What do you think?

Question

My BF is funny, cute, smart and a great dresser. BUT he is friends with all of his exes (including one that he was the "other" guy with), does not like to share his thoughts and feelings, can be selfish, immature and somewhat verbally abusive. I am somewhat sensitive, but some of the things he has said (all disguised as jokes) have really hurt. I tell him this and he responds that I am too sensitive. He says I love you, cuddles with me all the time, but just does not know how to express himself. I get frustrated and sad. He has said "It's not fun to talk about your feelings" Am I wrong to need that ? It seems like an awful thing to say. He also has said that when I want to have sex often, it makes him not want it. He does not want to go away with me for the weekend, does not seem to like my friends, and can be detached. I fear I am too needy, but we cannot communicate and he does not want to compromise. I need some solid advce because he is not a bad guy but I don't feel good.

Answer 1

Well if you've already tried talking to him about it and he's not changing or making an effort to listen to you, then maybe you haven't expressed how important the situation is to you. Try talking to him about it again. You're not being too needy by wanting these things from him, if he's the right guy for you, he will do what he needs to to make things work. But just remember that this is a two way thing; don't get too hung up on forcing his emotions out of him. You have to try to make him happy too.

Good luck.

Answer 2

If not getting what you need then may be time to just be friends and look for someone else that will fill your needs. You need to be happy and not compromise.

Answer 3

if you don't feel good then why would you even think that you should be with that guy. whats the point in being miserable, people get into relationships to be with someone and be HAPPY!