My friend has a brain tumor.?

Question

Is there any things i can do?

Answer 1

Give her as much support as you can, remember that a brain tumour can have a big impact on the way a person behaves so be ready for personality changes. This is due to the growth impeding on areas in the brain and causing chemical changes. You must understand that she may act differently and it will be very distressing for her so you need to be prepared and make as little fuss as possible. Support and advice is available for both your friend and you from macmillan cancer support, but bear in mind that it is likely she doesnt want to be treated any differently.

My biggest piece of advice is do not delve into heavily researching her cancer type and outcomes, this is such a common mistake for friends and family. It is fair enough if you want to know more about what is wrong with her and some basic reseach can really help as they will help prepare you. However when you are diagnosed with cancer everyone feels like they should do something and it can feel very much like other people are taking control.

Her control has already been impaired as she has to trust the judgement of health proffesionals, so do not attempt to tell her any information about her condition ever. If she wasnt to know she will ask or find out from herslef. She wont want everyone knowing more about things then she does. Also prognosis is an individual and very subjective issue and survival statistics are created for health proffesionals. Reading information about her prognosis may also subconciesely affect how you treate her. Best of luck to you both and I hope it all works out for the best

Answer 2

Sorry to hear of your diagnosis but you seem to be coping admirably. What I would like to share with you is this. The lady who child minded my sons when they where young was diagnosed with a brain tumour. That was over 20 years ago and she is still alive. She had surgery and then other treatment - probably radiotherapy, but I do not know for sure. For some time after she had a few problems like memory and speech but she made a full recovery. The problem is with things like that, and cancer, people automatically fear the worst. I know this because my mother has just been diagnosed with cancer and I couldn't help but think the worst (not least because I lost my partner last year to a similar condition). That your condition is deemed treatable is a very positive sign - they only treat these conditions with the aim of a cure. If they believed your condition was terminal they would tell you and not offer treatment. In terms of work colleagues I would be inclined to tell your immediate manager but not others, unless you want to. If you do you may wish to say that you do not believe it is life threatening but will take a lot of medical intervention and an extended recovery period. I wish you all the very best.

Answer 3

I lost a friend who had a brain tumour earlier this year.We had lost touch,and I didn't know she had died until days after her funeral.I was gutted.
With that said, I know a lady that had a brain tumour that is doing really well now.
How bad is the situation with your friend? If you can stick around, just try and be there for her, and try to let her guide you in how to treat her.Her moods will vary from day to day no doubt.
I lost contact with lots of friends when I was diagnosed with breast cancer (it will be 3 years in March) because they didn't know how to approach me.Just follow your heart, and look on cancer forums for advice and support too.Best of luck.x

Answer 4

so sorry. just be there when they need you thats the best thing and the only thing you can do. i have lost a family member to a brain tumor i know how hard it can be to see them when they get bad

Answer 5

Be there for your friend and offer support and your time. That is really all you can do.
Make sure you have some support yourself as you will find this an extremely emotional time.
I am so sorry to hear this sad news however, there are many good successful treatments out there.

Answer 6

I had a friend with brain tumor too...sometimes she just burst into tears for no reason and I had to comfort her, she appreciated it. You might see some emotional changes in her. Just be there for her and act normal, like how friends act :)

Answer 7

stay strong for her.

Is she interested in alternative health, I hear green tea is good for cancer (my mother had a growth and she drank green tea 3 times a day and the nurse done a scan and saw that it shrank)

I recommended a friend of mine to take green tea, omega three and garlic capsules to strink the tumour.

Get expert help but use those three in the meantime (especially is she has to wait to be treated)

x

Answer 8

Just be supportive, do not keep going on about it unless they discuss it first, I have a accoustic neuroma and to me it is not that serious but I get a little narked that one friend keeps asking about how I am doing all the time and 'hows your head'

Answer 9

Don said it all, just keep being a good friend and stick by them.

Answer 10

Moral support is the best or at least said a prayer