It was the second time this week! How can I get my son to stop acting in such an unGodly way! Is there some special chastity belt or cream Christians can buy to keep him from accessing his sin point?
My pastor suggested that he be forced to confess his sin openly in Church, but it hasn't stopped him.
What to do???
2007-11-23 04:13:47 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Get him a hooker and start giving him a weekly allowance of $100. That'll stop him from touching himself.
2007-11-23 04:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by WhatsYourProblem 4 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Well, unless you want to publicly humiliate him and bring his permanent hatred of you, the church and all the narrow minded thinking that you and the pastor are putting forth, you bet not make himn confess his "Sin" in public.
He is acting in a very natural way. He is becoming aware of his sexuality. If you were not aware of sexual function he would never have been born.
Cream - chastity belt - Are you living in the dark ages? This is a human being you are speaking about. You son. You flesh and blood. Are you trying to hurt him emotionally for the rest of his life. Are you trying to tellhim that the emotions he is experienceing, like every other boy his age, as wrong? He is human.
Remember this, if you make a big problem of it, he will nly hide his activities, you will possibly stunt his sexual development and make him feel that sex, quite a natural function as YOU know, is bad he may never marry.
Perhaps your best option is to be his loving and caring Mom. DO not make such an issue of things that he is experiencing. Keep him as your Son and not as your enemy. He needs your support. He must get through this time in his life and you need to let him understand that he is a boy.
Help him, Don't hurt him. Be his loving Mother and not run an inquisition. Above all do not crive him away from you and from the church because you have caused him such humiliation.
As for your pastor, He should seek help. How could any man with the slighted sense of understanding and humanity suggest such a thing. What narrow minded bigotry. Who is this man who would make your son suffer such an experience? Not a true man of god - that is a certainty. Where is the understanding, love, kindness, caring that your Lord preached? Obviously missing in this man's church.
2007-11-23 04:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by organbuilder272 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming your religion teaches you that this is a horrible sin? You didn't mention how old your son is, but at any age, it's very normal for a child to "touch the sin point". The older they get, the more they touch it.
If you truly believe it is a sin, then you should probably talk to him about your beliefs. I'm not saying it'll help, but it's the proper way to start.
You shouldn't allow the pastor's suggestion. I can't even believe he suggested such a thing.That would totally mortify and humiliate your son, and he'd most likely seriously rebel against you and your church. Maybe it would be helpful to speak to other parents with the same beliefs as you to see how they handled the "problem".
Other than that, you can get him a door lock, teach him how to use it, and when you think he is accessing his sin point, rather than run in on him, get down on your knees and pray to your god.
2007-11-23 04:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Dottie928 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a child to be "touching" themselves is natural. To confess it openly a service is HIGHLY UN-NATURAL and potentially harmful to the child's psyche!! Are you such a prude that you took it as such a major calamity! ACT as if it's no big deal and talk to him about it while doing dishes or making cookies with his help. If you sit him down and come across as an interrogator, he'll shut you out, he may hear what you say, but won't listen. Most children grow out of this stage in life. In order for a sin to be committed, first there must be knowledge that it is a sin, then he has to be able to make that choice (the age of reason), And lastly has to willingly engage in what is a sin. It's time to be a parent and NOT an inquisitor!
2007-11-23 04:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by keydoto 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I hope you are not in New Zealand where a parent was sentenced the other day for smacking their child with an open hand. So be careful what you do to the child as it can be seen as physical and verbal abuse in most countries now.
I would suggest that you to talk to him at his level about the sexual activity where masturbating can become addictive and he wont be able to stop. In the long run you can say you will end up in trouble with the law if you keep doing it. That's if a person does it in public. Think lateral about the discussion and really talk to the child and explain yourself. Remember, if your child loves and respects you as a child should then I think that the child should follow your advise.
2007-11-23 04:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Drop short and duck 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let us not be ignorant or downright stupid!
All babies explore their bodies. They learn quickly that touching their sex organs feels good. This is a natural and normal part of their development. They should be allowed to enjoy this. If we yell at them or slap their hands, they'll do it anyway — but they'll feel guilty about it. And they won't trust us later in life when they're looking for guidance about sex. It's also important that kids know that bowel movements and urinating are normal and healthy functions.
Three to Five
By the time they are three, kids are ready to know that women and men have different sex organs. Talk about it the same way we talk about elbows and noses, fingers and toes. Always use the right names for sex organs. Say "vulva," "penis," and "breasts," instead of family or street words. Otherwise, kids may get the idea that something is "wrong" with these parts of the body.
2007-11-23 04:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by wolfass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://members.optusnet.com.au/~austbua/masturbation-sin.htm
How masturbation became known as a sin... By the 1600’s both the Roman Catholic church and the newly arrived Protestants were so obsessed with the supposed sin of masturbation that it was not uncommon for boys to be sent to bed wearing a steel box (like a cricketer’s ‘box’) with spikes inside it to discourage erections and prevent the boy from masturbating. I bet it worked a treat!
2007-11-23 05:45:44 · answer #7 · answered by Martin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor pity your child if you are serious, and if your not, well you are a jerk in spades.
If you want to the create the next serial killer of the 2020, 2025,6,7,8,9.>>>>> then by all means, put him up in front of your congregation, and humiliate your own child.
But if you do that, I hope someone takes him away from you, because you are not fit, to raise a rattlesnake.
To think that there really are people like you out there, scares the **** out of me.
2007-11-23 04:50:01 · answer #8 · answered by cassandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never said how old the kid was, or whether he was going to the bathroom. If it's an infant and grasping the front of his diaper, he probably just soiled himself and will have that oh oh look on his face. If he is grasping the back end, he packed them ful of solids.
2007-11-23 04:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where in the Bible exactly does it say that masturbation is wrong?
It really doesn't refer exactly to that act. You should be happy that he's just doing that instead of out with Prostitutes.
So as a "Christian Parent" I suggest you go and get him a copy of Playboy.
2007-11-23 04:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by tb19891989 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry but he confessed his sin OPENLY in Church. Do you think that was embarrassing for him.
How about you sit down and talk to him? How old is he?
I agree with the man above me (i think)...he's not hurting anyone!!
2007-11-23 04:18:56 · answer #11 · answered by twdy412 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋