This is amazing but, the other day i was looking for a clinic and I accidently ended up at a nursing home. While i was in there i striked up a conversation with some of the residents in the nursing home. My heart was broken into pieces after finding out that many of them do not have family or anyone who visits them and that daily they feel lonely and abandoned. I know it was God who sent me there to visit with them. How about you is God calling you to visit those that feel lonely or abandoned?
2007-11-23 02:55:28 · 7 answers · asked by Tx Guy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I use to. When I had my daughter I called a nursing home to see if I could still do this but bring my daughter and they told me No. Too bad. Since the one thing I seemed to notice when I went places with my daughter (she was 2 at the time) is old people would just stop and talk to her. Apparently they seemed to miss little kids and she seemed to delight them. I wish nursing homes would see this and allow children (who aren't related) to visit the older people. I think it can bring them joy but also be good for the children as well. I know for some people it is hard to look at the very old people but try very HARD to look at their spirit / soul - look into their eyes - they want and need the interaction and will come to look forward to your visits.
Yes......everyone go visit the nursing homes. ALOT of those people do NOT get visitors. Especially, the very old ones. Most of their family live far away and are elderly as well or their family is already dead. Please think about them and how lonely they must feel. :-( One day (but I hope not for me) you may be in their shoes too. The old are us only before we have arrived there.
2007-11-23 03:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I've been there, done this. In the final analysis you must take care of you. If you don't who will take on your monumental tasks? Tell both of your parents that you will take care of them to the extent that you are ABLE and that your partner goes where you go. They will not refuse him if you let them know that you are not going to help unless they stop being so controlling over you. You have the right to be happy, so do what it takes to be happy. If that's as simple as having access to your partner, so be it. They will accept him before they will lose you because of it. IF you don't want to hurt any feelings, become a nun, live in a cave, come on, be practical, You can't have it both ways. If you hurt some feelings, don't forget yours were hurt too. Set some limits, live your life in spite of what your parents are going through. This too shall pass and one day you will look back and still think you could have done more. This is guilt associated with the grief you will feel after your parents are gone. You can't do anything about it but cope. Your parents control you now, learn that the only one you can control is you, don't be manipulated. You can still care for your parents and not be controlled by them. Try it. Good Luck.
2016-05-25 02:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by krystle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that family and friends come first with that directive. The families and friends of those elderly patients should be ashamed of them selves. I visited both my Grand Parents when they were in Nursing Homes. I visited my Mom when she was hospitalized and helped by giving my sister breaks when Mom was sent home under hospices care. Last weekend I drove a friend to an emergency room at 4 a.m. and visited twice then brought her home to recover from surgery on Sunday. I could go on and on about this but the point I want to make is that there are plenty of persons whom we know personally that deserve our time and attention. I will not feel guilty about not visiting total strangers.
2007-11-23 03:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by PrivacyNowPlease! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hurts that sometimes we need a push to visit these places. To get moved an encouraged to visit those places alone really takes something. Visiting places such as these with more friends is better because we feel we have help and less confused.
THen after a few visits, we become accustomed to go alone and also spread the desire to others.
2007-11-23 03:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by John F McKillop 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My church and Bible Club visit the nursing homes around town. The Bible Club also sometimes goes to a home for mentally challenged adults. Those people love it when we come. They may have no others, and that breaks my heart. That's why I go whenever I get the chance.
2007-11-23 03:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by SFECU12 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A lot of churches set aside some time during the week to visit a nursing home(s) in the local area.
If you feel inspired to organize and lead the group in your church, ask your pastor if you can depend on his/her help, (or at the very least his/her approval) and start up a "serving senior citizens" ministry in your church.
2007-11-23 03:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by Linda J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not christian and I do this.
2007-11-23 03:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by Keltasia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋