My fiance and I will be getting married in the Dominican Republic next year. He wants to get married in the city where he's from and I would like to get married in the capital where I'm from. What should I do.
2007-11-23 01:32:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Talk about it and find a compromise. If one of you gets the location let the other pick something that is very important to them. If that doesn't work figure out which is more realistic. If 75% of the people coming are from one town go with that so its easier on guests.
2007-11-26 19:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your choices are:
home town
capital
neither
both
There's the moment you commit 100% to each other, which doesn't matter where you are.
There's the moment you say the words out loud and make promises - just have to be around someone to officiate.
And there's the ceremony (if there is one) which requires a location, but can be anywhere.
If you two want to share your promises with family and community from places that are important to you, there's no reason you can't do that in both places. Or you could pick somewhere that's beautiful and invite everyone there.
Congratulations on your wedding.
And congratulations on this opportunity to practice working out a hard problem. Talk it through calmly. Don't fold your arms and take a hard position (either of you). Think creatively about WHY each of you wants what you do. I think you'll find a creative solution that speaks to what both of you want.
2007-11-23 09:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding is really for the bride and her mother after that it's the grooms mother then the groom.
Men don't usually care about weddings the way women do.
They are usually quite happy to let the women plan things.
I think you should get married in your capital and honeymoon and have a reception in the DR for his friends and family.
Otherwise if he can afford two weddings do one in the capital and one in the DR.
good luck!
2007-11-23 10:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by mrmilo02020 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you truely love him it will not mater were the wedding is as long as you two are together.If he is so up with this then have it at his hometown then if if the wedding lasts that long renew your love in your hometown.Show him you love him by leting him have it his way for the day.Who knows maybe you will injoy your self.But don't make your first fight over where your wedding is going to be.There will be enough time for fighting after you get married.Good luck and hope things work out for both of you.
2007-11-23 10:43:06 · answer #4 · answered by the answerman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of the pros and cons of each location. Ask yourself how many guests will have to travel based on where you get married, what the costs are in each location, etc., and try to determine which of you feels more strongly about this. Whichever one of you gives in should get something else they want in the wedding.
2007-11-23 09:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jen70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out about the options for your wedding in each town and discuss it together... if he is worried about his family not traveling consider traveling to his hometown for a special family dinner afterwards for those who could not make it..
I would say get married where you both live but I am guessing it is not in the same country..
2007-11-24 00:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by hitchnj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....find a mid point between both your countries so both have to travel....OR if you have money to spare....have an engagement party in one and the wedding in the other....(that's what my sister did)....or simply forget about having it in your hometown and do it where you both live.....
it's all about give and take....i'm sure you can find a compromise =)
good luck!
2007-11-23 09:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
traditionally, it is in the brides hometown. i am getting married in my fiances hometown just because it has more options of halls. i agree to have it where it is closer for the guests, if you have to, have it somewhere in the middle of the two places.
2007-11-23 12:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by nytengayle13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking always work - well not always but it does sometimes...
try seeing if you could actually have your wedding in two places as in, you could get married in his hometown, then travel to your hometown to enjoy a your wedding dinner there
you get wat i mean, having a wedding in two places - his howntown n yurs too
it would b one of a kind :]
or you could do sth else tt could help involve your wedding with the two places
2007-11-23 09:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tradition would say that it should be your hometown, but I would say that whatever location will be easiest for the majority of guests should win.
2007-11-23 09:43:24 · answer #10 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋