the other night one of my very close guy friends called around 9:30 and wanted to go get ice cream or just go somewhere to talk. i was on thanksgiving break and didnt have school the next day but my mom wouldnt let me go and she said that i wasnt going to be having guys come over late at night wanting to hang out. we had discussed before that my curfew would be around 11 (im 16 by the way) and it was only 9:30
she said it was too late to go out? i dont understand as long as im back by 11 i dont see what the problem is??
2007-11-23 06:18:45 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her house, her rules.
If you don't like it, get emancipated and move out.
Then come back in a year and tell us how well things are going for you, OK?
2007-11-23 06:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww :[.
You know, my mom was the same way. She still is, but i'm two months from being 18 now, and she doesn't have much so-say in what I do anymore.
9:30 is NOT late at all.
My mom was the same way, But she put it more bluntly, "THERE IS NO WAY YOUR GOING OUT WITH THAT BOY THIS LATE! WHAT IF HE RAPES YOU?"
I always figure "Wow. I know the guy, and trust the guy." But you never really know anyone hun. Guys are horndogs. Honestly.
But if you really trust a guy, and feel totally comfortable going out with him, then it shouldn't be a problem. Your mom should trust your judgement. If she knows where you're going, and has a way to contact you, then it shouldn't be that big of a deal. She's just protecting you. And I doubt anything you say to her will help anything. You just have to wait until you're a little bit older, and she becomes more leanant. That's what I had to do.
I'm almost 18, and she still tells me I have to call her before I leave work to come home. *Rolls eyes* Craaazy parents.
2007-11-23 06:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom has a curfew for 11:00 then she should of let you go. That's what curfews are for. She was wrong for not letting you go. Then maybe she didn't like or trust the guy you was suppose to hang out with. Then again over protective. She needs to draw the line somewhere and stick with what she says about your 11:00 curfew. I'm 47 and I know how that is. Talk to her.
2007-11-23 06:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you don't understand what the problem is - you have a curfew and that's that. Right? No - that's why you are the child (as much as you may not like it, you are still one) and you mother is the parent. Your mother may have a million reasons why she didn't want to let you out that late,maybe because she was afraid for your safety, reputation, well-being, virginity (?), the possibility of you developing bad habits, maybe she didn't like the guy, maybe she knows something about him or his family that rubs her the wrong way, maybe a million different things. Forgive her and let her be the parent. She has to make the decisions whether she likes it or not.
2007-11-23 06:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't have been a problem. You previously discussed your curfew of 11 which leaves you 1.5 hours to go have fun. And you were only going out to get ice cream, what's wrong with that? Ask your mom why you weren't allowed to go out and present her with the good reasons why you should have been allowed. Good luck!
2007-11-23 06:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both being normal =p
My girlfriend's 19 ( a year older than me), we've been dating for almost 2 years now and her mother's still very strict when it comes to curfew and stuff. If you position yourself as the mother of a 16-year-old, I think it would give you a better perspective of the situation. Just try to deal with it the best you can. Mothers will always be mothers.
2007-11-23 06:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could easily see why you would be annoyed but u might want to think about your mam I'm sure when she set the curfew with you that she thought you would just be out with girl friends in a group, being on your own with a guy might of been a little to much for her to take!
2007-11-23 06:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by StylishRiot ☮ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents are exactly the same way. is the 11 o'clock curfew a recent thing? maybe she just isnt used to you going out so late? talk to her and tell her that you are with friends you trust and will come home safe - if she is worried, then you'd have no problem having her call you while you are out.
2007-11-23 06:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by ʜeʟʟӧ_ᴅөll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom can be the same way.
But my mom is like that because she has reasons for it.
Have you done anything to make your mom feel uncomfortable with you going out late with guys?
She may be wondering why you would want to go out so late with a boy by yourself anyway.
That is a little suspicious.
Just talk to her, no yelling, no arguing.
Just talk and understand her point of view and where shes coming from.
2007-11-23 06:25:25 · answer #9 · answered by Melanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely depends on the mom actually - best bet might be to talk to her and figure out if she has a reason that makes sense to you. If not you guys need to figure out a balance. Could it just be that she doesn't like the idea of a guy coming over at night and would have been okay if it was one of your girl friends?
2007-11-23 06:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by susannacassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've both agreed on a curfew of 11:00pm then you should be able to but since you live with you parents they can change the rules. It's their way and that's what we hate about them!
This is the kind of parental bullshit that drove me nuts!
2007-11-23 06:23:36 · answer #11 · answered by Kennedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋