me and my bf have been together for 2 months and we both know that the other isnt a virgin. at what point do u think it would be ok to have sex? and PLEASE no one answer that we should wait till marrage cause we already havent and i know we won't.
2007-11-23 02:00:27 · 30 answers · asked by Paige 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whenever you are both emotionally and physically ready. If you trust each other and are comfortable with each other then it should be fine, as long as neither one of you is pressured to have sex.
My bf and I dated unofficially for a long time, and then two months after being official, we made love for the first time because we deeply care for each other and we are in love. (I was a virgin and he wasn't, but it was a great feeling to make love to him).
The decision is up to you based on how you feel about your boyfriend. Please don't have sex just out of fun or just because everyone else is doing it. And practice safe sex. =)
Hope this helps.
2007-11-23 02:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It varies from relationship to relationship. So I think it depends on when the two of you are comfortable enough with each other. And you are both protected and you know each other's past. If it feels right and you are on birth control and all that, then 2 months sounds long enough to wait.
I'm not sure of your age though. This doesn't apply if you're 12. I'm assuming here that you are at least 16.
2007-11-23 02:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it was me i wouldn't be having sex that early in a relationship. You need to do it when you're ready and comfortable and make sure he loves you. You just shouldn't have sex because your in a relationship because if thats the case then males are going to think all they have to do is be in a relationship with you to get in your pants and then they will try to label you as a hoe and it's not worth it. Just give it a little time and just make sure you love him and he loves you and you won't regret the decision you chose because sex is supposed to be a mean something to you. If you can wake up in the morning after you and respect yourself and he can continue to respect you as a person then it should be ok.
2007-11-23 02:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more like 20 DATES-not a length of time.
If you get together and hang out, and PLAY A GAME or talk and don't make-out all the time.(you have to get out of bed eventually.)
If you are over the age of 17.(Otherwise, too young, and vulnerable.Too easy to confuse sex with love-even adults do.)
I think you should know more about each other, and be more comfortable.
Sex is easy, relationship is hard.
Discuss what form of protection (from disease) and birth control you WILL use. If you can't, you are not ready.
USE protection, until you are safely married to great daddy materal and very happy, before having any unprotected sex with anyone.
2007-11-23 02:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both know that the other isnt a virgin, why do you care so much abt sex. You dun even want to wait and you know you cant wait so even if you were to ask opinions around, are you going to heal others advice here.
2007-11-23 02:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by Mermaid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say 3 months into the relationship and you are sure. You have to be ready emotionally and psychically. And when you think the time is right, then make love. But don't do it when you aren't ready or else you will regret doing it.
2007-11-23 02:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by sierra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were to put a time frame on it i would say after dating a month atleast or when the two of your are comfortable. i think less then a month looks kinda trashy. you dont want a relationship based on sex. give time to get to know the person before your ripping eachothers cloths off..
2007-11-23 02:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its ok to have sex when you know them like after a month to me is fine because ur still infatuated it takes time to be 'in love' so just enjoy the new relationship sex it isnt a bad thing to enjoy sex you know!it shouldnt be complicated like this its a beautiful natural thing two people ca do together!
2007-11-23 02:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At whatever point you both feel comfortable. Honestly, if things are going well then it might be worth it to just go for it. Good communication, trust, love...all of that reflects in good sex. As soon as you guys hit that point I say go for it!
2007-11-23 02:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by ivyheatherclover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think there's any set rule about this. It should happen when BOTH people feel that the time is right. One shouldn't put pressure on the other.
2007-11-23 02:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋