Parents whooping kids in public?

Question

I've seen parents whoop and sometimes cuss their kid out in public because the kid acts out. Is this right or wrong? How do you disipline a kid when they act out in public? What's the best way?

Sarita you probably one of the main culprits! SMH

Louie I understand that, but if they're spanking the child for all to see, then it is my business, not to mention the rest of the public.

Louie I understand that, but if they're spanking the child for all to see, then it is my business, not to mention the rest of the public.

Whooping is basically another term for spanking..sorry I didn't clarify.

I just feel there are other ways to discipline a child other than whooping them for all the public to see. and I've seen some parents go overboard with it.

kleigh all the attitude is not necessary. if you don't like the question, all you had to do is skip it instead of making snide remarks. and like you, I have a right to my opinion...SMH @ some people....

Answer 1

I dont whoop kids, or cuss them out- that is wrong.

I think some times the same spanking you always give is needed in public- kids will try to get away with things they know they cant when out in public, and they get away with it because parents are afraid to implement their usual punishment where others can see them.

If you're punishing your child with love you wont be ashamed to punish the child whenever or where ever its needed.

Iam a big supporter of leaving the shopping cart in the check out lane and maching your toddler out to the car for a time out if its needed. Of a good talking to, a stern warning, and then a spank if its needed, and even a removal from the store or where ever to go sit in the car with you for a time out.

What bothers me are people who shove and yell and curse at their kids in public.. makes me wonder what the hell they do where people CANT see them.

Answer 2

To answer the first part of the question, spanking and cussing your kid in public is not a matter of right and wrong. It's just parents not knowing what else to do to get their kids back in line. I am not OK with either. If I was something that I found to be abusive, I would (and have) step in. There are some situations where it becomes your business.
As for the second part of the question, every situation and every child is different. Is the child sick, or tired?
Sometimes it;s best to ignore the behavior when it happens and deal with it when you get home or out to the car. Sometimes it's best just to leave. But it is always best to keep your cool and not embarrass yourself or your child.

Answer 3

If a child runs out into public without waiting for a parent's hand... or into a parking lot... there is nothing wrong with a spanking. Nothing wrong with that.

Cussing them out is definitely wrong. Swearing at your children, no matter how angry you are, is not appropriate. A simple swat or two on the bottom, however, is fine. It's not abusive.

If a parent was to BEAT the child, then sure, I'd be raising a stink.

Answer 4

We need to stop seeing discipline as wrong. I'm not sure what you mean by "whooping." If a parent is hitting their kid all over the place, that's not right at home or in public. But a swat on the butt with an open hand can really set a kid straight. I did it, only had to do it a couple of times while my kids were growing up, but they're perfectly well adjusted now that they're older. Getting a spanking or two never warped them. (And they're a lot more respectful than some kids I've seen whose parents let them get away with everything.)

It's not our place to step in when a parent is disciplining their child. True, I would probably take him or her to the restroom for that, but no, no one does have the right to stop a parent who swats her child on the tush.


Edit: lol Okay. That's what my mom always called a spanking, but I was sure what you meant by it. Some people have different ideas of what "whooping" is than others.

Answer 5

Personally, I will leave the store with the child. If they can't mind in public, they are removed from the public situation. It works for us. Spanking used effectively may work for some parents but it would not work for us for various reasons and we've decided not to do it.

But I've said it before and I'll say it again and I don't care how many thumbs down I get - there are parents who physically punish their child in public specifically to "show" other people around them that they're in control. They lose their cool and in order to save face they take it out on the child. I have seen it happen many times.

Answer 6

I dont cuss at my kids. I do how ever smack their butts if its needed. In public if I have to as well. If after the 3rd time my kid is still running out between cars and almost getting hit, your darn right Im smacking their butt! Its my personal belief its the people who think all spanking and dicipline are evil are the ones messing up the future generation of kids. Most kids could use an old fashioned spanking like we used to get before all this bull of "be their best friend...not their parent" crap happened. You dont know for a fact what led up to the spanking. If it progresses past a dicipline spank to blatent abuse, then it becomes a public issue. But a regular quick 2-3 tap on their tushy is not abuse. Spanking is a personal family issue and its no one elses business unless the dicipline crosses the abuse line. Most dont but busy body people like to think they know it all and assume its all bad. There is no one best way. Each family must figure it out for themselves. You must let it go unless it passes into abuse.

Answer 7

I have taken my children outside of the store to the parking lot to administer some swats to the rear end from time to time. I do this as a favor to the other patrons, so they don't have to listen to the crying, but I am not willing to allow my children to misbehave just because they are in public, and sometimes a spanking is absolutely the appropriate punishment. (A spanking in my lexicon, by the way, is three firm swats to the rear end, no more and no less.) I don't believe it is EVER okay to swear at or belittle your children. I do believe it is vitally important to be consistent, whether you're in public or not.

Answer 8

I always say things to parents when I see that but my mom once told me that the kid probably pays the price when they get home but I can't help myself I can't stand people being mean to kids. sometimes if I see something about to happen I will often try to make eye contact with the mom and say - I know it's hard to be a parent Or if the kids look my way I will try to be sympathetic.

When my kids were little, if they started acting out, I would just tell them we were going to have to leave and then I would follow through. One time walking out on something (like a movie or a play date) that they were looking forward to and chances are they won't forget.

Answer 9

very difficult to see i know, it is mostly upsetting to my children to see other children being abused in front of them, when my eldest where young and acted up we went home immediately, sometimes that meant i had to do the shopping all over, but they learned quickly if they wanted to go with me they needed to listen and behave, but i have always made going out even to the grocery store an adventure for them, taking Polaroids of items we need for them to find and things like that, and letting them know ahead of time the mission and we were only getting what we came to get, i have not had any problems with my one and two year old yet in public but i suspect i will handle it the same way

Answer 10

Get down to your child's level and try to reason with them. If they fail to listen to you, then you should give them a little spank on the behind. If they don't listen then take them out of the public place to a prive and secluded area and spank some more. But according to our modern day society, you are not allowed to spank your kids anymore. It worked for me when I was young. I don't understand why we as a society have become such pussys when it comes to certain issues.

Answer 11

1. warning
2. get close enough to tell the child and tell them if it keeps up they will stand at the wall with their nose to the wall for all to see.
3. put on the wall.
4. one spank on the butt.

And if no one likes it I will spank their butt as well.