I had a very good relationship with my partner that called it off because she said that she is not ready to commit yet. We live in different towns about 4 hours away & met on the internet. The chemistry was incredible. She called it off a couple weeks ago because she said that she was not being fair to me & that she was not going to hurt me. She said she did not want to commit and that she was not leaving her job or where she worked. She said she needed to finish her therapy before she was ready for any relationship and that I had been through enough shitty relaionships & she was not going to contribute to it. I get a text message from her once in a great while. For Thanksgiving she sent me a Big warm thanksgiving hug & said that I was a part of her and she carried our experiences together in her heart always. We both love each other no doubt, but she is not ready to commit or leave her job of 8 years or the town she lives in. I can not leave where I live either. What do you do?
2007-11-23 01:43:03 · 2 answers · asked by J.J. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How many times are you going to post this?
2007-11-23 01:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok that bottom answer is just rude! people post things over and over to get other people opinion oviously! thats a rough situation to be in. but to be blunt and completely honest one of you two is going to have to quit there jobs and move with the other. you cant carry on a relationship on those terms. the love might be there but with love comes the pros and cons. sacrifices have to be made. thats probably why she called it off. she loves you, but she doesnt see it going any further then a long distance relationship. the whole things about not being ready for a relationship was probably just an excuse cause she didnt know how to break it off. shes probably set in her ways and doesnt want to move but at the same time isnt going to force you. i would have a serious heart to heart and see if there isnt some way that one of you two cant move with the other and take that relationship to the next level. thats only if your ready and you dont want to lose her. if shes sending text and keeping contact im pretty sure she still loves you too. but your at the point that your going to have to decide what is more important. your job or losing the love of your life.
2007-11-23 01:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by Lucky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋