My ex and I were together 3 years. He recently left me for another girl.
He has been very nasty to me over this, and basically told me to stay out of his life and that he hated me (no apparent reason).
So I did. No texts, no emails, blocked him from my messenger etc. Three nights ago I got a text from him at 12:30am saying, "just wanted to check you okay?" I replied that I was fine. Next night, he text me at 11pm asking if I hated him. I replied that I didn't, and why was he asking? He said he wanted to know my feelings towards him. I left it there. Later on he text me again at 02:30 am asking if I was awake. I wasn't, therefore did not reply.
I asked him the following day why he wanted to know my feelings towards him suddenly. He responded that it didn't matter. When pushed, he said he wanted us to be friends without hostility. He turned up at mine at 11:30pm last night, out of the blue. He said he wanted me gone so why is he texting me and trying to get my attention?
2007-11-23 06:10:40 · 12 answers · asked by cara 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's done this before. About a year ago, I dumped him because we weren't getting along. Two days after that he found himself another girlfriend, and naturally I was furious and wanted him back immediately. I made scenes and cried and stamped my foot, seduced him twice and informed his girlfriend (Yes I am ashamed of my behaviour back then.) Then I got a grip on reality and stopped the bunny boiling. Nine days of no contact later he came back to me and begged me to take him back. I eventually did but never really forgave him for it. He insists he don't want me back this time but I can't work out what it is he wants. He is the one who texts and turns up at night, then he implies that I'm the one playing the games. Does he subconsciously want to bring out the bunny boiler in me? If so, why would he?
2007-11-23 06:42:11 · update #1
The first question that comes to mind is, is your ex-boyfriend in his right mind? If he isn't losing it, then could he be playing cruel mind games with you?
If this is his way of calling your attention just to be noticed; he's just boasting his ego. If you think he's acting like an insensitive jerk, yes, he is! I would suggest--- Don't fall for it, and don't let him minimize what he's doing to you. Chuck him, as he did you.
Stop this cell-phone drama before all hell breaks loose.
ravishingV
2007-11-23 06:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by ravishingV 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Can't seem to comprehend his actions. He wants you then he doesn't. Hot then cold. It sounds to me like has a guilty conscience, he's worried how you're taking the circumstances of the break up. Can I ask a question? What was his real reason for breaking up? I don't think it was the new girlfriend, or hate towards you. Because he's still texting you, asking about your feelings, are you alright, etc.....
Maybe he's realised he was rash in breaking up with you. Leave him for awhile, don't answer his call and texts. And see what his reaction will be. If he continually texts and calls, then he's not over you, if for some reason, you don't hear from him. Then he was just worried about you....
You can do better - you just have to find it, and want it badly enough.
You go girl. Keep it real. And good luck to you.
2007-11-23 06:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by tepania4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone else has the right idea. He is pushing buttons and pulling levers and not getting the responses he expects from you.
Good for you. Stay in control and dont let him in at 11.30 at night.
2007-11-23 06:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by RayT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was pissed at first... disgusted with you. after a short amount of time he began to get over it. 3 years with someone is a pretty good amount of time and you can get pretty damn close to someone in that amnt of time.
he also broke up with his other girl and is looking for a piece of ***. right now he knows you're probably one of the easiest pieces he can get.
2007-11-23 06:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by why_cant_i_be_cool 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It potential that adult men will say issues to ladies to get them to respond a undeniable way. it relatively is one in each and every of those administration. case in point, a guy ought to tell a woman the he "loves" her to get her into mattress.
2016-09-30 01:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he drinks hes probably texting when hes half cut,i would block his number or change sim cards,totaly blank him and get yourself a boyfreind and get on with your life,for he is trying to control you,checking up on you and then regretting it.id get rid.
2007-11-23 06:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by fozz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might have somethin to do with his new gf.....maybe she found out he was talkin to u and told him if he didn't tell u to screw off then she would break up with him. I dunno what else it would be cuz his actions just aren't adding up ya know? I would just tell him to go be with his gf and leave u alone! U don't need to be involved in his drama!
2007-11-23 06:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by Abby Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cos it reassures him he is wanted . I would get rid of the phoine if i were you and get another number. Oh and don't answer the door to him.
2007-11-23 06:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wanted you to pine for him, miss him, & want him back. When you didn't, it bugged him, & he wanted to know why you weren't begging him to come back! My advice; stay cool. You deserve someone better!
2007-11-23 06:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by greenwoman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-11-23 06:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋