My boyfriend has made it a habit to drink every friday night to the point that he cant stand up and all he says is i only have one life, How do i get him to understand that there is more to life than alochol like his son and me?
2007-11-22 23:42:08 · 15 answers · asked by declandeone 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
Thats a hard one, Your boyfriend needs to want to quit drinking on his own, Otherwise you really can't help him....
2007-11-22 23:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leave every Friday night and come back the next day when he has sobered up or dump everything down the sink when he is not looking. Invite people over that he doesn't drink in front of cause he is scared of them.
2007-11-23 05:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by Hammer Down 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. If he is an alcoholic He won't stop until he has destroyed himself and everyone around him, who will let him drag them down with him. Tough love is the only way to handle the situation. You must take action to protect yourself and the kid. If you walk and stay away until he quits drinking for an extended period of time he might decide to clean up his act and salvage what is left of his life.
2007-11-23 02:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by ugly joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you do or say will make an alcoholic stop. When and if he is ready he will, but not a second before.
Nagging, begging, crying, threatening are all a waste of your emotion and energy. The mind of an addict will never make sense to a non addict.
I suggest that you tell him your concerns and if it is affecting your family, yours or your child's well being or your finances, leave and tell him that until he deals with his addiction you and your child cannot be a part of his life.
2007-11-23 01:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without you being aware of it because you have a strong attachment to your boyfriend, particularly the bond of his son, you are babying this guy who is too immature to ever consider your needs in his current mental state. Alcoholics are selfish people. They dwell in a mental world of excuses for all their irresponsible behavior. So!!! you want him to listen to you? Dump him! No yelling-no screaming, pack up while he is at work and leave. He is not your husband and you would be getting custody as he is a drunk. Do you work?, have $$ of your own? have parents or a place to take your son and you to start a new life? Then I would make plans for a move on your part. You will never get his attention whining and seeming clingy and weak. That makes him feel he can control you. He needs to realize that the squeaky wheel can be replaced and you are wasting your time in a drama his drunken habits have made. Unless you like poverty and sadness everyday the rest of your life, I would start the emotional closure it takes to withdraw from this guy and hopefully you have a good babysitter or a generous state child welfare system in your state. The reality of your situation is you must walk away and start a better life for yourself and your child without this drunken misfit dragging you down. He must love getting you all worked up. You aren't married to him so just see a lawyer for child support. Obtain food stamps. Plenty of wonderful times to be shared with your son in the future that you can cherish. Learn to enjoy developing your abilities to support yourself and hobbies, like reading and setting a good example for your son when you finally realize you are wasting your time with this alcoholic. If you live with him, MOVE OUT as soon as you get the money to make a clean break. Call the police if he chases you down. You can only change yourself. He can't cope with a girlfriend, he is looking for a mommy he can sleep with!!Don't spend years wasting on any alcoholic finally figuring that out. To leave will give you a sence of self worth and who knows the amount of sober people who will cross your path when you get the drinking loser out of it??Good luck to you. Many blessings.
2007-11-23 00:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by sliverofmoon2000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is only drinking Friday night ? whats the problem? is he driving? is it just one night a week? Your question is hard to understand, that there is more to life than alcohol. (he drinks one night). based upon your question, its hard to give you advise really.
2007-11-22 23:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by Winters child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drinking just one night a week isn't that bad
maybe he is drinking becoz you are nagging about his drinking
maybe he wants to break up with you and just cant face it
maybe he doesn't like you or his son
maybe he is gay and cant bear the look on your face when he tells you
maybe he has stress a work maybe you give him stress about his drinking
you should go drinking with him and see how much fun it is
2007-11-23 00:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by matzaballboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
research the effects of drinks and then make him scared in to stopping .if it doesn't work give him an ultimatum you and your son or his drink. also set up an appointment at the doctors
good luck hope it helps
2007-11-23 00:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anabel ^.^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him to stop drinking if he loves you he would stop, on the other hand maybe show him images of what alcohol do to a person after a long time of drinking
2007-11-22 23:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by johny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you join him you miserable old cow. what is wrong with a man having 1 good drink up 1 night a week.
The problem with your sort is that you think you can control someone else. You want to control what they do and what they think.
If he has any sense - he should take his one life and get the hell away from you
2007-11-22 23:55:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋