Its a bit of an issue that I have sorted in my head, but not my heart! I am a highly placed person in my company and there is this guy, who is married for 2 years, in another peers team, but much junior. I had this secret crush on him, but made sure no one, including him, knew about it. During our common team outings, we started to connect but always had this distance due to the vast difference in levels in the company. A month ago, we were at this party from where he offered to drop me home and I offered him to come over for a drink, which he accepted and well, we ended up kissing, petting & had oral sex. While it was good as long as it lasted, at office we kept our distance and spoke little in the next few weeks. I tried calling him a couple of times, but he seemed evasive at first. Later he admitted that he considered me special, but was too just messed up in his head. Might even leave the company in the next few months 2 be with his wife. Is there anything I can do to be with him?
2007-11-23 04:22:20 · 30 answers · asked by Fast C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just wanted to add that both of us are men and also, he did make the first move on the night we got together. I am obviously not expecting him to leave his wife. But just be with him for a good time.
2007-11-23 04:38:53 · update #1
First I assume you are single, and by "to be with him" I assume you mean leave his wife and marry you. Lady, you are playing with fire and following emotions rather than logic. No matter what happens, you will be the baddie; the one that broke up his marriage. Also, how you feel now may not be the same later (for neither of you) and what's happened now may be in one or both of your minds later, causing suspicions and distrust. I think you should sever the relationship, and if he leaves the company the better for both of you .- and then get a life of your own. Time is a marvelous healer, and there are a lot of good single men out there, probably even more your type (without strings attached). Stay busy, do not dwell on this incident, chalk it up as experience and get on with your life. Good Luck
2007-11-23 05:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by Bumpers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was really good, are you sure you can stop at once? I see nothing wrong with it, you didn't break any vows.. that's totally on him. Just don't let emotions develop for him. I was married at your age to a married man who left his wife for me, he was 14 years older. We were married for 23 years an had 3 kids together. We divorced a couple of years ago because I found a married man closer to my age 5 years ago.
2016-05-25 02:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, where is his wife? If he's leaving the company to be with his wife... is she in another state?
Now, let me give you some background of my experience... when I was single, I messed around with a married man, and he ended up leaving his wife and now I am married to him...
If he's leaving the company to get away from the situation between the two of you... then there's your answer, hun. He might not want to pursue the relationship you two might have. I left my husband when I was first seeing him... sometimes it's best to let them go and give them room to think and make a concious decision on who they want to be with...
Also, keep in mind, if you do end up with him... are you going to be able to trust him... knowing that he cheated on his wife with you... or are you going to wonder if he's being true to you and if you really are the one to change him...
2007-11-23 04:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by navymujer_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it and move on.
He's married and unlikely to leave his wife.
If he leaves his wife, there will be repercussions.
If there are kids it's going to be messy.
You work for the same company, some companies have fraternization policies.
You had a good time, remember that and move on.
2007-11-23 04:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by Dan H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never underestimate the powers of the flesh. This married man only wanted you for sex. This sounds like a typical married man that I went out with who used me and tossed me aside like toilet paper.
Don't ever be number 2 and get on with your life. I did and I'm proud to be number 1 again.
2007-11-23 04:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey whay would you want to put your self out there like that? You knew that he is married, do you really think that anything good will come out of this want to be relationship? He is trying to say he got what he wanted from you and now he is going to move on!!! Just be blessed that your compnay hasn't found out about this, if they do you will loose your job. And also he is married.
2007-11-23 04:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by kelly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to put a damper on your happiness, but if I were you, I'd stay away from him. Stuff like this happens, but he's married.. and obviously he cares about his wife more, since he's considering leaving the company to be with her.
2007-11-23 04:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by sara 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No trust someone who has been in your position get out while your ahead. Any further advances would be a heartbreaking mistake on your half. This guy got what he wanted, its over let it be. Your in for a long road of heartache if you dont and he still wont be yours
2007-11-23 04:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by theroseinbloom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...he is married and works for the same company. Put it out of your head and get on with your life and stay away from him.
2007-11-23 04:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
one friend of mine, he has the same story he fall in love with someone at work and also he is married for 2 yrs, but he told me that he is trying to leave his company because he got a strong feelings for the other person, i think that u should try to talk to him about your feelings, let him know how important is him for you, good luck :D
2007-11-23 04:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by janth2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋