You send him and his wife Christmas cards, Thanksgiving cards, and birthday cards. They nevre send me cards and they never acknowledge getting any of my cards. I always have to ask, "Did you get our card?" Then, I get a half-***, "Oh yeah, thanks".
Would you say something, keep sending as always, or stop sending them cards?
2007-11-23 04:14:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No matter what- say nothing. I had this happen to me with family members and friends of 20+ years. I chalked it up to the fact that maybe I was more organized and/or thoughtful. Sometimes others don't act of the same niceties but that doesn't make them bad people. I decided not to go out of my way anymore except when it is most appropriate (loss in family, etc.). If you truly don't mind the lack of reciprocation and wish to remain true to your tradition, then, by all means, keep sending those cards. You are a bigger person for not caring if they return the thoughtfulness. Just remember it will be for your own benefit rather than theirs. It's your choice and either way is fine.
2007-11-23 04:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by salleo14 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some friends and I are thinking about not sending a certain person cards anymore. One of our friends, called her and she was very cold with our friend. She barely could say "bye" in a nice polite way.
The person NEVER sends us cards, and I have a feeling, she could care less if she knows us anymore. Some people change over the
years and not always for the better.
2015-04-01 19:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you put up with it for 10+ years, I don't know why suddenly it's an issue......Go with your gut feelings, do you still want them as friends? If you don't care one way or the other, stop sending them cards.....If you feel it might affect your friendship, then keep sending the cards.....They are really wrong and you are just a sweetheart, I personally would not ask them if they received the cards. Make sure your return address is on the envelope and if there is an error of any sort the postman will return it to you.My personal opinion is, they feel like they are so popular and important that they do not need to reciprocate, it's a put down to you, and you are an enabler...
2007-11-23 14:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by mj 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This person has been like this for ten years and you're just now getting mad? Part of being a friend is accepting a person for who they are, you're not doing that here. Yeah, it's a little rude, but they've been like this for ten years, so this is just how they are. By sticking around and continuing to call yourself a friend, you've shown that you accept this! Since this is not something that is going to change, that means YOU have to change. Decide if you can just send the cards and trust that they are being appreciated and knowing that you will not get the reciprocity you want, or if you need to just stop sending the cards. I would have said something ten years ago when it first started, by not saying anything and allowing this to build up over this long a period of time, you have allowed the situation to come to a point it never should have gotten to.
2007-11-23 04:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree. Stop sending them cards. They don't appreciate them.
Stop wasting your time on these people (at least as far as cards are concerned). Save your money or send the cards to friends and family who will appreciate the thoughtfulness behind them.
2007-11-23 04:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do no longer worry with regard to the Dad's relatives. How will they understand what you provide as a latest? they'd think of you sent something before in the event that they do no longer see you return in with something. although, i think of the ideal way is to get something small, yet own, and write in a card "i understand I sent you a latest already, yet i had to get you something extra own" that way if she would not remember and has to invite she would be waiting to sense undesirable no longer you, which potential she would be waiting to no longer ask or ask for forgiveness for forgetting or no longer sending a thank you card. as properly it would not appear as if this bathe is in basic terms to get presents, considering she already has what she needs from the 1st one, and because that's lots smaller (own) it variety of feels extra like this bathe is extra of a accumulating of the folk she needs to have in her infants life while it starts off, so congrats on the compliment and probably write something approximately that it the cardboard too. solid success and be confident to have relaxing on the bathe.
2016-10-17 21:48:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends...if they aren't that great of friends stop sending cards but if they are good friends tell them how you feel. let them know, that a simple call saying they got the cards would suffice.
2007-11-23 07:01:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rainey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bother sending them any more cards. You're just waisting your time and money.
2007-11-23 06:27:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop sending immediately
Say nothing
Find more appreciative friends
2007-11-23 04:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
they are dead to me
stop sending the cards
2007-11-23 05:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by HAND F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋