my mom slaps me when ever my sister or brother tell on me... hard. she yells at me when i dont go find something of hers that she lost (and shell be waching tv while i go find it) shes contently on my case and not on my bros or sisters... i feel like im living with a stranger, any advise? i havent talked to her about it but im scared shell get mad or yell at me... PLEASE HELP ME!!!
2007-11-23 04:04:35 · 6 answers · asked by Brown Eyed G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I had same problem..tell her next time she slaps you..in calm voice..I hope you enjoyed that..because if you ever lay another hand on me..I will call the police..My mother never hit me again..If she does hit you ,, call the police..that is child abuse..also..tell your mom you understand it must be hard to be a mom and have all the responsibility, but it's also hard being a kid and she is the adult and if she cant handle taking good care of you , then maybe she needs help..good luck!
2007-11-23 04:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by ibsawdust 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do know what you mean. I had a similar experience. You need to talk to an aunt or uncle about this, who can speak to your mom about getting the help she needs. My mother is manic depressive and she acted a lot like yours does. She sought help but not until I was already an adult - and now our relationship is better. I don't suggest telling your mom you'd like her to get help directly because she will probably become mad. Good luck, and I empathize with you completely.
2007-11-23 12:10:27 · answer #2 · answered by Olivia J 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of what you have done, slapping you and making you afraid of your own mother is not acceptable. I am glad you see that. Its step nr 1. in avoiding this intolerable situation. Step nr 2 you have also taken, but your mother did not take the challenge. So i suggest you to talk to mother when she is in a good mood. Tell her that you have a secret that you want to discuss with her, but that she must promise not to slap you for telling it to her. If she accepts shake her hands and then tell that what you are now going to share is no accussation, only a description of your feelings as a child in your family. Then sit down, and ask her if she ever have been afraid of anyone before. If she cannot recollect that, tell her that you are so very afraid of someone. Then when she asks you of whom then withold your answer, say, that you dont dare to tell. Make yourself a little expensive on this point. Then her curiosity might rise and she will ask you more intensively. At last you tell her that it is her youre afraid of... and...then ask her if she ever has experienced to be beaten or slapped herself. (research shows that almost every parent slapping their child has been slapped themselves, but many deny that) If she admits that, then you will know for sure that she herself have been very scared for that person. Step 4 is to talk serously about "the beaten child in her", and befriend it. Parents like me are children too, deep inside of us. Very often scared children. I wish you very good luck on this. Its sooo difficult to succeed and I must often forbid parents in my doctor clinic to spank or slap. Perhaps my advice is ridiculous in your situation. Hopefully its to some help. Andros
2007-11-23 13:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by Andros 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
FIND SOMEONE IN YOUR FAMILY, school or church that you can trust to talk to. This has to be stopped one way or another. It is not a good situation for her or you or even the family. And if she happens to slug you just right she could cause damage to your hearing, cause a skull fracture and even kill you.
This is not the way to grow up and can even affect how you later raise your children. It will just go on and on down the generations. So STOP IT NOW. get some help.
Good luck.
2007-11-23 12:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by Lyn B 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The same prob was with my best friend.You should go talk to an adult you trust or school guidance counselor about this because believe it or not this is classified as child abuse.
This should not go on any longer.Talk to someone about the situation,it'll make everything worth while.
2007-11-23 13:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by RockChic5 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to speak to an adult that you trust, for example teacher, neighbor, your friends parents. if you don't then you need to contact a child protection help line. if you are still at school then your school will have a child protection officer that you can speak to and they will support you. What your mom is doing is wrong and you should not have to put up with it. let us know your OK when its sorted x
2007-11-23 12:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋