My son is 7 and giving me a hard time about forcing him to go with me into the womens bathroom. He complains that he is old enough to go into the mens alone.
2007-11-23 02:54:10 · 11 answers · asked by sunshine 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would think that if he is expressing this to you it might be time.
I know this will be hard to let him do, just wait outside and let him go. I would probably walk him there until he would not let me do that either.
Mine are not old enough yet (and they are girls) but I totally understand your reservations.
2007-11-23 02:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
My son is almost 7 and I will not let him to go in a men's room alone. I did once - in an uncrowded Denny's where I had had a clear view of the bathrooms for quite a while and was sure there was no one else in there at all. I don't see what the big deal is of going in the women's room. It's not like anyone sees each other's private parts in there, since everyone is in a stall.
2007-11-23 14:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by Driver 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends where you are and what sort of people are around. I stand outside for a couple of minutes and see who's going in and out. If they make me nervous, mine comes with me. If they're dads and/or smartly dressed, I let mine go in alone and wait outside the door. He knows he's to yell if anything happens.
And if a dad comes along and goes in with his own boys while I'm checking, sometimes I'll ask him to just keep an eye on mine. You can't be sure, but some things can make you more confident that it's going to be OK.
Mine's 8, btw, but not very tall.
2007-11-23 05:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where we are and how busy the place is but I think 7 is good. If we are on a road trip or out of town he always goes with me for safety sake. However my son is very good at reading people and if he feels the slightest bit uncomfortable with someone in the bathroom he wont go but will come out immediately.
2007-11-23 07:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by billie b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an eight year old boy..we had this discussion for years. He would be in the ladies room with me and insist on telling everyone.."I'm not a girl. I'm a boy! But my mom won't let me use the boys room!"
That is a joy to hear while you are peeing..lol.
In the past...
If I know that the public restroom is a "one or two seater" I will let him go in alone. I check to make sure its empty first and then I stand right there.
If it was a bigger restroom in a big venue (Walmart, county fair, etc) then I would make him come with me..explaining to him that there are too many people..and I don't want to lose him and that there are some people that are mean to children..not all..but some.
There are too many creep-oids out there. Until you know that your child is old enough to run, kick, scream, bite or just learn to trust their instincts...keep them with you.
I am JUST starting to let him go on his own...he understands..you go in...you don't talk to anyone..if anyone talks to you you come right out...and i stand right there with my foot in the door...men understand it.
Give him a little leash with the little rest rooms..or family rooms...it will make him feel like a "big boy" and he won't give you as much grief other times.
2007-11-23 03:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by foxinsox 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My son is 7 and he goes to the men's room. (not totally alone though) I wait for him outside the door and count off the seconds while he's in there. (or my hubby goes in with him).
I'm not too worried about something happening to him while in there (for the minute it takes)...he knows about proper touching etc and is rather vocal regardless. Besides, I'm right outside the door so if I think that he's taking longer than his normal time...I simply go in after him. (I haven't had to do that yet thank the Lord).
2007-11-23 04:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Sunshine 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This will only depend on the safety and security of the place that you are in. This will also depend on how comfortable he is going into the bathroom alone and how comfortable you letting him go. I don't think under 6 should go by themselves ever and too bad if the ladies in the ladies room don't like it.
2007-11-23 11:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by Debbie Pink 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then he is old enough. When they start asking to go alone then its time. Just stand by the door and wait for him.
2007-11-23 14:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by sarah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make your husband or boyfriend or his dad go in with him
hes still to young if they arent with you he goes to the womens room.
a 12 year old boy was molested in a kmart bathroom where i live. and he was alone at a urinal i say 7 is too young
also teach him to always go in the stall and lock the stall door,
never use a urinal
2007-11-23 04:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
he is plenty old enough to go by himself ,, my grand son is the same age and he goes by himself just stand out side the door and wait on him
2007-11-23 02:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by nutnnice69er 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋