him, but flat out, you are not ready for sex.
He might be into you regardless or he might be trying to get some.
Stand firm. If he sticks around, he's true. If he doesn't, he's a player.
2007-11-23 14:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by Nathan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's testing you to see exactly how far and how fast he can get there. If you move to fast you risk him thinking that you're just an easy female whom gives it up for anyone. If you drag it out too long some guys tend to get bored. I say give yourself a time table and stick to it. That way you have time to feel out and know what he is like and what it is you like about him. If you jump too fast you're likely to end up being just a lay for him.
2007-11-23 14:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by jewell2578 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is already talking abt sex?? and you too have been dating for two wks?? wait, forget that question. in todays society, thats ok. but in your case, if you know you are not ready for sex, then dont do it. dont let him pressure you either. if he brings up the topic again and you tell him no, and he gets upset. then you know what hes abt. if he gets mad, let him go. if he cant respect your decisions, he need to leave.
i agree with Nathan D
2007-11-23 14:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by texaslady24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all guys want is sex, and jose seems like hes using the wrog approach he seems like a jerk to me no offence but you could get someone who treats you with respect and who wants to have a good time and not just want to jump into that stuff right away
2007-11-23 14:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants sex
2007-11-23 14:53:29 · answer #9 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just don't give in to him until you are ready, if he waits around for you, then you will know he likes you for who you are and is interested in a relationship. If he won't wait then you know what he wanted. Good Luck!
2007-11-23 14:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by wildheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋