i cheated with my boyfriend at the weekend there and i thought i wud never do that but the guy i cheated on him with is like prefect and treats me with so much respect but the only thing is that we cant get into a relationship cause he is joining the marines and soon to be shipped away i am guted. i am still goin out with my boyfriend but he treats me like **** and doesnt care at all and sees me when he wants to but i tried to dumped him the other day and he is like oh i will change and he is actually trying i dont think i can break up with him now but i do feel guilty that i cheated on him , but me and the other guy called it quits. shud i tell my bf i cheated on him?
2007-11-23 00:29:11 · 52 answers · asked by maxine m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
listen i have been there i was totally in love with someone that treated me like **** seeing me only on his terms i put up with it cos i was besotted i dont blame you for cheating and say its his fault he should treat you better. yeah tell him what you did it will go 1: he gets scared and realises that he could of lost you and starts treating you better or 2: he will dump you which in my books ain't a bad thing if you are getting treated bad every deserves someone that gives them top priority good luck be honest with him
2007-11-23 02:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by dilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all NO-ONE is perfect. This other guy that you cheated on your boyfriend with, WILL have some flaws, you just haven't found them yet. They may be flaws that you can learn to live with and even love but they are still there and he is NOT perfect!!
Secondly, if you're boyfriend is treating you like **** then get rid. There is no point hanging around in a relationship where you aren't respected. You don't need to tell your boyfriend that you cheated on him unless you want to stay with him and make things work. If you do, then you must tell him, because if he finds out later down the line, he may never forgive you or trust you again.
2007-11-23 00:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by Nicola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the worry is a women would forgive yet she in no way forgets subsequently she in no way rather forgives and with that a deterioration of the marriage and harm has been executed and quite hard to repair, and all marriages are based on believe and communique as quickly as those are broken all bets are off and that is basically a be counted of time before divorce gadgets in this way of violation of believe is slap interior the face to the different occasion and for this reason is often non forgivable offense the consistent questioning if is he/she seeing somebody finally ends up in paranoia and relentless tests and balances, the different occasion senses this and the two events are on side, divorce then turns right into a welcome alleviation quite as quickly as that occurs you may desire to comprehend there have been blunders early on in a dating and you forgave them that became into the 1st mistake which why it finally ends up in cheating cheaters continuously have in them and continuously show the behaviors long before any long term commitments the subject is the different occasion often forgives the different for the flaws and signs and indicators in hopes of securing a dedication, this why others ( outsiders ) are extra effective of recognizing a foul guy or woman than the insider considering they do no longer look to be searching for the dedication and for this reason can choose a guy or woman extra effective. the subject is so difficulty-loose that many BF/ GF finally exchange into marriages ( out of desperation ) while they in no way ought to have even been a BF/ GF at the beginning much less married . divorce is a would desire to mandatory correction to the two events so the two can restart and re evaluate what blunders they made in picking a bigger half and devote in no thank you to repeat such blunders
2016-10-17 21:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by launer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, let's sort this one out.
Your bf treats you badly. But you stay with him anyway.
Then you cheat on him with a guy who "respects" you. The guy must really respect you if he boinked you the first time you met. That's my idea of respect. Oh yes, he's going into the marines in a few days. How convenient. Have you seen his marine uniform yet?
Now you are gong to stay with the bad-boy bf because you feel guilty about the marine boink. Good idea. Continue to be in an abusive relationship because you feel guilty.
Have you ever considered ending this story with a nice simple, "So I walked away from my bf and lived happily ever after"? Okay, so I tried. Do what you want.
2007-11-23 00:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by BC 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Miss Pollard,
I didn't realise that joining the Marines was terminal, and anyone with any depth of emotional intellect and selflessness would be supportive of him if that is what he really wants to do.
Even you deserve to be loved and treated well and also be forgiven for minor offences, but a cheat will always be a cheat and quite frankly it sounds like you deserve eachother.
2007-11-23 00:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by mark_2005_london 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend treats u like s##t why do u stay with him?? just get rid of him, do u need to find someone else first before you will leave? it sounds like you do, maybe you should try being on your own for a while and work out what kind of man u want, jumping from one guy to the next is never wise, find out who u are your self first before seeing anyone again,
In the meantime dump the guy who is treating u bad don't tell him u cheated. xx
2007-11-23 00:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by shala 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2 points of fact:
1. just because someone is joining the marines does not mean you can't carry on a relationship.
2. obviously you don't want to be with your current boyfriend because a. he treated you like crap and b. you cheated on him.
So, therefore, whether you tell him you cheated or not, and whether it means you will be alone for a while or not, you need to get out of your current relationship. It obviously is not healthy since you think there are social issues with it, which I am assuming you also blame for your cheating.
2007-11-23 00:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by Christine M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump this boyfriend and concentrate on the one that is joining the marines. You could still write to each other.
Also it's not a nice thing to be a cheat. How would you feel if he was the one doing the cheating?
2007-11-23 00:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dear. i know being honest and sincer is the best think u should do to have a perfect relationship but it will also make u suffer later. so cheat on ur bf - no problem but just dont tell him. i am sure even he is cheating on u - so r guys.
once u r sure that ur bf is true to u and to ur liking then u can stop on cheating him and be sincer to him. besides if u go out with others u wont be very stressed with ur relationship with ur bf and if u separate then u wont suffer.
so u decide what u want.
2007-11-23 00:35:50 · answer #9 · answered by cooool dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my own personal experience- secrets like this one are never easy to keep and truth be told- everything that is in the dark eventually comes to light. My hubby found out 3 yrs after we got married that I cheated on him through a letter that was written. Not a good way to find out...
Anyways, I'd tell him and I'd tell him why. If this dude loves you as much as he claims to, he will at least try. His behaviour doesnt justify the facts, BUT it is understandable. My hubby was irate (the angry black man) but he understood because of ALL the sh*t he'd put me through. I wish you the best sweetie
2007-11-23 00:35:19 · answer #10 · answered by teri is ambience 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋