Should i run away or call child protection services?

Question

She doesn't aprove of me not eating meat, so in turnn she only buys meat. No fruits or veggies. Somtimes i save alil money and walk to the dollar store. this has been going for almost 9 months. When she found out that i cut myself she said she couldn't deal with it and did nothing. But when she found out i didn't believe in god she hauled me off to therpy. She Isolates me from my friends. And all they ever did was try to help. And somtimes she can't afford food, like bread. but when she does have money she buys ice cream and furniture. What should i do?????

i'm talking about my mother. Sorry for just writing she.

Sorry for not adding many details, i'm 15, i get my money from under the couch somtimes. Or i Steal some from my moms purse.

Answer 1

I think for now you should stick with therapy, and follow the suggestions of your therapist.

Answer 2

She is your mother? If you have any adult family members close by talk with them first before doing anything. Depending on what state you live in calling Child Protective Services(CPS) can open a door that can't be closed and you are in the system. If you have no close family nearby is there a friend's parent you could talk with possibly? If not your Guidance Counselor at school might be someone to speak with but again they are "mandatory reporter" so should HER actions meet the standard of "child abuse" then they must call CPS. As to the issue of "cutting yourself" that is indicative of an underlying ISSUE which might very well be to at least some degree your relationship with HER. Tell your therapist about the cutting because in that office you have "doctor-patient confidentiality" and the therapist by law cannot discuss what you say in therapy with very few exceptions. For the moment take whatever little money you can scrape together and get some multi-vitamins to take care of what would be lacking in your body with a diet that excludes fruit and vegetables. Good luck but do yourself a favor and act fast.

Answer 3

Please don't run away. No matter how bad your life is, being a child, and at the mercy of strangers is not fun.
How old are you? Where are other relatives? What about a teacher at school? Talk to someone trusted to help you.
You should not be cutting yourself. Tell the counsellor or teacher that, too.
Is this a mother, friend, foster person?
How do you get money? If you are stealing, you are a THIEF!
There is not a good reason to do this. Especially from your mother!
Why did you tell her any of your business, if you know she will disapprove?
Her money, she can spend any thing she wants any way she wants. Not your business.
You want to be a vegetarian, I think that is great, but life is about compromise, communication and sharing, not pissing off each other, and running off.
If you call CPS, they may take you away from this and stick you somewhere to get molested or locked in a closet.
Keep the government out of your life, if you can.

Answer 4

I wouldn't go as far as Child Protective Services.....that is very very serious...you don't even know....
I am in a situation that has seriously needed consideration of using their services, and it is no service to be taken lightly....I would try to be open minded and try to get along.....use them as a last resort....but I would much rather you use them instead of running away...nothing good can come from that...and what do you think would happen when you are caught (in a short amount of time) and are hauled back because you are a minor??? Will it be that much better???
Besides....you don't really want to be out in the cold, alone, do you?? Where would you go? You said yourself you are finding money in the couch.......try and bear it...if you can't call social services....just don't run away...it will cause more problems than help...Good luck to you!

I hope it works out for the best...

Answer 5

She's not hurting you, she's just not taking very good care of you.

I think you should be try to be more independent. The sad truth is, you can probably take better care of yourself if you aren't counting on her to do it.

Get yourself a part time job, or paper route, or something to make a few bucks. Then buy whatever you want to eat. Get yourself into counseling through your insurance, or through your school.

Start making your own choices now, it will give you some experience you can use later on. Don't run away. If she is actually hurting you, then call CPS, but it sounds like she's not doing anything they can change.

Answer 6

I wouldnt call CPS becasue it will utimately cause more problems between you and her and they are just going to bring you home anyways. Running away isnt an answer because then where will you go? If your already trying to find money under the couch at least you have a couch to look under. On the streets you wont and friends arent going to supprt you. Sounds like your trapped, which is really crappy. So its up to you.
You have a few choices.... you could find a job A i gets you out of the house B gives you a sense of pride about your self and makes you feel a sense of value C. You can buy some of your own food that she doesnt get you that you would prefer to eat. I have two daughters that are vegans. They wont eat red meat but will eat white meat. I respect their feelings, but thats me as a mom. Matter in fact everyone in my family respects this of my girls.
Cutting. Youll hear alot of crp about this. I actually have experience with a kid who decided on this and it was an outlet for dealing with their emotional issues. Its not an answer though. Dont degrade yourself by doing it. It will almost always leave a scar. Its reallly dangerous first and foremost. Trust me its not an answer. Theres alot of kids who really do have it worse than you.
Not believing in god makes you along the lines of an atheist. My daughter is this way. "theres no scientific proof" well shes entitled to her believes, who am I tell tell her shes wrong? You are entitled to believe the way you want to too.
Isolating you from friends is prolly because she hates to believe that this is the person shes raising, its admitting failure on herown behalf. No parent or adult likes to believe their kids "mess ups" are their fault. Theres gotta be a reason for them acting like this....ohh must be her friends! Yeah her friends. Well if i take them away shell straighten up. Its not an answer but in her eyes it is. Let her think you have changed so you can get them back. Think about this......just for a minute.
I would try to talk to close family for alittle bit of help before you attempt CPS. MAybe another adult can talk to her and help you get her to understand. Or in the event that doesnt help see if you can stay with family as much as posible. I would still try to find yourself a job. Something is better than nothing. Between work, school and family you wont have to be there too much to deal with her. If your close to 18 you wont have too long to do this. Your getting yourself away form the situation all while aking yourself into a better person. In the end you rise above it becoming a better person.
The problem with kids is they dont use their head to their own advantages any more. Sometimes its for the wrong reasons, others consume themselves in school, others wise above thier obsticles. Smart thinking.....which one are you? Look at what your mom sees and reverse the polarity. She may have control but you could manipulate the situation to work for both of you. Think...

Answer 7

how old are you? are you in school?

don't run away. being alone on the streets is very dangerous. is there another family member you can live with? i would choose that before leaving the house. is there a girls shelter you can go to? call catholic ministries. i was in a girls shelter as a young teenager. it was an extended shelter and i could stay there until i was 21 as long as i was in school or working.

i'm sure you mom loves you but she may have a bad way of showing it. my mom was very abusive and angry all the time and i hated her for it as a teen. i've forgiven her but it took years.

you can call protection services as a last option. i'm sure they will try to help. don't tell your parent you're calling though or they may try to hurt you.

i'm sorry you're going through this. my teen years were terrible for me but they made me a much stronger person. just think in a few years you can go off to college and become a better person and parent than the one you have. god bless. and yes i do believe in god. what higher power you believe in is your own person decision.

take care of yourself!

Answer 8

How old are you?
Start with Child Protective Services and get a journal to keep records of these things you say are going on: date,time and details.
Depending on income,she might be able to get food stamps or some kind of assistance.
If you are old enough or mature enough to make some decisions of responsibility,you can go to court and have a new guardian to care for you until you reach the age of 18 (Dad,grandparents,aunt &uncle).
Running away will not solve the problem,just make your life worse.
Whose computer did you use to post your question?

Answer 9

comprimise, I think her concerns are real, I think she doesn't want you to be an unhealthy person. Maybe if you agree to eat beans from time to time for protien, maybe that would work, I know without protien my blood sugar drops and I inturn pass out which is very very serious! I almost dropped my baby when he was around 6 months old ~due to lack of protien and my blood sugar dropping too low, just try to compensate for meat, theres other ways to get it without having meat.

I really understand your not wanting meat, it can feel very wrong to force someone to eat meat especially if its an animal lover, so I agree with you, lets try comprimising with you and mom. Make it a mended relationship, afterall, shes your mom and might not be educated on the whole veggie/fruit diet thing. But the same time it sounds like she loves you!

Answer 10

don't run away i went threw some of the same problems it only gets worse once you run. being out on the streets leads to things you cant controle and you really cant depend on your friends for a place to stay or food forever because even though it seems horrible you arent their parents problem a rare frew make it on their own its tough emotionaly and physicaly. also if you mother does the things you say she does than if you ran away and you are under 17 or 18 depending on the state you live in than you could get time for it instead of her! no joke and if you do find a place to stay she can charge that person with harboring a minor and they will get at least 2 years themselves. don't risk it i know whats your going threw just stick it out okay eventually it will get better and hey we all get stronger from these type of things okay so be tough and do what you know is right for your future.

Answer 11

Who is she? Your mom?, Running away would not make things better for you, why don't you go to a family friend, someone you can trust? How old are You?
I just hope that if what you are saying is true, you find a way out of this without hurting yourself more. Child protective service is not what you think it is. It could be worse than living with your relatives.