It really sounds like my bf has the symptoms of ptsd. He was abused by his dad, almost got raped by him, then his dad was arrested, him and his mom lived on the streets for a year, his cat caught on fire and watched it burn, he seen his best friend get killed by a buss right infront of him, all his gf's verbally abused him accept me, etc.....he tells me he feels emotionally muted, even though he makes it feel like he really shows his love for me. Yet, he recently told me he wasnt sure if i wanted to be with him when i took him back(we were together 8 months, he dumped me, saying he was confused, didnt know what he wanted, cuz of his music)i told him i really do want to be with him and when he told me this : just keep in mind that my music comes before everything'' how can he say that? he also says he feels worthless all the time and never ever let go of his past. Im the only gf whos treated him good, and its complicated to know how hes feeling... plz help
2007-11-23 01:17:31 · 3 answers · asked by Canadian19 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When we are together, I feel loved and everything is great.
But when hes away from me, i get a bad feeling and impression
He also blew me off sunday and yesterday, to go play in his band. I feel like a booty call to him, and its like the old days wont ever come back
Im scared ti talk to him and be honest cuz I dont want it to end, and i know its going to lead to him saying he feel worthless and messed up becuz of his past
i also wouldnt make him chose between his music and me, i really do support him on it
I just dont wangt to feel like im not important at all
Well, my position is right now, this is casuing me too much stress. but i can never leave him(i will also have u know i gave him my virginity and it would be a year for us now if we wouldve stayed together in the summer)
This is a **** load on me 2, but i love him too much, and it seriously making my head want to explode
the music he plays is heavy metal, he
2007-11-23 01:18:44 · update #1
- he says he cant tap into his emotions, but i dont get it, cuz when hes with me i feel loved, and why did he want me back in the first place?
2007-11-23 01:20:03 · update #2
Abuse runs in families, abused children usually grow up to be abusive adults. This guy is bad news, people like him will lie, to get you to stay with them.
2007-11-23 01:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs professional help. What you do might do more harm to the both of you. So have a doctor, psychologist, counselor, social worker, priest or someone who is capable of handling him the right way do it for you. You may have the good intentions of helping him, but unequipped to do it correctly. Use you local yellow pages to reach a low-cost to no-cost counselor/psychologist.
2007-11-23 09:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by teajohnsf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get shut he will be like this all his life. He has to get over his past and only he can do it, he does not want to otherwise he would make the attempt by getting help. I think he is using his past as a crutch to excuse his selfishness
2007-11-23 09:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by Scouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋