My friend asked to borrow my mp3 for 6th period. When I asked for it back she can't find it and all there is is my headphones left in her front pocket where she left my mp3. It has been a couple months and I keep asking her what are you going to do about it or you need to pay for it but her mom is saying she is not responsible and she sounds like she doesn't want to deal with it. My mom is thinking about taking it to small claims court. I'm afraid of ruining our friendship but she obviously doesn't care and isn't taking this seriously.
She thinks she knows who stole it but we are not for sure. There is a guy who sits near her who saw her put it in her bag and people knows he has stolen before.She says when she was done with it she put it in her front pocket backpack and left it to go do something. She says the guy asks one day for a charger because he lost his new one. Sounds suspicious huh. Should my mom take it to small claims court? What should I do?
2007-11-23 06:33:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
What do you think about it?
2007-11-23 06:34:27 · update #1
Count your losses. Learn your lesson. Get better friends. Or keep the ones you have, but just dont loan them anything of value. And let them know ahead of time that you just dont do it anymore do to past history. You will be better off by letting this go. It will be hard but you'll be better off in the long run. And so will your legacy.
2007-11-23 06:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by guitarrman45 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, you should never loan anything you can't afford to lose. A lesson you have just learned. Also, you can't control your mother, she will do what she will do. That being done, you need to make a decision. Do you or do you not want to continue your friendship with this girl? If you do, you and she need to agree right now that thought things are going to get rough, your going to try to remain friends. And that fromnow on, high dollar value things won't be loaned between you.
Remember this wisdom "Neither a borrower nor a lender be". When you give someone something, remember there is a great chance you won't get it back. Just say no.
Now, the next thing the two of you need to do is try to find out if that guy has your MP3 player. DId you put your name on it somewhere? Do you still have the paperwork with the warrentee numbers? (They are unique to the MP3 player). Did you report it to anyone at school? (hey might not do anything, but you never know) Also, did you report it to the police? You should. If right when it went missing you called the cops, they could have walked over to the guy and made him turn out his pockets. So now you know.
Your mom can take your friends mom to small claims court, but I doubt it will do her any good. Even if the court finds in her favor, they have very little ability to compel her to pay. Tell your mom (and this isn't sarcastic) to try one of those TV judges. Many of them pay both parties and will let her recover damages from the earnings of the other lady - and you all get a nice vacation since they put you up and fly you in.
2007-11-23 07:33:35 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would say, Jennifer, I really need my mp3 back. My mom is thinking about taking your mother and father to court. If she is a minor ( you did not state her age) your mother would have to sue her parents. If I was your mother I would call her mother as well just to see if her mother can get it from her. But I would let her know in advance that your parents are going to contact her parents if she does not come clean. In the future do not loan out expensive things to your friends. You see what can happen.
2007-11-23 07:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly? it's lost. this is one of those lessons you learn in life where if its really that important to you, you shouldn't let it out of your sight. claims court is a bit much especially since mp3 players can be bought for cheap now. I say save up and by another one and let it go. don't let her borrow your things that you value again unless your not worried about it being lost/stolen.
it's nice to let your friend borrow things but its not necessary. drop the whole subject and just continue on like it's not that big of a deal. especially if its been months. it's gone, no one is fessing up, and you shouldn't have lent it out.
2007-11-23 06:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by Rainey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you just learned the valuable lesson to not lend things you care about to friends. Also, what are you doing with such a valuable item in class, shouldn't you and your supposed friend be paying attention in class instead of listening to music? Don't bring valuable items to school and don't lend them to friends. Bet a small claims court judge would have the same advise.
2007-11-23 06:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by Matarc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has your mother called the parents? I would call them and ask for the money.
If they refuse, go to small claims court. You mother should be reimbursed by the parents.
I hope your friend is sorry for what she did. Even if your mother sues them, it shouldn't wreck the friendship. Your friend knows she lost it and is responsible for replacing it.
2007-11-23 06:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is obviously using you if she insist she will not pay for the item she lost. This happens alot in elementry school when kids say, "If you don't share your snack with me I'm not going to be your friend anymore!" But I think your old enough to know not to fall for that, and if she was really a good friend, she wouldn't have lost it would she?
2007-11-23 06:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jimmy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be real nice to her then ask to borrow something of value from her, don't take no for a answer, insist then don't return it, see how she likes it when the shoe is on the other foot. I don't think you will get anywhere in court with this.
2007-11-23 06:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mariah 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
NOO! dont take it to small claims court! thats ridiculious.
ask the guy straight out if he took it. he is probably gonna lie. but i think he took it.
2007-11-23 08:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by Me. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to buy you a new one or else you will not be her friend anymore.
2007-11-24 02:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋